Ok this is kind of complicated..... My boyfriend who I have been with for 5 years got a girl of a one night stand pregnant 9 years ago. She had a twin set of girls and claimed that they were my boyfriend's. He doesnt want anything to do with any of them because the mom of the girls is fat and ugly and has always wanted to be with my boyfriend, even though they hardly know each other. Anyway she found out that he is thinking about marrying me and she placed child support on my boyfriend. He wants nothing to do with them and only sends money that he is obligated to send them. I keep telling him to have a relationship with his twin daughters(DNA tested proven) but he doesnt want to. What should I do?? Should I keep pushing him to have a relationship without the mother of course or should I just leave him alone and stay out of it. After all the mother is a b....
2006-08-24 20:42:39 · 7 answers · asked by gm 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
The baby's mama is someone that my boyfriend slept with only once and never saw again. But I guess she has the illusion that he would be with her because he would always send her monetary support since he has no intention on supporting her emotionally. It is a horrible situation and I know he wants to marry me and have real kids with me.
2006-08-24 21:20:52 · update #1
Yep...stay out of it. It is HIS decision to make, not yours. Even
though you are concerned, and trying to be helpful. Just don't
go between them. Those kids will know more about the situation
when they get older. For now...there is nothing u can do. Really.
This will work itself out.....whatever way. But he is really missing
out big time. He may not be able to love those kids, he's not
emotionally attatched or bonded with them. He may always be
that way. But, this should make u more wary, before u ever
even think about having a kid with him. He could do the same
to u ? Maybe....Just stay cool. And he does have to pay for
those kids, ya know . Good Luck to u.........
2006-08-24 21:05:58 · answer #1 · answered by CraZyCaT 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, that is some serious drama! If he can co-exist with the mother, than I would support him in being there for his kids. However, this would mean you will not be his first priority. I would be very concerned about why he wouldn't want anything to do with his own kids though. If the mother is a total beyatch than it may not be a good idea for the kids to see their parents fight all the time. Its sounds like this girl is one angry person and she will make your life a living hell.
2006-08-24 20:48:17 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should dump his deadbeat asss. Why would you want to be with someone that wont claim his own children? The sorry m@ther f@cker!!! How do you know he wont get you pregnant then dump you and your child! The chickinsh!t loser punk asss low life dirt suckin fleabag.He isn't even a man, the no ball having piece of rat sh!t. He is responsible for them children financially as well as being their daddy! why cant them innocent children have a father? what did they ever do to deserve this? it was his sorry punk asss that brought them into this world,,,,,,, just to walk away and have them fend for themselves? So unfair.
2006-08-24 21:27:32 · answer #3 · answered by mason 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, if hes paying child support it is best if he keeps them for the weekend at least...he never knows what he'll be missing out on....twin girls sounds like a blessing to me
2006-08-24 21:01:29 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You cant make him do anything he doesn't want to do, he can give up his parental rights then he wont have to pay child support.
2006-08-24 20:59:58 · answer #5 · answered by speedyvw2001 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He needs to have a relationship with his girls...they need their father in their lives...He doesn't have to include their mom she is no longer in the picture...But his daughters need him
2006-08-24 20:53:40 · answer #6 · answered by Mrs. M 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave him alone. If u don't you could lose him. Respect his wishes.
2006-08-24 20:59:31 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋