Child Support is for the childs total care.?

Question

Why do you men think that your little 50-100 or whatever a week is enough to pay half of the cost of raising a child? Why are you complaining when that is not even enough to pay a week of daycare? Then if the ex gets her hair cut or a new blouse, all of a sudden she is using the child support money for herself-when she is the one raising and footing all other bills for this child. Geez, when you get divorced, you can't buy anything for yourself any longer. Where do you think the woman's money all goes that she makes on her own?

Answer 1

perhaps the problem that it seems that mostly only women receive child support and that they are favored in the courts

Good Luck and God Bless!!

Answer 2

While it might not be true in your case, some woman do use the child support money for them selves. I know 3 who's kids got 3 pair of pants but they have $200 pair of shoes and a bran new car. My ex boyfriend got arrested 3 times on child support. He was not working at the time. His ex wife always earned more than he did. The children were not starving, they had clothes, they were not needing anything.
I believe that receits should be presented. That would help both parties. I am also dead set against one person paying more than another. Why does one person pays $50 dollars a week and another has to fork out 500. And if your earnings are very good, forget about it. They're children getting $10,000 dollars a month. I don't care how you cut it. There is no way that a baby or even a teenager needs that kind of money.

Answer 3

Child support does go for "total care". And I have no problem paying my fair share. Housing costs, utilities, it all counts. But using the money to pay for a new house on the lake? Shopping spree for clothes every month? Lying about expenses to get support raised, when no daycare is involved? Moving the kids out of state with no warning? Scuba lessons for the ex??? Some women (and no, not the majority), do things that give ALL women a bad name when it comes to support. I would give my daughters anything they needed, but it is NOT my responsibility to support the EX in the lifestyle she would like to become accustomed to, especially when she refused to work when we were married. I helped put her thru nursing school, but there were no repercussions for her when she met some guy on the 'net and left me to move 2 states away. My support has gone to help finance her moves. And it has also helped the 5 guys she has lived with since she ran out on me 8 yrs ago. Why shouldn't fathers want to be involved in the childs life? It kills me that I can't see my daughters when my visitation allows me to, but when the support is set so high you can't afford the gas to go get them, you have to work. Her attorney and the judge told me that if I needed extra money, I was capable of getting a 2nd job. I guess the 48 hours a week I had to work to support my family then, and the 60 hours a week now was not enough.

Answer 4

Slow down there.....thats quite a stereotype you have worked out now isn't it!! Not all fathers think that way, just like not all women are as perfect as you seem to think you are. Every seperation is different so trying to put all the blame for any problems you may have on the entire male gender doesn't make a lick of sense. I pay what the courts worked out, but I still pay for the care of my son every weekend on top of that....and....anytime my ex needs something extra for my son ( like sports fees, clothes, school supplies, etc. ) , I always help as much as possible. DO NOT group us all together, sort out your problems without all the blame, perhaps you aren't so innocent either!! The both of you should have grown up a little before making a choice as big as having a child, get some professional help thru the courts if you feel like you are not receiving enough, but for gods' sake, don't talk like we are all the same! No one is perfect, but some of us try harder than others!!!

Answer 5

Yes please don't compair all us guys together. I just had a divorce last year and I have custody of my 3 little girls. My ex-wife is order to pay 100 a week based on a job that she no longer has and she doesn't even pay that. I think some people see it as a way that the other still has some control over the other person instead of it just supporting the kids.

Answer 6

Regardless of whether it be the mother or father who receives the support, it is ordered to help raise the child, but true, it takes alot more to go with it; support includes food, clothing, shelter, bills, etc........... I don't understand why the one paying thinks they hhave it rough and we are wasting theeir money, I think they should change the laws and make the other parent pay for half of all things their child needs, 30, 40 dollars a week? huh....just a small amount compared to what it actually costs to raise a child!!!!

Answer 7

I'm going through a divorce right now. I have been giving her $2100 a month for the past four months, even though I only net $2180. I'm paying for their health and dental insurance. (2 children) I am working a second job just to stay alive. I got the paperwork from her lawyer and she is wanting $620 child support, $250 alimony, $300 to pay for my retirement, and she wants me to pay for my son's cell phone bill each month plus half of his car insurance. It adds up to over $1350 a month. I'm not sure how I'll make this much if I end up in jail or on the streets.

Answer 8

Not all fathers think that way but unfortunately a large majority of them do. This is one of the things any girl should think of before having unprotected sex. They should put your letter up at all High Schools. You named some great things there. What I don't get is that the dead beat parent still gets to see their child even though he hasn't helped support him/her ever. This is suppose to be for the welfare of the child to see both parents whether or not child support is paid, but what kind of loving parent would forsake the care of their child by not giving financial assistance in the raising of their child? I feel that having that parent around the child would be a detriment and the child would be better off being raised by the sole provider parent. When one parent can not afford to give support legitimately for a period of time, that of course is understandable, but for the rest of those dead beats, those kids are better off without that parent.

Answer 9

Because a lot of people who pay child support (men and women alike) do not understand that child support is reimbursement for everything you pay for already. For example rent, electricity, gas, phone, food, daycare, haircuts, school supplies, shoes, clothes, toilet paper, shampoo. Need I go on people. Everyone who does not have the joy of living with and caring for their children everyday thinks they can do a better job and they think it will cost them less money in the long run. They are sadly mistaken. So to those people I say pay your support and shut the hell up because no one cares about your pity party!!!

Answer 10

Men are stupid my childs dad is the same way he payed only 299 a month from the time she was born until recently & when I went to raise it he told the judge that he didnt believe the money went toward her.. The judge looked at him really strange & asked him do you thinkn she lives for free. I couldnt help but laugh, the Judge told him that goes for everything an 11 year old could need, house payment food electric, clothes, water, school items toys etc... Love the judge he rasied his amount to $745.00 a month... Like I said men are stupid LOL

Answer 11

"you men". I love the tone of this question immediately.
Look, when you come to the courts asking them to squeeze the ex for a little more money, it's not all that unreasonable for the ex to demand an accounting of the money. After all, nobody gives out COLAs anymore unless you have a really good union. So if the ex demands a little bit accounting before he forks over more cash, what's your complaint.