can anyone please answer this question?

Question

i've been in this realationship with my boyfriend for 10 1/2 months we been through alot of things that was new to us both. we lost ababy together and we was always together making it hard for either one of us to cheat he tells me all the time that he loves me most of the time is when i say it first. he said he would never hurt me but just the other night we got into this big fight that was new to us he wanted to leave my house and all the time he's saying how he spends all his time with me and not his friends and family. i didn't know what happened and why but i'm pregant again after the lose of our baby this is his first child and i told him things wasn't working out and i already have 3 kids and i see the stress on him so i told him i was gonna get an abortion and he got really mad and said he wanted to be with me and the baby and my other 3 kids but the other night when we had the fight i was screaming at him

and he was yelling at me and he still wanted to leave my house. when everything got quiet we said we both needed space i agreed to the space but now he didn't call me in 3 days should i expect that he has someone else i always been like this since my last relationship with my ex he cheated on me and i think that's why we spent to much time together and we agreed to the space because i am insecure from my last relationship i need to know from a man point of view on how men think should i be worried about him leaving me or is this that point where we need the space to better our relationship please help i know this is not a good place to see life invations but atleast i can know what to expect before i go futher into it .

do he have someone else because of the way he's acting he didn't call me in 3 days

Answer 1

dont loose heart, your life is toooo important ,start living for yourself.if he cares he will come back ,if he doesn't than he didn't deserved a person like you

Answer 2

Well for one thing it is probably the hormones making you fight with him then after you do not even know what happened or why you were fighting.I will say this tho it would be so wrong of you to have an abortion that is his baby to and it sounds like he was upset about you saying you were going to kill the baby.I can not see how you could even consider it especially since you have 3 kid's you have seen what you can create and this child growing inside of you has as much of a right to live as your other kids and maybe you just said that out of anger didn't think before you speak which we all do sometime just calm down take care of your self and the baby inside of you and everything will happen like it is supposed to every couple fights sometimes!Good luck.

Answer 3

Well I'm sure the lose of the baby was hard on booth of you. Everyone has fights, if he loves you and the 3 kids and new baby that's very hard to find. But also you 2 need your on time so you will not get on each others nerves. If he is wanting alot of time away that might be a sign he isn't happy. Next one are you truly happy?? After the lose it's not a good idea to mention abortion. You need to think what you want,and ask him what he wants. you 2 need to sit down and talk not scream! I think alot of it is stress because of the lose . I wish you well hope i have helped you.

Answer 4

I feel like your other 3 kids should be your priority. If he's willing to take care of you and all the kids, then you need a solid commitment---marriage. 10 1/2 months is not a solid enough relationship, where you should bring another human being into this world and not have someone else there to support you. A child is a lifetime of responsibilities, that a couple needs to commit to and be prepared for. If he can't accept your decision, then he's obviously not mature enough to be a father. so you move on with your life and your kids. good luck.

Answer 5

Okay honey, deep breath. Your first priority is to take care of yourself and your three little ones... and the one on the way.

You are going to have to decide what you want do to about your soon-to-arrive baby. I personally don't like abortion, but it's also not my place to tell you what to do. That decision is yours. Yeah, he helped create this kid... but if he wants a say, he HAS TO be in it for the long haul.

Fights are scary. You two need to find a neutral third party (a therapist, if possible) and talk stuff out if you want to stay together. If that's just impossible, then you two are going to have to get REAL honest with each other and check your judgement at the door.

Answer 6

Harsh words are spoken in anger and they don't mean anything at all. If you love him and he loves you, you should be together because one big fight does not constitute a breakup. He's probably cooled down by now and I'm sure he didn't mean what he said. Besides, if he's willing to be with you and four children, he must be a great guy. Not many men out there like that. Good Luck.

Answer 7

For God's sake woman, get married and stop having abortions and kids out-of-wedlock. What the hell is the matter with you. Don't you realize you are doing no good for your kids nor the ones that you are about to have. Give the kid a chance at a decent life and marry the father before it's born.

Answer 8

PPl tend to get emotional after a loss of baby.Your BF is loyal to you.He is just angry & annoyed with the whole situation that doesnt mean he is not loyal to u.Be good to him & he can be good to you.Dont be too much possesive about him.If he wants to go somewhere then give him the space to go there.If he wants you to accomapany him then go with him.more than him try to take care of the three kids and your future baby.

Its just your emotional state right now that is making you feel very bad.Everything will be alright sweety.

Answer 9

So wht u wanna ask, whether to continue relationship with him or not, well i would recommend u need to stick with him, it is just man beheaviour which make them annoyed sometimes but all will be settled only thing is u need to be clear with ur views.

Answer 10

Ok so what is the question.