"Once a cheater, always a cheater" - would you say the above statement is true? And why?

Answer 1

I think they CAN change, but only if they want to and only if what they have at home is keeping them satisfied.
I Don't want to put the blame on the other partner, but we all have to keep our relationships alive and if they start to slip, then their partner may be tempted to wander if it's there on a plate.
Its not as cut and dried as a yes or no answer, there are a lot of things to consider.

Answer 2

No, I wouldn't say that it's true. First of all, someone who cheated on their partner/lover/spouse likely had a reason to do it, maybe because they weren't happy, they needed more physical contact, etc.. If they get divorced and get with someone else who makes them happy or provided whatever they didn't have in their last marriage or relationship, they have a good chance of not doing it again. There are people out there who cheat just to cheat, and that is where this statement would be true. It just has to do with the situation and the circumstances surrounding it.

Answer 3

This is so not true! I made the biggest mistake of my life when I was 18. I was in a big depression. My boyfriend and I moved 100 miles away from all of our family and we had no vehicle. I had a lot of family problems over the years and basically had no self-esteem. A man came on to me that I thought was extremely good looking and he gave me a motorcycle ride back to his place. Well, you know what happened from there. Regret, more bad self-esteem and what the hell was I thinking! Before I cheated I thought, "I can't believe a guy this good looking wants to have anything to do with me!" When it was all over, I told my boyfriend the same night I got home. I was so remorseful and I asked him to leave because he didn't deserve to be with a retch like me. I got about 20 miles out of town and called him back bawling. I am so glad I went crawling back! We have been married for 10 years next year and have three beautiful children together.
So to answer your question...yes people do things they regret, but cheating has a lot of factors. My factor happened to be low self-esteem. I'm so glad my husband gave me one more chance.

Answer 4

Thru personal experience I can say that people do change. My bf was having a double relationship with his kid's mother and me (we have a daughter). He would tell me he had to be at her house to babysit (his kids are now adults but at the time were young teens) etc. She found out about me and went nuts. We stopped seeing each other because he was scared of her.(She's totally violent and into a lot of shady things that would intimidate anyone)

A year later, we ran in to each other on the street (totally coincidental) and he had grown up a lot. Now, 3 years later, both kids are adults and he has nothing to do with her. There is a ring on my finger and a date set.

I know he is not sneaking around because he is ALWAYS with me, like a leech stuck to my neck...no, seriously, people can change if they mature and really love you and want to make it work. Good luck!

Answer 5

Not necessarily true. People sometimes act out of character, an ordinarily loyal person could cheat once because of certain circumstances at that time, but never do it again. At the same time, someone who's cheated in every relationship they've ever had, could become loyal when they finally find someone they really love and a relationship they really value.

Unfortunately, relationships aren't an exact science so you can never really predict if someone will cheat or not, regardless of their previous behaviour!

Answer 6

Hello Zoe,

I would say once a person has cheated they are more likely to cheat again. Because if they have been able to justifie in their own mind the cruelty to their spouse or partner once, they may be able to do it again. Or perhaps they don't even think about the effect of their cheating on their partner because they are A MORAL.

I also would like to add that i don't know how people could ever trust a partner again that had cheated on them. This must be very hard. If i was in that situation i doubt i could ever trust the other person again. It would be unbearable.

Perhaps when people do cheat its because they can't empathise? I do agree with the person above me who says we are all capable of cheating . I think thats true we are. But are we all willing to knowingly hurt others just for a bit of huffing and puffing?

I also agree with the person above me, that if you do cheat on someone then that massive part must be lost forever. (the best of them) very deep innit i might vote for them

Answer 7

I don't think its true, anyone is capable of cheating whether they have done it before or not, it really depends on the person you're with and how much you feel for them, how secure you feel and the temptation put in front of you. I've cheated before and can honestly say that it really taught me some valuable lessons mainly that by cheating you end up losing the biggest out of anybody.

Answer 8

Yes. Leopards can't change their spots. Cant teach an old dog new tricks. Once a liar always a liar. You get the idea.

Because if you cheat on someone then you dont hold any regards for their feeling always their own satisfaction comes first. I think trying not to be selfish is hard to change. Although i would love to be proved wrong.

Answer 9

No.There is an element of cheating in anybody.Nobody is 100 percent honest.A harmless cheating at least once would have doneby all in their life time.But donot take cheating a policy or business.Try to be honest as far as possible.

Answer 10

yes,it is true once a cheater always a cheater,cause they got away with it the first time,and more than likely they lied to get out of it.Their ego was inflated so they know they can do it again,again, and again.