I don't think I was wrong, you be the judge...?

Question

A conversation with my boyfriend as follows:

Him: You ready to get my name tattoo'd on your body?
Me: Nah-uh
Him: Say word? You won't? I want to get your name on my chest.
Me: I wouldnt want you to.
Him: Wow. (Silence)
Me: I dont know it just seems like everyone I know that got their mates name tattoo'd on them, broke up within a week thereafter. I think it's some kinda jinx.
Him: Wow, you just shot me down completely.
Me: Are you saying you were dead serious about this? You know damn well you wouldnt do something like that, lol.
Him: I'm dead serious, I'd do it because I love you that much, and even if we did god forbid fall apart, You'll always be with me forever, vice versa. I never asked anyone to do this before and you know I have 3 tatt's already. Wow. (More silence)
Me: I'm not against the concept baby, but like I said I felt it was a jinx. I didnt mean to shoot you down or anything. END OF CONVO.

This really bothered him. He really seemed hurt. Was I wrong??

Answer 1

Just tell him you don't want any more and he'll get over it.

Answer 2

Not at all. In fact I totally agree with you. Every person I know that has gotten someones name tatted on themselves has broken up!! I agree that it is a jinx. If anything I think he was wrong by making you feel bad for voicing your opinions/concerns. i can see how he thinks that it wouldn't matter if you broke up--but think about it this way...what if for some reason you did end up breaking up? His next girlfriend would have to stare at your name!! That wouldn't be a comfortable situation (and same with you). I say stick to your beliefs...tattoos are permanent and sometimes relationships are not.
For a compromise you can always get something that is a symbol of you two...such as a piece of art you two love or something that reminds him of you, etc....that way there is no name but there will always be the memory.

Answer 3

We are living in a world of a precariously divorce rate. It seems pretty easy to sign the papers and end a legally recognized union. In light of that, I think getting a tattoo of even a spouse’s name is risky…let alone a boyfriend/girlfriend. If he wants a show of commitment, then do something less permanent…like getting married.

Answer 4

No you are not wrong....it is a jinx ...and you tell him ......Well I obviously love being with you more than some damn tattoo because I don't want to get something that might possibly jinx and tear our relationship apart but you do ...and you would rather have some f ucking ink on your arm with my name ...than to actually have me here with you . Then suggest to him that if he wants to ...if you guys ever do break up he can still get his silly a ss tattoo...since he wants to use that as something to remember you by...he can remember you all he wants too after you leave his stupid a ss...and yeah I'm sure he is walking around ticked off because he was hoping that you would be a sucker enough to BRAND you precious body with his f ucking name . Please ...he needs to get the f uck over himself !!!!!!!!!!

Answer 5

I agree with you. Once upon a time I seriously considered getting my ex's name tattoed on me, now I'm sooo glad I didn't. It's not a question of love, I love him still, and it sounds you love your guy too but that doesn't mean you have to ink his name into your skin. Maybe you should get fake ones and then see what happens. Maybe you'll like seeing your name on his body.

Answer 6

I think you were right... I've been married for 5 years and I still wouldn't get his name on me... I love him but if we were ever to part it would be hurtful to have him on my body w/o him being w/ me and there's also the explaining if you were to start dating somebody... I don't know if you are jinx'd after it but I'm supersticious and if that's what you believe then you really must be true to it and follow it.

Answer 7

well baby there is nothing u can do about it
it is ur will to tattoo his name on ur chest
if u want it then u can have it
but he seems like he wants u to tattoo his name on ur chest
if he is hurt i bet there is thing u can do to make it up to him
loving one person does not need to tattoo their name on ur chest if u really break up and u got another new boyfriend what would he think
juz do what u like and not what he likes
u do not need to please him all the time

Answer 8

I think you were completely right!

The thing is, he probably feels insecure that you aren't confident enough in your relationship to get it done. From what I figure, that's not the case, you seem happy enough with him - and even though I'm not superstitious, I think it can be a bit of a jinx.

Thing is, what he's saying also about having your name tattooed on him and that way you being with him forever is fair enough - but what if you do break up - does he realise how much it bothers people to be with someone who has some ex- partner's name tattooed on them?? I'd hate it.

Me and my bf have compromised, and I'm going to get the tattoo of his choice (Pegasus - the flying horse), and he's going to get the one of my choice (a Chinese love symbol).

That way they are meaningful, but without being "branded" with each other's names. Why don't you suggest that idea to him??

I hope I helped.

Answer 9

His point is common, however, your point is just as common. The "break-up" usually follows the name tattoos. I would never do it again, cover-ups are often large and dark.

Answer 10

my boyfriend told asked me the same thing and I said no, i will never get someone name tattooed on my and i have 4 already i think it's a jinx to and if you break up you live with that forever, and you live with having to explain that name to every person you meet. he shouldn't be mad he should respect your decision and he should be asking you to marry him before he asks for a tattoo because at least then there is a long term commitment.

Answer 11

No I don't think you was wrong you do what ever you want to do with your body. you can sell it, you can cut it to pieces if you like. This is your body.