why do i pretend?

Question

that im happy and content when im actually very lonely!

Answer 1

I have been there, believe me. The problem with lonliness and the feelings it creates is that it's a never ending circle. The more lonely you get the less able you are to socialize with people and make them think that you are cool and want to hang out with you, so the more lonely you are. Thing is, maybe you should try to take things less seriously when you are hanging out with people. Try to forget about your lonliness and loosen up and have fun. Then other people will see that you are a great person and want to spend more time with you, and then you won't be so lonely. I hope that works for you, and I am sorry that you feel lonely right now.

Answer 2

Because the good in you prompts you to be happy so that others can follow suit. Instead of pretending, now think keeping yourself happy. Feeling lonely is not a physical state but a state of mind. Go on pouring some good questions to your friends on this forum and you would find, pretentions are no more needed.
But it is surprising that you are a model, love music and making friends, and still lonely!

Answer 3

It's your job to pretend, Sher, and you're good at your job so....:-) Also, a person with your talents and attributes are not just rare, but very rare, finding friends on an equal footing is very very hard. Especially real friends, finding that 'Soul Mate,' even harder. Aren't I encouraging, eh. It's the price of being both beautiful and smart Sher, but I'll be your friend all the way. Love ya..

But I'm with SuperHero above, but I think the best answer you've gotten is on the first page, so here it is again: 'HUG' I'll better it, "HUG HUG HUG.'

Tina, has a good point too.

Answer 4

Because you don't trust that being content and happy can involve just you! Why rely on others to make you content and happy? (unless your under 18)
Yes, it sucks being lonely but you can be lonely and still be happy and content and be HONEST that you are! Trust me, I had to pull through that a few years ago...8 years to be exact and I found happiness within myself. Yes, It does help to have someone to feel happy and content. You just gotta know who you are, what you like about yourself, what you don't like about yourself and fix your flaws on a possitive note!

Still wanna talk? Id love to be here for you if you wanna express your feelings! I know it sounds crazy from someone on the internet and your told not to trust anyone from the internet but look what you just did, you provoked this so Im on of those who was looking for someone to help, like you, if I may.

You may contact me!

If not. I wish you the very best. Keep your chin up. I will keep you in my prayers. ~~Carla~~

Answer 5

If you focus on your own happiness, you never will be happy and you will alway be lonely.

Maybe you have too much idle time. The people I know who appear the happiest are those that seem to be too busy to enjoy it.

The people I know who are most content seem to be those who work with other, helping other, and want little or nothing for themselves.

Answer 6

Well ppl do that I guess, it is possible to be happy and content. But ppl who aren't lonely can be miserable.
You could always drop me an email if it would help the loneliness in a virtual way.

Answer 7

It's easy to pretend,like most people we want to feel needed ,popular, and inside the loop with others. It is hard to show ones true feelings because it leaves us vulnerable and scared of total isolation. loneliness some sometimes,leave us with low energy, depression and even low self esteem. Try not to pretend, if you are lonely, than say you are, you never know who might be listening. It's the squeaky door that gets the oil.

Answer 8

It's the human condition: we're never lonelier than when we are in enormous crowds - and never more sociable than when we are left utterly alone.

Perhaps it helps if you travel more - because when you leave everyone behind and meet people 'on the go' only for a good while, you do become more at ease with being left to your own devices - and all the less lonely for it.

Answer 9

1) Because you fear that if you stop pretending to others that you are happy, then they will no longer like you and you will be even more alone.

2) And if you do it when you are all alone it is more likely that you learnt from the same mechanism as in 1, but it more subconscious.

There are other reasons too but that are not near so probable.

Answer 10

We all do . because people dont want hear your sad stories and by pretending being happy you actually make more friends and beside that you just trying not to think about it yourself and believe me it is a good way and just keep it up ..