How do you improve..........?

Question

your self-esteem? what techniques, methods, skills do you use (please be specific)? is it really possible to improve years of bad habits (looking down) and beliefs (i'm no good) with self-esteem work?

Answer 1

This may sound ridiculous, but it's simple and while it may not solve years of low self-esteem issues...it IS effective and it definitely DOES help.

Every morning when you get up,
just look at yourself in the mirror and say,
"I love you" to yourself.
Then, do the same thing again right before you go to bed. Doing this is a positive affirmation.

Many people with low self-esteem wrongly believe that there is nothing about themselves worth loving, and as a result they don't love themselves.
When you first begin doing this exercise, you are going to feel really foolish. However, after you have done it for a few weeks, you will slowly begin to notice a change in yourself internally.

When you begin to notice the change, that's when it's time for you to ADD another positive affirmation. Everytime you feel an internal change, then it's time to add another affirmation.
You can use anything you want, as long as what you tell yourself is positive.
Using positive affirmations is just one of the ways you can begin to help rebuild your self-esteem.

You'll do great...just wait and see. ;-)

Answer 2

Start taking credit for the positive circumstances in your life. It will do wonders for your self-esteem and give you confidence in yourself. Change the tendency you have in laying the blame for things that don't work out at your feet. I'm not saying that you should dodge responsibiity or blame for things that you may have caused, but in reality, though, you are not likely to be solely responsible for causing all the bad stuff that has happened to you. When you blame yourself for most of the " bad stuff ", it is probably your negative self showing through and you can definitely change that. Because nothing can happen to you either good or bad without justification on your part and the response you have to the " bad thing ". In other words you can lay down and cry or jump up with joy when something doesn't go the way you want it to.
Another thing is to set realistic goals for yourself, goals that you can reach. Sometimes we set goals for ourselves that are way out in deep water, with no hope of ever reaching and we end up feeling all blue about when we don't attain them.
Excercise, you will feel 100% better any way you look at your self and your life. Join a gym. Try it, it's highly recommended.
Lastly smile at everything, seriously, when you go around with your jaw dropping that's exactly the way you will feel, but on the other hand if your face is laughing and smiling you will feel that way about life. Try it! God Bless.

Answer 3

Supposedly it is possible.
I know that my self-esteem has overall improved since a few years ago, but I don't think the techniques work unless you are ready to start believing that you're alright.
Try writing down a list of a lots of good things about yourself, and re-read it every day, adding something new each time.

Answer 4

There are a lot of ways to do this that truly do work for people - different things for different people, and yes it is possible and does indeed happen! It requires an ongoing commitment to accepting yourself in all of your parts and giving yourself a break!
Affirmation, spiritual growth (whatever your path is as long as its genuine), consciously choosing to hold yourself in high esteem, to respect your sensitivities, honor your strengths
some things that have worked for people: hypnotism, meditation, breathwork
there are about a million self help books about it but I think the trick is finding something that resonates with you and sticking with it ongoingly
watch the movie what the bleep do I know
we are all only human

Answer 5

Take one step at a time. Pick one habit to break. Pick one belief to improve. Don't try to do too much at once because you won't accomplish it and then your self-esteem will drop. Stay around positive people. Write an affirmation - words of encouragement to yourself - and repeat it everyday. Slow and steady wins the race.

Answer 6

One thing I have found that helps is to keep reminders, photocopies, letters of accommodation, etc of past accomplishments and review them whenever you feel that you aren't good enough or smart enough. It also helps to write down what is making you feel that you aren't capable and to review that. It sometimes helps to see it in black and white and you realize that maybe it wasn't as big a deal as you thought. Remember this - everyone - even presidents feel this way from time to time. They are just better at hiding it.

Answer 7

Read Matthew 6:33 in the Bible

Answer 8

Physical excercise works very well, as you see your physical condition improving you take more pride in your appearance and you see what you are capable of, just don't expect it to happen overnight, slow and steady, it will happen.