How do you improve..........?

Question

your self-esteem? what techniques, methods, skills do you use (please be specific)? is it really possible to improve years of bad habits (looking down) and beliefs (i'm no good) with self-esteem work?

Answer 1

Encouragement from others certainly helps, ..even if you start off by not believing it.
..Psychologists and whatnot, ..vary from person to person, ..both the patient and the psychiatrist/psychologist/family doctor. It's less and less of a 'social taboo' to go see one, and nothing of which to be ashamed. ..But, there are people like me who, even if they have serious mental hangups, would refuse to cooperate, despite knowing it's in the best interest and may be helpful, or may be certain (and may be correct) that it won't be helpful.


In any case, I'm assuming you're not meaning to go the therapy/medicinal route. So.. advice is ...start small. And don't sell yourself short, when you can help it. Accept that it's still gonna happen a lot of the time - you're going to feel worthless sometimes, or be very hard on yourself if you make a mistake.
But as I said, start small. And don't fret little stuff. One common method to boost mood (which will eventually result in boosting confidence) ..is to make other people around you happy. See if you can arrange situations to be helpful. If you can do someone else's chores for them, offer. (Sideline advice.. do something like washing the dishes, and not laundry. If something goes wrong, your fault or not, you'll feel awful.) Clean the kitchen, ..clean your room?

More interesting is doing so and doing so incognito.. trying not to let anyone find out. Hold a door for someone, ...put coins in a parking meter..
dunno what your life situation is (age, etc), so I dunno how many of these are feasible.

Fixing the "i'm no good.." thought primarily comes with ..proof. So, ..start small. Prove to yourself you can do a puzzle, or a math problem. ...When it's done, you can't say you weren't good enough. ...overall, ..try to judge situations realistically. Could you have done better? ...What was the best way to handle a situation? ..Will you do the correct thing next time? ..Would someone else have been able to do better?

..I find, personally, that the ultimate self-esteem boost is ...feeling like no one else could have, or would have made the effort to pull something off.


Bad habits are broken with new habits. If you need reminders for when you do something (like ..look at your feet too much? ...put a symbol of sorts, on your shoe, that will remind you of your new goal of not looking down) ..remind yourself often. That's the case with any habit. Be very, very conscious of your habit, and very conscious about how much you want to stop that habit.

If it's a tough step to look people in the eye a lot, ..either start slow, by looking up very briefly, but as often as you can muster. Or if you can, ..cheat, by looking at their nose, or between their eyebrows, or something, 'til you're comfortable enough.


Drink plenty of water and get sleep.
..And, ..keep in mind that I, as a total stranger, ..believe in you and wish the very best for you.

Best of luck

Answer 2

Totally. Self-esteem improvement is hard work though. It requires acknowledging that something you believe about yourself is not true. In general, I believe it takes about three weeks to establish/change a habit. In my own life, I've found it is easier to improve my self-esteem if I start with small things. For example, I made a list of things to do in a day and then congratulated myself for accomplishing (any) them, as opposed to telling myself I was incapable of doing anything right. When improving your self-esteem it's best if you have someone you trust to help you, by giving positive feedback. And practicing taking compliments is a big help!

Answer 3

Everyday you do such works which sepread happiness among others.And you should evaluate yourself and think before sleep what good things you do in the whole day.I think it helps you to improve your self esteem power and also help to come out yourwrong beliefs and bad habits.

Answer 4

Self esteem would reach higher the moment we stop comparing and competing with others !
Logically, what else can any one do more than doing HIS / her best at any given point of time !
And doing OUR best at all times would take care of improving ourselves at THE BEST rate !
And if this kind of performance becomes a habit, then it is others who will have to look at "THEIR SELF-ESTEEM" business ! !