I have recently met someone I believe is my soulmate but the whole situation is complicated. I've been in a relationship for going on 2 years and we have a 5 month old son together, however it is very likely I would have left him last year (he got caught cheating),but agreed to try.I really don't want to hurt my son's father but at the same time I need to know without any doubts
2006-08-24 22:40:53 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
At the end of the day your sons father cheated on you - if you feel this other person is your soul mate then you owe it to yourself to give it a go - you only live once
2006-08-24 22:43:15 · answer #1 · answered by boo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How recently did you meet this person? Could you just be on the rebound since you found out that your bf was cheating? Give it some time and don't regret any decision or action you make! You really have to search out some answers for yourself and for the sake of your child. Since you have a child, you should do everything you can in the best interest of your son! I know this sounds mean, but I know so many mothers that are selfish and do not let their children have a relationship with their father because of selfish reasons. Since he has cheated, that puts a whole new spin on it because now you've lost trust and it is going to take a long time for him to rebuild that. If you think he is truly sorry, I think you should give him more time. You have a child together and it might be worth working it out. If he cheats again, it's over. You won't be happy knowing you can't trust him. But if he is a good father, let him see his son. Know that you will have to have contact with him all your son's life if you want him to know who is father is. Son's need their fathers for direction and purpose. Maybe you could explain that to your boyfriend and tell him to wise up and get serious about your relationship because he is a father now and you two CAN work it out if you really choose to. Being a new father might put some strain on him too. When our first child was born, my husband went through a long period of regressing into being a teenager! People do not have "soul mates". There are people that are great for each other, but ultimately, it takes two to build a relationship and it takes a commitment to love and cherish each other to keep the relationship alive. Good luck to you and I hope you make the right decision and don't rush into anything you may regret later.
2006-08-25 05:54:09 · answer #2 · answered by mom_of_geniuses 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A relationship for 2 yrs...do you live together? and you have a child out of this out of wedlock...oh but a tangled MESS you're in.
You need to do what is necessary. Communicate to your boyfriend that you're unhappy and tell him what is lacking in your relationship.
Before you step into the frying pan into a HOT fire...you must learn to love YOU. You also sound like you have a very low self-esteem and opinion of yourself. The very idea of jumping into a NEW relationship (soul-mate---or not)...is risky.
I would say. if you can survive 1 yr without a MAN in your life...and learn to be independant, self sufficient....and not depend on a MAN to make you happy, support you emotionally as well as financially and if you can do with out the HELP for 1 year. this includes SEX too....(sorry)-------(it's bad enough that you have brought a 5 month old baby into your equation of messes)---then and only then will you know that the 2 yr relationship should be ended.....and you'll be free to SOUL-mate surf!
2006-08-25 05:50:01 · answer #3 · answered by aunt_beeaa 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At least break up with your boyfriend first. Did you call him your son's father rather than your boyfriend on purpose?
You are now setting an example for your little man, choose your actions very wisely.
2006-08-25 05:47:07 · answer #4 · answered by kimberly b 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
staying together in a bad relationship for the sake of a child is a bad situation, and not good for the child either. Move on!
2006-08-25 05:49:10 · answer #5 · answered by Anarchy99 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You say you need to know.... to know what? That you can also cheat? Why don't you end the relationship and start fresh. It's so stupid for people to think that they "need" someone else to make them realize one relationship is over or no good.
2006-08-25 05:44:02 · answer #6 · answered by Private Account 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
give urself some time and see how things will shape. ur son is a great responsibility, but if u r unlucky in this relationship, it'll affect all three of u.
2006-08-25 05:46:31 · answer #7 · answered by Lana 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to be sure before making any move . If he is cheating and would not stop u have to leave him , for ur son's sake.
2006-08-25 05:46:50 · answer #8 · answered by Moon_light1985 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
once a cheater always a cheater i would see what this new guy has to offer do not let the baby keep you from having a loving relationship because if you are unhappy the baby will be too
2006-08-25 05:47:17 · answer #9 · answered by janet 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to ditch your son's father - he sounds like a jerk. If someone else treats you better, then go for it.
2006-08-25 05:43:14 · answer #10 · answered by Catmmo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋