Me an my bf have been 2gethr 4 bout 2 years. He recently told me dat he is in love with his female best frend an has made love 2 her. Why did this happen?
She told him dat she dosnt wanna be wit him. Wat should i do?
2006-08-24 22:33:23 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
i asked this quest b4 but feel da new info changes tings a bit
2006-08-24 22:41:19 · update #1
So much drama these days... I know how you feel. That's actually happened to me once. Well, not exactly that situation, but something similar to it (someone I thought I loved loved someone else). I know... that it may be hard to let go of someone you love with all your heart, but if you stay with him, it'll only prolong the pain&heartbreak. He's already shown that he no longer cares for you, cheated on you, and declared his love for HER... it seems like he's not worth your time anymore.
Why did this happen? Perhaps he felt you were drifting apart... or that he did not know of his strong feelings towards this woman and only recently realized them after you had already been in a relationship. The best thing to do now it to move on, because he seems to have already.
She doesn't want to be with him... but if he doesn't love you as much as you love him, you should just leave him. You deserve better than to be second choice. I may not know you very much, or at all really, but... I know ANYONE deserves better than to be the "back-up" plan. If I were you, and he came "crawling back" to me, I'd slap him and send him back all his crap.
But that's just me. Maybe if you feel that you can still forgive him, and truly believe that he'll be dedicated to you, then perhaps give him a second chance. Personally, I wouldn't.
Leave him before he leaves you broken.
Hopefully this helps you.
2006-08-24 23:56:36 · answer #1 · answered by Zyxxin 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well Kyle..your bf has totally destroyed any trust you had in him..so you can try and hold this relationship together but I don't think that you can maintain a relationship with no trust...His gf doesn't want him either. The fact that he is bisexual has nothing to do with it..He was your bf and now he has not only lied to you he has also told you that he doesn't want you(he's in love with her)..I'd say move on..you can do better than this...You sound like a nice guy...you can do far better than this..you should never have to play second to anyone else..It's painful I know, but it's time to move on.
2006-08-25 05:39:28 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It might not be the fact that she is a woman, but probably just after spending so much time together he started to have feelings for her. I think he cheated. If you can forgive him for that, then take him back, but you guys need to talk about the fact that he cheated and how you guys can change what's missing in your relationship now for him to go as far as cheating. Good Luck.
2006-08-31 19:13:16 · answer #3 · answered by DispatchGirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well let me give you some advice from the other side. See at one time I was very confused too and I was married and I thought I could give up all those feelings about guys, but see even though I didn't cheat on my wife it still affected my marriage, and my wife wound up cheating on me. See and I wanted to forgive her, and even when we got seperated, I was still trying to get her back. Ok so now let me show you how when someone who is in this mind frame(like your boyfriend is) you need to let go. Ok see when I thought I was over her, I started to date this guy, and he really liked me and I though I like him. Now we weren't together for two years but it was close to a year when my wife(we were'nt divorced yet) contacted me and told me she missed me. So I met with her and her and I slept together. Well I told the guy I was dating and he was devastated, but he wanted to forgive me and try to have me back, and I can tell you right now I wasn't going back to him, even though she rejected me, becuase at that time I was too screwed up in the head. I had to truly find myself and come to terms who I am and what I want and that took almost two years...I mean I just divorced my wife 6 months ago and that all went down years ago. So it sounds like this guy is not ready yet to find himself and take it from me bro he isn't going to change anytime soon.
2006-08-31 18:57:36 · answer #4 · answered by lovebfasd 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to stay away from him cause he is soo confused with his sexuality and doesn't know what to do, so he is trying everything out, like that one Mariah Carey song, "butterfly" "if you should return to me then we were meant to be"
2006-08-25 05:41:00 · answer #5 · answered by Danielle 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Somebody is lying. He just threw away any trust you might have had in him. You can either forgive him or show him the door.
2006-08-29 05:11:48 · answer #6 · answered by reme_1 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
like i said in the previous.. i know how it feels it has happened to me.. if you want someone to talk to...im a good listener.. my SN for yahoo is my name on here so drop me a line if ya wanna talk.. im always accepting new friends.. just wish i had the answers for ya..
take care,,
2006-08-31 03:11:50 · answer #7 · answered by fallen_goth_boi 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is his issue to deal with . Meantime you have to deal with someone who has cheated on you regardless of the sex of the person your bf is cheating with.
2006-08-25 10:30:40 · answer #8 · answered by sstooc2001 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do you have a literacy problem?? Why is every word in your question condensed? This is a question/answer forum..you're not text messaging one of your friends. Thanks for the headache!!
2006-08-25 16:44:57 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you still love him tell him how unhappy he is making you. give him an ultamatim either he chooses you or the other girl.
2006-08-31 11:44:01 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋