I just found out my partner has been cheating on me with his EX!! The lying weasel has been seeing her for two months now and yet still deny's it... except i know alot of people who have seen him out with her and her baby (it not his child!!)
I know i should leave him but the heart is a powerful thing ladies and i dont have a clue how to handle this.... do i go in yelling at him and throw him out or do i play Miss Powerful and get revenge?
2006-08-24 21:17:42 · 54 answers · asked by angel jay 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
leave him and teach him a lesson.
2006-08-24 21:18:53 · answer #1 · answered by yogesh 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been in the exact same position and everyone told me I should leave him but I stayed with him because I loved him and thought we could work it out. I was SO wrong!
He has been lying to you and sleeping with someone else! If it had been drunken one off then you could beleive it was a mistake, but if he has actaully been seeing her for 2 months then he is fully aware of what he is doing. He knew that he could loose you over this and yet he still carried on, doesn't this show you how much he really cares?
You need to break up with him and tell him you don't want anything more to do with him. If you finish with him and then end up taking him back the chances are that he is going to make a fool out of you. Walk away now while you still have your dignity! Don't try and seek revenge because then you are lowering yourself to their level. Don't let them turn you into a bad person. The best revenge you can get is by letting them know that they're welcome to eachother, holding your head up high, and proving that you don't need that 2 timing pig to make you happy! Once he sees you looking good with a new guy on your arm then he'll realise what a complete idiot he is!
Why should you settle for someone like him? You deserve much better and there are lots of nice men out their who will treat you right! You should thank that b**** for showing you what your boyfriend was really like! Good luck! xx
2006-08-24 21:38:11 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The heart is a powerful thing for men too. He obviously cares about her to even consider going back to her seeing as how she has another mans child. What I would like to see the entire world do, would be to stop having premarital sex, get to know someone first, and then either marry them or continue the search. That way cheating would not be an issue.
In your particular case, who really cares? Both of you are just humping anyway. Sorry, but that is how I see it. It will not be any different or better with the next guy who puts a notch on your bedpost.
2006-08-24 21:22:32 · answer #3 · answered by InternetPosterChild 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Don't bother getting revenge, just leave him. Take the adult approach and get on with your life without him. If he's cheated once and you forgave him, he'll think he can do it again and you'll let him off again. Plus, he might only have been with her, but there's the chance there may be other women too.... and the chances are he could pass something nasty onto you.
You don't need a lying a-hole in your life, find someone who deserves you.
2006-08-24 21:21:46 · answer #4 · answered by Emily 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, you stay calm! Do not show him how distraught you are, but at the same time he can't think that you have accepted what he has been doing.
Secondly, you calmly tell him that you need time to think about your life and that you need a few weeks apart. Remember it is not about him any more it is about you!
Thirdly, While he is away, find out what he has been up to during your absence, you then will see him for who he really is - by the time you two meet to discuss your "relationship" you won't want him back!
Good luck!
2006-08-24 21:26:54 · answer #5 · answered by SNVL 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cool and calm wins out in the end, you keep your dignity and pride and he will be amazed at your mature approach. Dont let other people tell you what to do, its easy for other people to say 'dump him' but its your life. Tell him you know and see what he has to say for himself then take it from there. Do whats in your heart, if you find you cant leave him then decide if you can forgive him and believe him when he says he will end it. You have the power here, remember that and its up to YOU. When you confront him you will know better about what to do. I am truly sorry, i couldnt forgive my ex for cheating because i knew it would eat me up but my friend did and they are now happy. There are no rules, its up to you x
2006-08-24 21:50:27 · answer #6 · answered by ducky 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2006-08-24 21:25:18 · answer #7 · answered by eriberri1190 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cry it out to release all hatred, that was i did and now thank GOD I totally forget him and even I see him, I felt nothing but grateful away from hell!Show him that you are worth and if you still love him, try to make things out!Or evaluate your relationship, maybe you must do something about your personality to keep him just for yopu or he is looking for other girls with greater personality than you!But if that situation is worst, dump him and get other guy more deserving than him or more cuter than him!Display your new BF infront of him and laugh!
2006-08-24 21:25:14 · answer #8 · answered by Bruno 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's really no point in yelling at him, it would only justify in his mind that there was a reason to cheat. And don't get revenge, there's really no point, it can't really do anyone any good. All you can do is leave him and look elsewhere. Don't dwell on it. And, don't take him back.
2006-08-24 21:20:53 · answer #9 · answered by sfinn72 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you could always go for the best friend trick. I don't know, seems like a really mean thing to do. Maybe it will work for you.
I think the coolest thing to do is just up and leave. If you do something too mean, he's likely to try to do something BACK again and that's just draining. Who needs that crap.
2006-08-24 21:25:46 · answer #10 · answered by Sir Sandwich Slayer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Think about it. He's cheating on you. He disrespects you & your relationship with him with lies. The fact that he is cheating means that he doesn't love you any more. So why does he stay with you also & continue with the lies? ..Because it boosts his ego to know that he has 2 women. Also he is using you!
I say leave his sorry *** & get someone else.. & remember..
Revenge is a dish best served cold!
2006-08-24 21:27:08 · answer #11 · answered by Claude 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋