I have a beautiful 10 month old daughter from this guy I was with for a little over 2 years we had some good times and some bad times.He was violent every now and then. Now i am trying to go on with my life but i still think about him alot and it makes me depressed I cry alot.How do I move on with myself?
2006-08-24 18:52:11 · 13 answers · asked by ? 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I know this is not the word you want to hear "time". I'm recently broken up with a man who I've been with for years. I saw him as my last love. Thinking it would last if I stayed by his side. I discovered sometimes that's not enough especially if it's not worth both holding it together. I understand your tears. It's so hard. But, find strength in that precious joy you have to move forward. Think about it, would want your daughter being brought up in an abusive home? Of course not!! Go ahead and cry, sweetie. Those tears will not last forward. Love doesn't just vanish for woman. But, if you are strong and determined...you'll be on your feet and going in the right direction. Good luck sweetie. I'm sending you hugs from Tennessee!!
2006-08-24 19:01:00 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your daughter should be your first priority. You are hurting now but it will get better. Keep yourself occupied with your daughter. She is your everything. You both are so better off without a person like that. If he was violent then it was meant for you not to be with him. You will get through it. Enjoy your baby that's all what matters! And in time you will find a good man that will care for you and your daughter. There is nothing wrong being a single mom. I have been a single mom for about 8 years and it was the best thing for us and now my son is 17. I do wish you luck!
2006-08-24 19:01:45 · answer #2 · answered by Humming Bird 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First Step[1]Concentrate on your this daughter and think it as your only loved one rather than the guy. This means not facing up to reality.
But you might want it this way; Confront the man and tell him that you still love him.Tell him not to be violent or divorce... He might regret if he leaves or forget you... This is facing up to reality, than you go according to the first step[1] after this step.
Eternity of Happiness for both is what that matters. But if he really doesn't care about you, get a to know a new person before your daughter grows old enough as it might her her feelings when she grows up if she knows her father or that guy is heartless.
2006-08-24 18:58:40 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forgiveness is a gift you give yourself, but it is hard to do. First of all for your safety and your daughters he cannot be a part of your life, make sure you legally take care of that. When you start to think about him, stop and remember the bad about him. Every time you start to feel depressed remember something horrible he did that you no longer have to put up with. You are in control of your mind. Focus on you and your daughter and in time you can forgive and move on. Forgiveness means he no longer has control over your life.
2006-08-24 18:57:53 · answer #4 · answered by cyn1066 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I as a women understand your pain and thoughts. I can tell you that you will most likely never get over the whole situation however it does get easier to live with.. Also you have to be able to forgive before you can truly move on... I know that is easier said then done but you must find an inner peace and build from there... Good luck.
2006-08-24 19:02:54 · answer #5 · answered by michelle b 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Realize that a house with an abusive husband is no environment in which to raise a child and find someone that will treat you like you deserve to be treated.
2006-08-24 18:56:07 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to make peace. All the things that are bothering you have to be resolved. In time your will have what you are looking for. For now start with small steps. Good luck !
2006-08-24 18:57:21 · answer #7 · answered by Roger89 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
cry your heart out, sweetie, but that's all. you have a child in your care and have a responsibility to be strong for her sake too. focus on being the best mom you can possibly be and one day you'll wake up realizing you're over your ex without you even trying.
2006-08-24 18:56:02 · answer #8 · answered by chris19 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Imagine meeting someone nice down the road.
2006-08-24 21:33:32 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you move and start fresh, the further the better cause if he's voilent, do you really want someone like that around your child??
2006-08-24 19:04:05 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋