MY husband left THE HOUSE HELP!!!!!!!!!?

Question

IM 23 and hes 24 its been 2 years. I have trust issues with him and always accused him of something everytime he went out. But 6 mo ago i saw he joined a site called friendfinder and i saw his profile. he denied it of course but the confirmation cam to his email and the man described was him. since then i have trsut issues.......i set him up so i emailed him a girls pick and said i saw his profile of friendfinder. he liked her so emailed saying dont email here email to another adress. he sent pics and has been begging to meet her. I set up a date and time he went there but he left becasue he found out i was coming. i had my friend call him because he gave me his number and he told her she has a sexy voice. After all this he emailed her saying that was my ex the girl u talked to....i lied and sais she called ure phone....he said were sepereated and im crazy and hes begging to meet her. I confronted him with all this he denied it and left the house and packed his bags sayin he dont want

he doesnt want me anymore and that i will never change and always accuse him. I have all the proof. He even told the girl which is me to call him at his friends number. hes been gone 3 days...he calls me names and had his brother call me and we talked they said hes mad because im always accusing him and i will never change and i told him hes trying to meet girls off the net and they said thats so dumb there like did u see him cheat with ure 2 eyees?? im like hello.. anyways 3 days before that he wanted to leave and I stopped him i told him ill change so i wiped the slate clean. I went to check if he emailed her and he did so i cursed him and told him i regret letting himleave. so hes gone now and i dunno now what im so depressed and sad im not doing anything its him. hes trying to still send her instant messages. his family thinks im nuts. there liek hes just playing on chat but hes not!!!!!!! thsi is real.

also so u guys know im a good wife and have done so much for this guy...i mean alot...i have always been there for him. i just want honesty in our relationship and i was willing to forgive him but he sais im crazy and didnt do it. I HAVE A KEYLOGGER>

Answer 1

I'm sorry but I think you might be better off.

Answer 2

I guess you don't need any more proof than this that he does not want to be married anymore. I am sorry, I don't think there is anything you can do, unless he really loves you and wants to work on the trust issues. People who love each other don't set up dates to meet someone else. Just be glad you found out before you spent 10-20 years being cheated on before you found out, or got some STD from him. If you do get a divorce, I think in a year you will look back and say "good riddance". Divorce is very painful, but if he wants someone else, what can you do? You can't force him to stop it. Just let him go. Next time you get involved with someone you will know how important the trust issue is, and you will be more careful with giving your love before you are positive that you can trust someone.

Answer 3

he does not might desire to sign, basically have him served papers. Florida facilitates 'irreconcilable variations' variety no fault divorces to boot as fault divorces. you may stay in Florida for 6 months until you could now receive a divorce. For an uncontested divorce you pick a marital separation settlement and a short listening to is needed. the technique can take as low as 30 days. The dissolution of marriage action could be filed in the two (a million) the county the place the defendant is residing; or (2) the county the place the spouses final lived together earlier to keeping apart. Florida is an "equitable distribution" state. each and every significant different can hold their non-marital assets. Non-marital assets is all assets won earlier to the marriage, or won by using present or inheritance, or any assets that the spouses agree is non-marital assets in a written settlement.

Answer 4

Wow, from your other questions posted here, you are having SERIOUS problems.

I really hate to say this b/c I know you're in pain if you love him but this too will pass and you need to let him go -and let him stay out.

What I just read was almost identical to what happened to me. I caught him, his profile, his 'interests' and the list of 'friends' around the area. I was so devastated as well and angry and felt completely humiliated by the fool he was making of me. On top of that I was the one paying bills and feeding...you know the deal, ugh, I'm tormented remembering. He is officially an EX and I have found someone who is the exact OPPOSITE of that fool. Get your confidence and self worth together. Have a good cry to get it out of the system, pack your stuff or change locks and throw his junk to the curb, bury pictures, love the kids, and fight for yourself and them. Your kids are watching, learning, memorizing how you handle abuse, (even if it's just emotional) and what you do here and now will probably determine your sons and how they'll treat their girlfriends/wives, and your daughters by what they will allow and tolerate. Do you want your girls to be badly treated and crying to you or at home because of a man who cheated before or is doing funny stuff on line? If your answer is hell no, then don't allow him to do this to you. Get it together. You are a valuable human being. He by his own actions is not. You are suspicious of him and you had your reasons why you didn't trust him and he played and you found him out. He knows he can come back and beg for you to let him in. Don't even let him talk to you. You've spoken, cried, begged, tried to 'change' before and he still took you for a fool. He left? Great, call the locksmith and get the doors locked. Get out your money and stash it where he doesn't know where it is and it's safe (like your own bank account SOLO). Freeze his credit cards or cut him out of yours. Don't take him if he begs, don't take him if he cries, and if he tries to by force call 911. And stick to your guns, otherwise, we'll see you here again with the same stories, the same results, and the same thing happen like a bad broken wheel and the only people who suffer the most, is those terrified kids that are crying silently inside (if not out) praying, for peace and happiness. Believe me I know. My little girl told me how happy she is now that she doesn't see him coming after me and I crying helpless. It can be done. Be a better and happier woman, for you, for the kids. good luck.

Answer 5

Trust issues are primarly issues that take years and years to resolve. Once the trust factor has been brought into question you as a person need to calm down and take stock of your life, No matter what always maintain your pride and dignity. Do not beg, plead or show that you are lost without that person. As hard as this may seem it is the only way to show the other person that you are independant and self assured. Remember people follow confidant people. If your husband expects you to allow this then he must be crazy. To be selfish and not want to share your spouse with another women is natural. Men are more complicated and try to justify their behavior by saying they need more space/feel boxed in or you dont trust them. Old tricks dont fall for them. Another tactic is to "blame shift". Dont allow this. Be strong and do the opposite of what he and every one would expect. This shows character and maturity. No one can dictate your feelings or outcome of life expect you.

Answer 6

a woman's intuition is usually always right. if u felt he was out doing something, he probably was. You know your HUSBAND better then anyone. I am proud of you for catching his dirty a**. I say get out! He clearly don't give a crap and you so deserve better. It may be hard at first but u are a strong woman I can tell and will be just fine. If he wants to come back all the cards need to be put out on the table and there will be no secrets. He needs to earn trust back and if he love you enough he will do what ever to earn it back. If not; bye bye.

Answer 7

You did not do anything wrong, You had a feeling that he was not loyal. It hurts to find out your right. It is so very hard to say something to cheer you up. It might be his time now but it will be your time later . Once he detroyed the trust there is not much left. Do you want to be with someone you don't trust? Better days are down the road a way's. Be good, good luck

Answer 8

You're better off without him - let him go. You will ALWAYS have trust issues with this man, regardless of how he acts from here on out. He could become a saint, and you'll still have trouble trusting him - anyone in your position would. Do you really want to spend the rest of your life being suspicious over his every move? You'll give yourself an ulcer! Divorce the bum, and try to move on. Good luck!

Answer 9

If you want your marriage to work you both need to go to counseling. With your trust issues and his cheating issues, your marriage is doomed! I'm not sure which of you I find more appalling, you with your setting him up to cheat or him with the attempt to cheat? I'm sorry to say this but you BOTH need to grow up and if you want this marriage to work you are going to have to make a lot of changes that I'm not sure either of you, from your own description, will be able to do. You have to stop playing games and learn to trust him because if you can't trust your own husband, who can you trust? He on the other hand, has to start showing you that he is trust worthy and start paying more attention to his wife than to others. You both have to decide if each other is the partner that they wants to be with solely and if the answer for either of you is "No" then be glad you found out now while you are still young. Good luck, you are going to need it!

Answer 10

I am sorry.It sucks so bad when you love someone so deeply but they turn around and cheat on you.I have trust issues with my bf of
5 yrs.We also have a son who is 2.I have many
reasons to be suspicious w/ him.And I found out he was also using the adult friend finder site.
I almost killed him when I found out.I told him it was over but he told me to just delete his account on the computer so that he can't even use it unless he has me type a password in first.
But I just hate it that he would do that **** to me.I really don't know what to tell you but maybe you need to be strong and put your foot
down and let him know that you will not tolerate
him cheating or trying to cheat.Make him think it's over but believe me he will be back but when he does come back you have to be the one in control at all times and if he messes around again you just have to let his *** go.
Then you can go find someone else who deserves you.

Answer 11

If I were you I would first thank God, dance a happy jig that it is finally over, and get the ball rolling on a divorce.

Trust issues has no place in a marriage. If you cannot trust the one you love, the relationship is doomed because you will be seeing threats everywhere, even where there are none.

Edit-Chuckle. Daisy, I like your style :)