I've recently been emailing my ex. I guess old habits die hard. I got together with him just as I was leaving Brooklyn. He's a LOT younger than I am, but I really liked him....I always thought there was caring. We broke up over distance, but we had had a pretty good run. In many ways, I regretted breaking up. I was really in love. He acted terribly, though, when he cut the cord. He suddenly stopped responding to me at all and started dating someone else. We didn't talk for a while, then he called me and screamed at me; said he didn't care at all about me. His relationship with her lasted less that 2 months, it ended bitterly. I went through hell in this time.
Now he wants to be friends only, with the possibility of something in the future--maybe. I don't feel that I have any answers that I need. He's also not acting like a friend; his emails are argumentative and have NO compassion. Sometimes I feel that he has Ashberger's. But at one point, I thought I had found true love. Thoughts?
2006-08-24 18:35:59 · 10 answers · asked by calliope 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I think you have answered your own questions, especially by saying he only wants to be friends, but is not acting like a friend. I think you would always think of him as a love interest, and not just a friend. I think you have to let go of him. Maybe someday he will realize he loves and misses you. Sometimes a clean break from someone is the only thing you can do, to keep from getting hurt even more.
2006-08-24 18:44:20 · answer #1 · answered by 420Linda 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
sounds like relationship is over! If he cant even send nice emails that are generally caring and wanting the best for you then what could he offer you in the future? not much! You have seen his true colours, move on and find someone more mature.
2006-08-25 01:39:36 · answer #2 · answered by nicole 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
His response when things got difficult should be sufficient indication of his true character for you to have cut this cord when you had the chance. Don't go back there. In your heart of hearts, you know that it won't work. You will just be reopening old wounds.
2006-08-25 01:41:39 · answer #3 · answered by Bethany 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
in my opinion, it seems he is still bitter from his last relationship and you've just shown up and he feels you are his free relief object. you need to set him straight and tell him who you are and what you feel, and if he doesn't respect that, he doesn't seem worth the time or concern. but if you're feelings need to interfere and you feel he does has ashberger's, do some research, such as in the book: Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental and Emotional Disorders; it may help you. i hope your situation turns out well and be careful.
2006-08-25 01:50:28 · answer #4 · answered by AJLeigh 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my first time doing this answer thing but, this doesnt sound promising at all. i dont know any guys that would talk to an ex just to be friends. and this possibly something later, yeah sounds to convinient...true love isnt supposed to bring all this with it. my rule for life is "an ex will always be just that"
2006-08-25 01:46:41 · answer #5 · answered by marcoE 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He sounds like a waste of time. Self-centered people are seldom anything but that...put up with him is you feel the need for self-punishment, otherwise you're better off without him.
2006-08-25 01:39:07 · answer #6 · answered by benjilove 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe He's venting his anger over your break up. If you care try to talk to him about your thoughts and his, Maybe he does not notice his behaviour, or worse. he may know but you never will unless you ask. good luck
2006-08-25 01:46:05 · answer #7 · answered by ernest r 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just give him his time and maybe he'll come around and realize that he needs you. maybe he really does love you underneath but doesn't want to admit it so he covers it up by being angry.
2006-08-25 01:40:32 · answer #8 · answered by beforehecheats 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is just mad becasue he has to "settle" for you. He tried to get better and failed. He will always be angry about that and take it out on you.
2006-08-25 01:38:47 · answer #9 · answered by Stan the answer Man 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Friends of Benefits, that all I can say.
2006-08-25 01:38:22 · answer #10 · answered by I SLEEP TO DIE. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋