how do you get over a guy who fooled you not just once, not just twice but for so many times?

Question

i've been with this guy for more than 2 years and i broke up with him cause i found out for so many times that he's cheating on me and for so many times, i've accepted his apologies. the very last time i broke up with him was on march, and after months of no communication, now he keeps on calling me and asks me to take him back. i said NO. i thought i have moved on already but after talking to him again for some time, i realized that i still love him..it's so stupid on my part but i'm really hurting. what should i do? somebody help me, please...

Answer 1

hi eller...u answered ur q urself...
sme guy cheated on u..so many times..n u still got back wid him....can u for once trust him 2 spend ur entire life wid him ? think bout it ?u sure cant...for who cheated on u once wud do it again n again...for he knows u will accept him no matter wat...no matter wat he does...or cheats..
ur being taken for granted...n can u let dat happen ?
it will hurt for smetime...but remember 1 thing...time heals...
da 1 who'l truly love u...wud never leave u...for a bit...love makes u wanna live ur life wd em forever...& not cheat on em

Answer 2

dear, you're already taking the first step to moving on by asking yourself what to do.
are you wavering because you don't want to hurt his feelings?
and i think you're a very generous woman if you can forgive him so many times. but you know there are only so many fouls before the player needs to get off the court, and from what you say, it seems like he's had more fouls than necessary, so why should you even consider letting him back into your life?

has it occurred to you that maybe he's just using you as a safety net? a place to go to when playtime's over?
don't let a man like that use you.
and you know, if you think about it, do you still love your first boyfriend? your first love? falling out love may not be as easy as falling in love dear, but love will eventually diminish if it was not meant to be. but the memory of that love will always stay imprinted in your heart because you took out and dedicated blood and tears to this person. so it's only natural for you to believe that you still love him.
but ask yourself really, do you love him as you did back then? can your love for him help you forget all the pain he's put you through? and if he can cause you pain back then and now, what makes you believe that you won't be hurt in the future.

he's a bad man honey, and i doubt that you're a dumb woman. two years of pain should be enough, why go back for more? you deserve better, honestly. no one deserves to be played, and those that have been played wouldn't go back for more.

i truly doubt his sincerity towards you, because a man who claims to love you would be able to keep his pants up and buttoned when he sees a breathing form. so go find another man, a man who can be faithful to you and won't hurt you the way you were hurt before. happy hunting dear, and tell your ex to bugger off cuz he ain't nothing but a bag of dirt under your fancy shoes.

Answer 3

I think u are still not getting over him... i think u might still keep some of his things and clothes... gal.. if u have decided to get over him... I think u shld start by clearing ur drawers and ger rid of anything that has his name or face on or in it... dun live miserably again becos of him.. u can find someone better than him.. if he comes stalking u again... get a guyfren to pretend as ur boyfren and tell him to get out of ur life.. u are a human not a toy for him to throw or keep as and when he likes... u are not stupid.. u are just emotional... u can move on... find somthing u like and do it with passion.. anything w time.. u can forget.. just dun be ard him any more.. or else it willbe more diffcult for u to forget him.. i wish u all the best!!!!

Answer 4

Your giving him that opportunity to have his fun and when he is finished he comes back to you only to have you take him back. How many times does it take for you to realize he is playing you? I'm sure you are an adult why do you let him to this to you? Have pride and self respect for yourself. I believe you can love someone deeply but not to a point where your just being used. You are just hurting yourself. Be strong and just say no more to him. Don't let him bribe you. Show him you are no longer his side plate and that he needs to leave you alone. No matter how much it hurts you need to take protect yourself against those types of jerks.

Answer 5

First of all, you need to forgive yourself for being fooled. Once you've done that, you will be able to move forward.

Then, you need to ask yourself, has he really changed? I mean really? If you know doubt on the answer of this, then I'd say stay clear.

Good luck with this. Relationships are so easy for other people to fix, but when it comes to ourselves, we are our own worst enemies.

Cheers

Answer 6

your being insecure. Ur acting like u need him to survive, yet he has done nothing to show u he loves u but treat u like crap. U cant love him u just need to learn to love urself. Remember the bad times and stop talking to him. Change ur phone number and move on. See a counsellor to work on ur self esteem and find someone who works hard to deserve u.

Answer 7

You need to stop being a fool. He didn't fool you, you knew what he was all about but you took him back anyway. Grow up and don't take crap like this from anybody.

Answer 8

You deserve better. You have some self-esteem issues, if you keep putting up with his crap. Forget him, move, change your phone number, get a different job. but dump him.

Answer 9

Have a little more respect for yourself. He ain't gonna change....you've witnessed that!! How much more hurt do you have to go thru to realize this?

Answer 10

don't take him back.

Move on. Years from now, you will be glad you made the right choice.