im going crazy please help me?

Question

i have a husband of 9 years and he just recently move to arizona to open a business he said that once everything was situated that he was going to come back for me and my son and i believed him i love him so so much he means the world to me i dont know what went wrong he says that hes living his dream and he wants to start off fresh .and he now says he doesnt know what he wants .and he says he doesnt know if he wants me and my son out there with him my baby is only 3 years old and he ask me about his dad everyday and i dont know what to say i never thought he had any intensions of not taking me and my son with him i love this man so much this is devistating how can u jump from one day to another and just not give a **** about your family when i talk on the phone with him it doesnt sound like im talking with the same person i knew before he left its been 3 months since hes left and everytime he calls he just ask to speak with his son what went wrong i feel so lost i never saw this comin

Answer 1

I am so sorry. That is heartbreaking. As a husband and a father I could not imagine life without my family. Take care of your son. This guy obviously has some issues he needs to work out. Seems he got a little taste of single life and now he thinks he is 18 again.
Hang in there. Things will turn around--With or without him.
I would not recommend you chasing him down. You should protect yourself and your son legally and focus on building your life and taking care of yourself. If he says he doesnt want to be with your--seeing him with someone else is like putting salt on the wounds. Put that energy to work for you and your son.

Answer 2

Your husband might have a finacial problem or distressed in or about a matter? You can get his friends to help you and give you imformation about what happened or what's wrong with him. If not you can try getting someone that is closer to him to ask what's wrong so that you and your family or other people are able to help you and your family through this situation. But you got to be careful of what you say to him as he might be stressed or what. But if he really has a woman there, contact him and tell him that you don't really need him anymore; So that this would give him some time to think about his son, family and years of marriage he had with you. Everyone would cherish a thing after a long time. But do not really panic. You must first understand what went wrong. You must first find out.

Answer 3

Because your sorry a$$ husband got out there im sure with good intentions and got lonely and started havinga affair and now he is confused and dont know what he wants!He either wants to start a whole new life now he has this girl and just wants you and the kids to disapear,or he just wants to play games have her till he gets his belly full then send for you,cause he knows your his wife and you have kids and your not going no where,your going to be waiting on him hand and foot!But if i was you id fool his a$$!Id take the kids to a family members house and id take me a little trip right to his house and id wait till it was late then i just would walk right up to the door and walk on in and im sure you will see with your own eyes what he is up to.Its your husband and you got the right to check up on him i would and i wouldnt think twice about it!!Better yet take the kids with you and get a motel stay around about a week im sure it wouldnt take 2 days to catch him then id walk right up to him when he was with his lover and i would hand him the kids and go when are you coming home you forget your married and you have kids right in front of his lover cause i wouldnt doubt it a bit that she doesnt even know he is married and has kids she would leave him right then and there then id leave him standing there with his mouth opened wide and go see ya in court and ill make damn sure i leave you with nothing!!I think he is pretty sorry for a husband he has abanded you and your kids but id almost bet on my life he is with another women cmon 3 months yea he def is!!I wish ya luck!

Answer 4

I really hate to say it because you are hurting right now but it sounds to me that your Husband has abandoned his Family for another woman when you talk to him again suggest that you and your son come to Az. for a visit and see what his reaction is and if its what I think its going to be then it is best for you to start thinking about your little man and yourself and let him do his thing but remember KARMA is a b***h.

Answer 5

i guess your really hurting and this yahoo answers probbably wasnt the best thing to ask at such a time of heart break because honestly it sounds like he has met someone else and is living his life again,the best thing you can do with your son is when he asks about his daddy get him to draw him pictures for hima nd write cards,and you can send them off,you need to move on and dont give in any more to your husbund he has made his choice now you be strong and get on with your life,the right man is out there for you

Answer 6

FIRST I MUST SAY NOT EVERY MAN IS CUT OUT TO BE A DADDY. ANY MAN CAN MAKE A BABY, BUT IT TAKE A REAL MAN TO BE A DADDY!! I ALSO BELIEVE THAT A STRONG WOMAN CAN BE HER BABY'S MOMMY AND DADDY. ABOUT YOUR HUSBAND LEAVING YOU....".SOMETIMES WE TRY TO HOLD ON TO THE THINGS THAT GOD HIMSELF ARE TRYING TO BREAK UP". YOU NEED TO REMEMBER THAT YOUR CHILD NEEDS YOU MORE THAN EVER SINCE HIS FATHER CAN'T OR WON'T BE THERE FOR HIM. THE NEXT TIME YOUR BABY ASKS YOU WHERE HIS DADDY IS, TELL HIM BABY I AM YOUR MOTHER AND FATHER AND AS LONG AS YOU HAVE ME YOU WILL BE OKAY. I BELIEVE THAT WOMEN TODAY HAVE TO BE STRONGER THAN EVER. EVERY DAY A MAN IS WALKING OUT AND LEAVING HIS RESPONSIBILITIES BEHIND. THAT'S WHERE THE NEED FOR STRONG WOMEN COMES FROM. DON'T EVER LET A MAN THINK THAT YOU CAN'T SURVIVE ON YOUR OWN. YOU CAN!! TRY IT OUT. SHOW HIM THAT HE IS NOT NEEDED. I KNOW YOU LOVE HIM, BUT LOVE HAS TO TAKE THE BACK SEAT WHEN A CHILD IS INVOLVED. GOOD LUCK AND KEEP YOUR HEAD UP.

Answer 7

Sounds like he left for another woman. Can you leave your son with someone and travel down to Arizona to see for yourself? He is probably just wanting you to go away. I can understand how frustrated you must be. God bless you.

Answer 8

this is a result of loose strings friend, a situation , very alarming,
do not delay any more , immediately sift u r self and u r son to the place u r husband is working, u r on verge of loosing him for ever , a reunion may work, take a chance though its bleak!!!

Answer 9

start a new life. stop pining for someone who doesn't give a damn about you. pick up the pieces and move on. realise that he never loved you in the first place. end of discussion.

Answer 10

if i were you i'd go out there and see whats really going on. sounds like he's seeing someone else to me.