What is it like to be a foster parent?

Question

My husband and I are considering foster care for ages 0-10 children. What should we expect?

Answer 1

My husband and I started fostering 5 years ago. We ultimately ended up with custody and guardianship of the two children.

It has been extremely rewarding for us, but it has it's own challenges, mostly being that we have to consider another set of parents and siblings in some of our choices.

I love it and I love my girls.

Good luck with your choice...

Answer 2

Like the previous person, I would say, you have no idea what to expect. Foster Parenting is like a box of chocolates, you never know what you're going to get! =) You really need to approach foster parenting without a closed set of expecations, but a clear set of goals. Research, all you can, learn, learn, learn!! Try this website www.adoption.com to network with other foster parents.

Also sit down and ask yourself and your husband, just what can you handle. Can you handle a high medical needs child, can you handle sexual acting out, can you handle a blind child etc.

Lastly, from my experience, I would recommend a private agency over your local county. They are a bit more personal, and are advocates for you as well as your child.

We have three sons from foster care that we are in the process of adopting. They are wonderful boys, and have been a great blessing to us. Good luck to you.

Answer 3

Frankly, you can expect almost anything.

You may get a child or children that are great and adapt immediately to your family, or you may get some kids that will really give you a run for your money. It really depends on the child's background, and their experiences prior to entering your home.

Some kids will lie to you and steal from you because that is what they learned. Depending on their age, girls can be okay, but just be aware that even young girls who have been sexually abused may exhibit sexual behavior. They can also make up stories about receiving the same type of mistreatment at the hands of their foster parents.

Your best bet is to try and foster a child 5 years old or younger. They are much easier to guide and redirect in regards to inappropriate behaviors.