My parents dislike him. We are very serious, planning to get married. He does not want my dad or mom involved in the wedding AT ALL. He tells me to forget about them and 'bury' them when we are married. I don't know what to do. I am the eldest and usually I let them know that I am going out and get back home at a reasonable time - no later than 12am. He hates that I still tell my parents and that I want to help them out especially now that my mom is recuperating from surgery. I just got out of school and am not working so I have time. I am 25 years old and still living at home. Graduated from law school. Let me know what u think. Am I "stuck at my mother's apron" as he puts it, or a caring daughter? Do my parents need to realize that I am an independent woman and is refusing to help care for my mom really "independent".
2006-08-24 20:43:47 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
You're boyfriend is rude. A loving boyfriend will never say "bury" the memory of your parents. That is terrible. Get a job, concentrate on that, and your family, and dump the jerk
2006-08-24 20:46:50 · answer #1 · answered by Southie9 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well I think that you should not let him manipulate you into being this way. YOu should be able to maneuver yourself through this after all you went to law school. Your mom has always been there for you and will always be there for you, dont throw that away. If your boyfriend is making demands such as these what makes you think that he would be a good dad. You should let go of the umbilical cord I know that it is hard, but dont forget about your mom either. He is going to have to understand that your relationship with your family has always been that way, he needs to tough it out. HELP YOUR MOM!!!!
2006-08-24 20:55:49 · answer #2 · answered by gm 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your moms bf sounds like a sick creep who has a drinking problem i mean how the hell could he do that when he practally is your dad thats messed up you need to tell him that the next time he makes a comment or touches you in a sexual way that dads dont do that to their daughters or depending on how old he is have him locked up
2016-03-27 04:32:15 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Gee you have a law degree and you are asking a stupid question? Who put your dumb A** through shcool, not your bf. Your parents come first before gf or bf.
I wouldn't marry some that hates or bad mouth my parents, what you do will come back to bite you in your A**. That was easy, thanks for the two points. btw...you are a caring daughter with a law degree who will find a good career soon...you can do better than him....
2006-08-24 20:50:06 · answer #4 · answered by stkytreat 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Seriously if he cared for you .. he would take you for all that you are, family included. If a love one in your family is ill, you are taken the time to care for them deserves a lot of respect and one to be admired. If he can not accept your family, maybe you should rethink the marriage.
I know I have issues with my husband's family, they didn't even reached out to us during the death of our child this month. But it will stop me from allowing my husband to have a relationship with them. In the end, they are a part of my husband ..
Hugs Mel
2006-08-24 20:47:56 · answer #5 · answered by jaredsmommy2004 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to STOP planning a wedding..This jerk does not know what family means..He will be an *** and just make you miserable..He wants you to choose between your family and him...You need to lose him real quick like
Someone like that doesn't want you to have ties to your family....and it isn not wrong for you to want to help out your mom after surgery...Tell the creep to take a hike
2006-08-24 20:50:11 · answer #6 · answered by Mrs. M 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
he sounds very controlling!!! keep in mind she is the only mother you wil ever have it sounds like you want very much to care for your mom there is nothing
wrong with that at all you are not stuck at your mothers apron. if he cares for you he needs to be more supportive of you and your feelings.
2006-08-24 20:54:48 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
my brother has a friend similar to your boyfriend. Except the situation is flipped around. the GIRLFRIEND is the one who wants him to screw his parents and leave with her. Maybe you should talk to your parents. tell them that for 25 years youve put up with their s.h.i.t. or somthing among those lines. tell them that its time that YOU take care of yourself. Also, i think your boyfriend isnt being so considerate. what if this was his situation, if it was YOU who was disagreeing with his parents?
2006-08-28 02:23:20 · answer #8 · answered by Blazer 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
bury your callous and insensitive bf.by taking care of your parents you are doing your duty as elder member of the family.hats off to you
2006-08-24 20:48:32 · answer #9 · answered by trishul60 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
u really shouldnt care what they think. if u really love him then dont listen to them. n if they bring it up just tell em to shut up or talk about sumthin else
2006-08-24 20:47:53 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋