Am I turning gay?

Question

I am thinking of lesbian sex alot. Every since this girl started flirting with me, i have been wanting to do her. She pushes her chest out and drops stuff to bend over when she talks to me and she sounds sweet, but she has a boyfriend! Why is she teasing me? What should i do ?

Also I want to have many girlfriends as many as i can handle... not to be a cheat but for the company and then find the lucky girl.

I dont know why. i wasnt born this way because i still love men and just really getting these feelings. I think i could be bi one day and i want to find women to meet with now in my local area. I want a certain type of woman and i just dont know what friendly community i can go to and be a part of. I want to meet friends i can talk to and then meet up for lunch every now and then and do something. I dont just want sex. this is exciting to me and i want some advice. i dont even know what my real question is.. i think i just need some encouraging advice. this is a big step!

I dont intend to be in the closet so what should I expect in life?

I think i can be bi, or is it true that once I go gay that way you will stay.

oh im sorry .. im a female.. lesbians are turning me on..

i should also mention that she works with me. ... and now Im thinking about what the poster said about people who try to 'break you' what if she is just testing me to expose my vulnerable gay sexual feelings?!

Answer 1

homosexuality is one of the stages in life. In most cases, this happens during childhood. Many go past this stage so they become real man and real woman. Many remain in that stage so they are the gays of today. However, one may go back to this stage in life even if he/she thinks he/she is straight. That's the reason why you are feeling this way now and why you are asking this question.

The reason why that girl seems to be teasing you is that she detects the emotion you are in right now or may be she has the same emotion.

Answer 2

first to crisantom, homoexuality is not a stage in stage. Where do you get your information? Get outta here. Don't pass out info like that. What a jerk.
To the asker, you have considered yourself straight all this time because the right moment never came to you before to question your feelings. Most of us grow up thinking we are straight. Some kids know they are gay/lesbian when they're quite young but can't act on it. Some of us take a lot longer to figure it out or we try to repress it. If you are seriously interested in emotional/sexual intimacy with another woman, you are probably bi. Check out some clubs and groups. Call the gay center and get info. Be honest with lesbians - that you also like men -because most of us don't like the idea that you might go back to men. It's an intimacy factor and also a health factor. Personally I would never sleep with a woman who had recently (10 years) slept with a man. STDs and also I couldn't be sure she was really into women. So be careful and be honest. Also be very very careful about messing with someone at work. If it gets messy, it wil get really messy with another woman. lol

Answer 3

First of all, not gay. Gay women don't like men sexually. What you're discoverring is that you're bisexual. If you want to meet women who like women pick up the alternative paper in your city. The one that has outraged articles about how tax money is being spent inappropriately and woman seeking woman ads in the back. Usually the gay community in any city will advertise events in small independant and liberal papaers like these and if you can't find anything like going on in the communty you can still look at singles ads for young bi girls. If all else fails and you live in one of those very square very Red states where The Gays aren't allowed to publish you can use friendster or collarme.com or OKCupid to find bi or lesbian girls locally and contact them. Even if they aren't what you're looking for chances are they'll know where the gay club in your town is.

Answer 4

i was found out intentionally. i know what you are going through. i am a gay male though. not to sound harsh but, lesbians are more accepted than gay men. this girl is probably wondering about your desires. she may be a hater who is trying to make you break. look out for those people. it also depends on your local community and family. i am from a small community in a rural area and most people didn't accept it. you don't become gay. people are born with their sexuality. i tried the straight life just to please everybody but, my pleasure is what matters, not what others' opinions are. good luck. you are either bi or bi-curious.

Answer 5

Go to true.com i think that if those feeling are just coming out, your probably bi and just don't know how to go about it. If you picture your self with another women and really feel that you would enjoy the company of a women or even the idea, then your def bi. we could be friends if you like.

Answer 6

People don't just turn gay..it's not like turning on a light switch..you are, in my feelings, bisexual at the very least. I'm a gay male..you probably should be getting your advice from a lesbian.

Answer 7

You don't say if you're male or female. *Shrugs* does it mater? You'll do whatever it is you want anyway, and maybe this woman is bi and is looking for a 3 some.

I'd like to point out that every couple that has gone down the road of multiple partners has destroyed the relationship

Answer 8

If she interests you, go along. She could be a bi if she has a bf. Just try your luck gently.

Answer 9

i have similar feelings for women

Answer 10

you are turning... it will take a few more months.