when they place you really high and then kick you down?
when they hold you in very high esteems and then go on to prove how disgusting and negative you are?
I have recieved more than a hundred hatred mails from people on yahoo! most of them who actually came around saying how incredible I am!
this is not an experience I've encountered only on yahoo...but in life...all my life...
my closest friends...my relatives...my father...my teacher...they all did this....
why?
why do the people have to make you smile when they eventually have to make you cry :(
that way it hurts even more...
I'm tired of recieving hatred mails and criticism....not that i think i'm perfect...
all those who answer my questions out here...lemme get this straight...i'm far from being profound and much further from being perfect!
dont hold any good image of me and then come around cursing me...i'm tired
2006-08-24 20:32:07 · 9 answers · asked by . 4 in Arts & Humanities ➔ Philosophy
you know what? this does not mean that their decision about you changes, it's just that either you yourself change, or they come to know things about you that they never did before. it is not that they hold you high and then get you down. it is you who change, or your behavior, or start doing something new and different that is not liked by some. if you ask them, maybe they will tell you that they did like you, but hated you later. and who knows? maybe you are wrong, maybe they never liked you at all, and it was just your imagination.
2006-08-24 22:05:18 · answer #1 · answered by Smithereenian 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
It seems to be human nature, dreamer. Maybe initially people see something in you that they are attracted to, and then maybe after a while a jealousy kicks in and they put you down. I dunno. Maybe what you're saying on here and the way you carry yourself in life clicks with people and they put their hopes on you. You have a bright light and people WILL be attracted to it. Best get used to it. It doesn't make you special, it just makes you more awake. When you can't deliver what only themselves can deliver by self-acceptance than the hatred kicks in. Please..... just continue being yourself. In the end that is all that will matter. Write and speak from your heart.
When praise comes from people just say thanks and let it go. It's tough when praise & then hatred comes from those closest to you---I know this one--but you're not here to live up their standards. You're not here to fix anybody. Besides, your Being---the light that you really are---isn't affected by criticism or praise. You know this.
I'm glad to hear you admit you're not profound or perfect! Who is?? You're human like all of us.........you happen to be blessed with an incredible mind and a big heart but in the end we're all the same. All perfectly flawed.
You have my email---feel free to email me if u want to talk more about this. Not sure what I could do but I know what you're going thru.
2006-08-25 15:53:30 · answer #2 · answered by .. 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Either you are in some kind of bad situation specific to only you, or you are experiencing something we call social interaction.
There are people who find the ego boost they need by tearing others down, but all of the people in your life you mentioned...it sounds like you love the feeling of elation and joy that come with praise. But you seem to think that it is supposed to last. It doesn't. There is balance in life. Sometimes you get praised, and sometimes you get criticized. The trick is learning to take the criticism constructively, learn from it and to not take it so personally. Everyone deals with it. It isn't heaps of fun for anyone, but it is part of the game. Jump in and play it!
2006-08-25 04:20:04 · answer #3 · answered by Batty 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a quote by Swami Vivekananda :
"It is a tremendous error to feel helpless.Do not seek help from anyone.We are our own help.If we cannot help ourselves,there is none to help us.The moment you fear,you are nobody.It is fear that is the greatest cause of misery in this world.It is fear that is the greatest cause for all superstitions.It is fear that is the cause of all our woes, and it is fearlessness that brings heaven even in a moment.Therefore arise,awake, and stop not till the goal is reached."
Every individual is unique in their own way. You are you , you cannot be someone else. Dont be discouraged by criticisms, there will be many others who will love to have you just the way you are..You are special .
Blessings and Love to you.
2006-08-25 09:04:27 · answer #4 · answered by Sergia Mary 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just have fun with it and don't care so much. It's just not worth it... to care about what anyone else thinks of you, except for you. What do you think of you? As far as praise or getting kicked... just don't care and give it up.
Put a block on the mail you get. Easy to do in your in-box.
2006-08-25 05:15:36 · answer #5 · answered by LL 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey mate, cool down. mein tahe dil se tumare saath ho.
but don't worry you really have a great thought process AND i am not LyIng nor am i going to change my statement.
you know, if a person changes his/her statement it shows the lack of decision making power in that person. its not really worth taking any notice of such people, i do the same thing and am fed up.
as parents & all, i myself am stuck. the only method i have found is to just point them out that they once had praised u for the same thing.
on a full moon they say moons the most beautiful thing in nature, and on no moon they curse it
2006-08-25 04:05:23 · answer #6 · answered by Kelrec 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The dynamics of human interaction are so flawed and obnoxious because we suppose ourselves superior and intelligent.
You are feeling wounded by your own kind because, perhaps, you are waking to the fact that life need not be so basic. It is the beginning of a wondrous journey to a place where you may open your mind and heart to the boundless possibilities.
There are few who get past the first step because we are conditioned to require the company of others.
This, however, will be a lonely journey...
2006-08-25 04:00:29 · answer #7 · answered by CC...x 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
That reflects the behavior of society....
2006-08-25 03:36:33 · answer #8 · answered by Vocal Prowess 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Jealousy. They wish they had the insight you do.
2006-08-25 03:39:22 · answer #9 · answered by Spookshow Baby 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋