my brother is 18yrs old, he is good for noting. tell me how to improve his attitude towards the family.
2006-08-24 23:05:49 · 20 answers · asked by RASHMI S 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Instead of saying he is "good for nothing"...try building his self confidence so that he will feel pride and independence about getting a job and supporting himself
2006-08-24 23:08:33 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seems like more than him you need some suitable advice.
Am sure he is not keen about sitting at home and doing nothing, but since you and others in the family have such an opinion and do not like that, he is trying to be a rebel by acting so.
Change your attitude, ignore his activities. He is sure to turn around.
2006-08-25 08:27:42 · answer #2 · answered by 2_b_or_not_2_b 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sorry . your approach is wrong, how can you say he has good for nothing and put him in the corner . 18 is not big age just he is in his teen. You want him work and do some thing and make money totally Wong your attitude . Even if he is not trying be cool with him and guide him and tel about happening around the world .One day he will be big man then you go on praising him . so just Stop blaming give love and care
2006-08-25 10:20:21 · answer #3 · answered by mohan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call up you local Army, Navy and Marine recruiters and schedule home appointments. They will come to the house and talk to him- REALLY talk to him. One of two things will happen. A) He will pursue a career in the military or (B) He will be extremely motivated to do whatever he has to in order to stay out of the military.
2006-08-25 06:14:31 · answer #4 · answered by RomCas 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no bady is good for nothing in the age of 18 every body wants to enjoy the life and u cant force him because he will only liston to his friends so tell his friends who is working tell him to explain him that self dependent is very important and u also tell him that he will not do anything now then nobady will respect you in future give him same good examples
2006-08-25 06:15:29 · answer #5 · answered by munmun 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he is studing i advice him to concertrate his study for his bright future, if he is not study i advice him to find any job othervise, once stage came in his life when he fill his life is very borring.
so this is the batter time for do something that's benefit for him & his family
1. use your time in working & help to your family
2. you get a stand in your own life which is usefull after your marrige life when your own family will be.
3. ones you think about your life without your family & after you sitting at home, you can understand how is your position?
I just finely advice that do something in this conputation life
2006-08-25 06:29:07 · answer #6 · answered by vijay r 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have the same problem with my son only he's 28 I say we kick them and their attitudes right out the door and let them try to figure it out for themselves. They are individuals and need to take the out come of the rest of their lives on them selves. I've got my own life to worry about, don't you? Let's force them to do life!!!
2006-08-25 06:18:16 · answer #7 · answered by rockinshewolf 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think, you people have to get the blame because if he is good for nothing it's because of your pampering him from his childhood which makes him like that.
Try to find out what is taking him aback and for better, consult a psychiatrist.
2006-08-25 06:18:05 · answer #8 · answered by saumitra s 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
make him get a job as working people are happy people,and if he doesnt treat the family right kick him out and let him get a dose of reality hell come around, been thier done that
2006-08-25 06:10:54 · answer #9 · answered by JOHN H 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find what he likes more and involve him more time in that instead of sitting idle. If nothing works, write to me at cv_ragav@yahoo.com. I will do the needful.
2006-08-25 08:10:21 · answer #10 · answered by Raghu 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋