Boy oh boy!!!! Sounds like you got your hands full. I am going to tell you a secret, women like a man to be strong, hard working, and sure of himself. Women, while the more emotional of the two genders, still need that authoritative figure in their lives. This lady sounds like she is used to getting her way by what ever means she can find. You sir, are going to have to address this woman like the child she is acting like. Women don't like a man who becomes a cry baby and wears his feelings on his sleeve. She will see you as weak. Perhaps you do love her, but if you do not want to live like this on and on and in the end you lose her anyway, you have got to react like you would to a child. However, with adult type punishment. One thing you can do is say what you mean and mean what you say. If you say something, stand by it. Chose your words carefully, because you don't want to have to eat them. That to would show her your weakness. It maybe that she really does not know what she wants in life anyway since she seems to have been spoiled. No matter what, she has to accept that there are others in life who need attention and love as much as she does. I suggest even looking into a book for ways to curb the behavior of a child who wants all the attention. Just remember that if you say something, mean it. Don't say something just to try to make her change. Tell you what, start acting like you do not care how she is acting. All the things you have discussed with her, start acting like that does not bother you in the least. Show interest in other things and even keep yourself from looking at her during times when she is being selfish or paying more attention to others and watch how it turns the tables. When she thinks you do not care or notice her, she will show you something different. Trust me, I am a woman and have been that same way as she is now. It was short lived. Wish you all the luck in the world.
2006-08-24 19:45:14
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answered by ktmazer 2
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I'm having a hard time understanding that this man changed his personality overnight, because that's not possible. This is the man you married. Now, you cannot let anyone mistreat and disrespect you like that. You have to get your self respect, pride and dignity and knock this waste out of bed. You have to get some power and control and threaten that this will stop right now. You will not let him waste a wonderful time in your life making you miserable. He's being so selfish that he should be alone, because that's the way he's making you feel. A marriage is when two people in love will do anything to make each other happy, not themselves. If they take care of themselves, then why are they in a relationship? Confront this guy once and for all not asking questions, but telling him that if he's going to focus solely on what he wants, then you're going to do that too. Dinner, laundry, etc. are over. This is not what you want and if he keeps it up, you will file for divorce. Whatever you do, don't get pregnant because it will definitely get worse. I wish you all the luck. God Bless
2016-03-27 04:30:10
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answered by ? 4
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Sounds like you married into a high maintenance relationship.
An affair will not put excitement in your marriage, it will give grounds for a divorce, and could put you in legal problems or health problems that would have a lifetime impact on you.
Since it's only been 6 months, I recommend a marriage counseler. You sound like you are in it for the long haul, right?
Good luck.
(Oh, Ya, and your question. You need to communicate with your wife and tell her what you want, your fantasies and such. A good woman will provide for you).
2006-08-24 19:57:21
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answered by patweb01 3
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I;m in the same exact situation. Except I'm just like the grl you speak of... What's so wrong with being pampered and acting like a 2 yr old... my Hubby seems to love that about me.. and treats me like a princess...
In the long run.. she would appreciate what you've done for you.. and will talk to her friends abt you behind your back.
(My hubby says: Jus have sex with her often...and have funnn.. these are the days man....)
2006-08-24 20:04:43
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answered by Wqr 2
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People usually don't change too much. Maybe with time, she will begin to appreciate your love for her. But then again, some people are just plain selfish, and will stay that way their whole life. If you loved her enough to marry her, you will have to take the good with the bad, and just learn to overlook the bad, so that it does not ruin your love for her. Most people do not change!
2006-08-24 19:32:33
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answered by 420Linda 4
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Keep talking to her, respecting her and making her feel special. Marriage can definately Rock!!! Tell her exactly what you want and what it would mean to you if she could do that sometimes. Love her, grow together and rock your worlds!!
2006-08-24 20:48:47
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answered by Issabella 2
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your joking arent you?ive been to the same woman married 29 years and we may not be newlyweds but is it hot in here or is it just me?
2006-08-24 19:30:26
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answered by Anonymous
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that you much have Faith and treat each other like friends. also have to be straight forward and with out doing stupid thing that cause a problem
2006-08-27 21:53:56
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answered by jwtaz1 3
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Become swingers....that'll make your marriage rock! LOL
2006-08-24 19:28:45
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answered by sexy_n_chicago 3
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forget it, marriage can never rock
2006-08-24 19:52:23
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answered by Anonymous
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