Thanks to every one that helped me in the past with my questions about conceiving. Got my period today and after 2 and a half years of tdisrying and 1 miscarriage Im giving up :( Its been to hard. Disappointment month after month. I physically can't take it any more. I just wanted to say thank you to every one that has ever helped me in the past!
2006-08-24 18:27:05 · 8 answers · asked by Miranda S 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Trying to Conceive
AND also good luck to every one trying to start you family or trying for more. I wish you the very BEST of luck!!!!
BABY DUST!
2006-08-24 18:37:20 · update #1
I don't know if I answered any of your questions, BUT I want you to know that the month I officially gave up, I became pregnant. I think the trick is totally letting go, forgetting about it and not caring anymore. When you do, you relax. There's a weight lifted off of you ...you're free. So I think you're doing the right thing. Just forget about it and enjoy life ; ) I understand the disappointment - it took me 2 years and 2 miscarriages. Very painful. You'll be OK - promise!
I wrote this response for another lady that's suffering from infertility. I thought it would be helpful for you, too:
I've experienced that desperate feeling to have a child. In fact, when I was struggling with infertility, it seemed to become an obsession. I was constantly questioning why that scum-bag woman on the street was pregnant and I wasn't. I just couldn't understand why there were so many teenagers sportin' big bellies and not me, a woman who was mature and financially stable. It just made no sense. It still doesn't, but at one point I gave up. I was so sick of being disappointed month after month. After two years of trying, I finally said "Forget it!" I quit thinking about it, I quit questioning, I quit being angry. It was like a big weight was lifted off of me. I felt relief and I felt free. So many people kept telling me before I gave up, "You need to relax, you need to relax, blah, blah, blah" How could I? I was faced with a heart-wrenching problem. I wanted to be a mother and I couldn't! Let me tell you, those people were right. The month I gave up, was the month I became pregnant with my son, who is now almost two years old. It was the month that I quit charting, quit taking Clomid, etc. All by myself! The cure to my infertility was indeed relaxing and letting go of my desperation and that emptiness that you mentioned here.
You will need to let go to rid yourself of the emptiness that you're experiencing. In time, you will be a mother, but you must find it in yourself to become a whole person without being dependent on becoming pregnant. That's sort of a codependency situation that you shouldn't be in. :) I know it's the hardest thing in the world to say "I give up" and really mean it when trying to conceive, but I know so many women that it's worked for. When you decide to let go, it will come to you, but you really need to let go before it will work. I know this sounds stupid, but give up for now. Just forget it. Start doing something as a hobby, focus on anything, but not ttc.
I understand your pain. I really do. I also know that things will work out for you if you let them.
2006-08-24 18:37:32 · answer #1 · answered by Answers to Nurse 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know it must be hard.
4 years ago I was diganosed with Graves' Disease which is an overactive thyroid disorder and I was told and believed that because my body was under so much stress that I wouldn't be able to conceive for some years.
I was on so many tablets for both my thyroid and heart that I resigned myself somewhat to knowing that having a child would be a dream in the distant future.
Then when I least expected it - I found out that I was pregnant and now I have a beautiful daughter who will be turning 2 in a few months.
Sometimes when you least expect it, it happens.
2006-08-25 01:44:00 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i am so sorry to here that my best friend had been trying to and she found out she was having twins and then 4 weeks latter she found out that one had died so they watched her closely and at 10 weeks along she found out that both baby's had passed away and she had to have a dnc she is getting back to her old self again now but it has been hard for her she has given up now to so i wish you all the best and pray that you will always know that others do care even if you don't personal know them
2006-08-25 23:31:28 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
So many couples have given up and adopted children then they had one or two of their own. If the Dr is saying there's nothing wrong there is still a chance that it will happen.
Good luck to you
2006-08-25 01:36:46 · answer #4 · answered by Laura 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't give up your hope. A friend of mine, after 8 years of marriage, got pregnant now. Just keep trying.
2006-08-25 02:22:07 · answer #5 · answered by lyna 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't start and don't stop. Just let things take its course. You never know .....if you enjoy life and continue to have sex with your husband without birth control without the anticipation of pregnancy it might happen! I know what you mean the disappointment is horrible.
2006-08-25 07:47:00 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I gave up almost 2 years ago.... and 11 months later had a PERFECT baby girl! lol
2006-08-28 20:04:44 · answer #7 · answered by Jessica 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe fi you stop trying it will happen, one can hope.. i'm sorry to hear about your loss, my friend went through the same thing for years, soon after she gave up it happened for her, as i hope someday it does for you
2006-08-25 01:33:14 · answer #8 · answered by Jayme 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋