We planned to get married. Now she's leaving due to the reason of being together is becoming more of a habit. She's totally devastated now and disappointed with our relationship. It's a cooldown period for her but she's persistant in the break up. She said we did not build new common interests and our living lifestyle are different. Im told i have moved on in my life too fast, without knowing that she couldnt adapt and catch up but clinging tightly to me. Eventually, she decided to stop now. How can i reassure her and wish for her to give ourselves another chance?
2006-08-24 19:41:36 · 12 answers · asked by Pondstar 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
She's now at the cooling period and won't talk or see me. i waited for her outside her place, i didnt get to see her going home. i'm really afraid that after her cooling down period is done, she will be brave and more determined not to revive the relationship anymore. but i know seeking her out now will worsen things and she may be even much more affected. im just clueless and lost.
2006-08-24 20:22:13 · update #1
yeah your really lucky than me. I was just afeter 2 years realationship and get marry and after 3 years get divorce that is right I was thought after some times may be any thing geting beatter so at the end we get divorce through the cort way . but you have so nice choose than me so please think about it more and more spacilly for your future baybe yeah I was not think about my baybe befor we was date will please more think about your relationship and make right way for your self and I wasn't think about if we get marry what will be happend and although think about it its only good way not bad way I mean evry thing have two side of it .
2006-08-24 19:56:35 · answer #1 · answered by Abdumalik A 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should let her cool down for the moment. If you go and see her now, I think she will be more agitated and things might not work to your favour. I believe what she told you is just an excuse for her to initiate the break off. Once she cool down, have a talk with her and hopes things can change for better. But be prepared for the worst coz I think that there may be a third party that have come into your relationship ( Hope I am wrong). Normally a girl wouldn't get devasted and diappointed in a relationship after such a long time and at the stage when both of you have planned to get married unless somebody came into the relationship quietly.
2006-08-25 07:45:01 · answer #2 · answered by Clown & Joker 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try somthing new with her. she is probably just board with the same thing day in and day out. or maybe shes not ready for a comitment as big as marriage. and if she isnt get her a smaller comitment such as a puppy or a kitten or what ever animal shes not allergic to and can have. and if she cant have an animal fo some odd reason, take her on vacation. not anywhere out of the country! just a couple sates over. then you and her can be alone for a while and rethink things over together. because if she says its more like a habbit then is obesily means that you do the same thing for her all the time. get out of the repeating circle and try somthing new for her. im 90% shure shell love it no matter how stupid it is. at least she will know you realy do love her and you want to keep on trying. here are some things you could do that you may not done before.....
~vacation
~get her a pet
~write her a song
~buy her a realy fancy peice a jewerly NOT A RING!!!!!!
~buy her an evening dress and take her out on a realy fancy dinner
~sit outside her window playing a romantic song
~send her like a whole bunch of roses and put somthing romantic there like telling her that you love her times 100 roses.
~take her to the most beautiful and romantic spot you know.
~take her to the spot where you guys met and remind her of all the good times............
theese sre just a few things... im shure you can be creative and find somemore.
2006-08-27 10:49:16 · answer #3 · answered by livinlife 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try a Date! A VERY SPECIAL SEXY OVERNIGHT DATE! You're relationship has grown stale. It's time to renew some old passions. Don't just sit around trying to Tell her how wonderful she is, Show Her! And make it a habit, at least once a month. We as women need to be reminded once in a while that we are beautiful creatures! We need occasional wooing and romance! Maybe you could try this: Engage her in what seems to be an innocent lunch date (that way your involving her in your daily schedule), and turn it into a crazy, passionate, sexy, love affair. Prepack somethings she might need for a get away (something sexy if you like, without her knowing) and get a Nice hotel room. (Make sure her schedule is cleared and the clothes fit!) Maybe you could even try a disguise. She'll know it's you of course, but keep playing like your the new fling! What I'm trying to say is: Mix things up a bit, be her New lover, instead of the same old same old. If she sees you've got this in ya she might think twice!
2006-08-25 03:09:59 · answer #4 · answered by mediaevalprincess 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
umm u should get married sooner so that the passion lives on but its now 5 yrs n u haven pop the question no wonder the passion is dieing a gal cant wait that long no wonder shes dumping u ters no hope like in chinese ni si xin ba
2006-08-25 04:28:50 · answer #5 · answered by oceanaofthesea 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask her whr she left off, whr she couldnt catch up...u both need to sit down and talk tell her ur feelings towards her and tat u dun want a break up.....care for her more and show her more concern and attention mayb u werent paying enuff of attention to her.....try to make a little changes here and there
need to speak out and find whr the real prblm lies....u r a guy im sure u noe how to go bout it!! good luck...
2006-08-25 02:53:03 · answer #6 · answered by SexyPrincess 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that sounds like b.s. Why do girls insist on speaking so dramatically. what does that mean, that you grew too quickly? and she could only keep up by clinging on tightly. what are you a race car driver? She is stupid. get a girl that at least can be honest with you and herself.
2006-08-25 02:47:28 · answer #7 · answered by matthew c 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont spoil this relationship. Make her feel trust U. and she will .............most probably.
Take her with U in the all paths of life and dont make her feel that U dont care abt her. Tell her how truly U love her......and cant leave her.
2006-08-25 02:49:36 · answer #8 · answered by Aena Z 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be friends, end of discussion unless SHE pulls its farther.. Plus.. Matthew, if he was a racecar driver, she'd be in it for the money, and she woudl wait until marriage. (Just a joke, I know you were using a metaphor.)
2006-08-25 02:50:59 · answer #9 · answered by Gabe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's that dude....get a new girl and marry her sooner....in this way she will face the truth when is too late and has nothing to do about it.
2006-08-25 02:44:20 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋