I guess they call it Social Anxiety Disorder these days, but it is just shyness to me. I am always afraid and downright shaking in social situations, so I just sort of hide in a corner. I have heard that people think I am a snob because of this. Does this happen to any of you? Is your shyness interpreted as snobbiness? Do people badmouth you because of it?
2006-08-24 20:59:36 · 15 answers · asked by Nikki Tesla 6 in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
i used to be but then said to heck with it,, if that is your pic you are very cute, if people think you are a snob then it means that they think you are cute and you know it, i didnt even want to go out to eat by myself because i was shy,, now i am an out spoken person,, took some time but i made it,, you can to,,you are a very smart person that has her own ideals and that is just cool in itself
2006-08-25 12:40:07 · answer #1 · answered by scottfamilytribe 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I do have the same problem but it's more about me being quiet and looking kinda serious in social situations than being shy. In my teens, I was totally unaware of this until most of my friends told me that they thought I was really stuck up and conceited when they first met me. I was shocked! lol I knew I wasn't the most outgoing out there but I didn't think it was that bad. I started feeling very self conscious about it, and thought that every look in my direction was just evil.
So I made the conscious effort to try and smile as much as possible even when I didnt feel like it or didn't know what to say. I just ended up feeling like an idiot, because I thought of it as being unfair that I had to work twice as hard for people to like me.
Now, well into my twenties I don't care as much, I smile when I feel like it, talk when I do and don't put too much importance on it and guess what? I;m so much happier, some people might not like me off the bat, but some people do and they are the ones I want to be friends with so, too bad for the judgemental ones! I do get the occasional " oh, you're so not how I thought you would be" but I got used to it and now it makes me smile rather than sad.
Get on with your life, don't care too much about what others think, and just enjoy life ok?
2006-08-25 04:42:48 · answer #2 · answered by Jmyooooh 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Many years ago women were meant to be shy, show they were. It was the norm. Extrovert female got a bad name for being just that. Now things are different and i guess in this world, it's all about demanding, grabbing, showing you're there, there's a lot of rivalry out there and sadly some people who are actually very shy find themselves a minority.
In Britain you would be known as stand-offish not a snub! But then some people would find you attractive in the sense that you are different! My son fell in love with his g/f precisely because she's shy and doesn't act as most girls he knew before her! She's a lovely girl and i look upon her as my other daughter! So don't let people put you off! You are what you are and don't worry about it! My son's g/f.s past worrying! They're getting engaged on Christmas eve with my blessing! I'm delighted. She's such a lovely girl.
2006-08-25 04:44:21 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes I agree,,,,this happens to me too. Iv learnt to deal with it now. Now I make a point to be more open and talkative. I guess if u a serious look to your face (meaning u look kinda serious, when ur not even trying to) then people think ur being snobby and ignoring them. And all this time u don even realise wht the hell they r on about. So now I also smile a bit more. (unlike my pic here...lol) Hope tht helps u ..
2006-08-25 04:05:45 · answer #4 · answered by Sonny 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They most definitely confuse your shyness with snobbishness. I was like you until I got into my 30's and many times people would tell me - after they got to know me - that they had thought I was a snob when we first met.
2006-08-25 04:15:05 · answer #5 · answered by honeybucket 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm a very quiet person and have always been accused of being shy because of it. There's a difference tho. Just like the difference between shy and snobby.
2006-08-25 04:06:00 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think that sometimes wen people are shy the other person thinks u might be snobby cuz they dont get to see the real u so i wuld just recommend opening up to people so they can get to know u and they probably wont think ur a snob
2006-08-25 04:05:33 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm the same way. I think it's a first impression response. I would probably think the same thing about someone even though I understand it. YOu don't really know someone until you start talking to them. It's just a misinterpretation on other people's part. That, unfortunately is human nature.
2006-08-25 04:07:47 · answer #8 · answered by First Lady 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh yea, sweetie...I was VERY shy in my high school daze...after I graduated....I heard that alot of people thought I was a snob!!! I couldn't believe it...!! ( I also had bad vision, and would'nt wear my glasses, so I didn't see the people waving to me at the end of the hall.....*sigh*. So, appearently, I was a real snob in school! LOL
2006-08-25 23:05:22 · answer #9 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Shame man, I dont suffer from this problem, but I know someone who does and yes she gets this all the time. One thing Ive learned is its human nature for people to be judgmental.
You should work on this problem, I know its not easy... but borrow someone elses stregnth of confidence until it becomes your own.
Life is full of oppotunities - imagine how many you have missed out on.
Stop thinking what other people think - they are meaningless in your life!!
2006-08-25 04:09:11 · answer #10 · answered by zzz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋