i loved 1 girl, she too loved me since last 5 years.. i am 21yrs of age.... now because of her parents compulsion, she is going to marry another guy.. what should i do.. pls give me serious answers,, i cant forget her,,. she is my everything.. dont take this as joke.. please..
2006-08-24 18:04:17 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Perhaps you both should sit down with her parents to talk it out about the issue. Perhaps they would then have a change of heart and picked you instead.
2006-08-24 18:08:18 · answer #1 · answered by Arzy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Poor you, the comments you are getting show really that most fo the people don't even know what your actualy problem is. It is very difficult for this girl, I suppose, to get out of this arranged marriage, or otherwise she would have done it. Are her parents aware of your mutual love, and are they consciously keeping you separated, or could it be that they simply do not know about their daughters feelings? I cannot judge this situation from such a distance, but I would suggest her to talk to her parents about this matter, and to at least ask for reporting the marriage.
I don't know how conservative they are, and I don't know how they will react to this, but it is certaily worth a try. It would be such a pity to leave such a beautiful love for ever...If they do not agree with you, you or this girl should ask them why, whether it is caste difference (which I do not hope), or simply another matter, for example that you do not have the kind of job her parents dreamt of for their son-in-law. You must resolve this trought talking, or at least try to. If nothing helps then you should weigh up the different factors: your loyalty towards your parents, and your love toward the partner...I don't know if your girl would be strong enough to have the courage to oppose her parents and get married to you...
Please contact me if you have any new problem, or if you have found a solution, I would very much like to know how everythihng went.
Best of Luck...be confident everything will work out...
2006-08-25 03:03:18 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This breaks my heart. It is so sad. No one should be under parental compulsion to get married, especially if she's in love with somebody else. Is she strong enough to defy her parents to be with you? Do you have enough resources to keep her safe and support a family? What do her parents find unacceptable about you? Is it something you can change? If it has all been arranged, you may just be too late. God bless you and give you strength and peace.
Don't listen to American attitude; they, for the most part, cannot understand the situation.
2006-08-25 01:21:44 · answer #3 · answered by huztuno 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to hear, I know someone that went thru the same thing & now she is married & he is still not & they are having an affair, which is so wrong especially to the inoncent husband involved. I know it may seem impossible but sort it out now before she marries and ruines her life. No matter how many years she maybe married for but you guys will never stop loving each other becos you guys were seperated not by choice of yours but by others. Good luck.
2006-08-25 03:17:31 · answer #4 · answered by Ali R 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry, she is marrying the man she wants to marry for whatever the reason. Unless her dad is escorting her down the aisle with a gun stuck in her ribs, she is doing it because she wants to do it.
This is your cue to move on. Sorry for your pain. It is over. You had a good run. Remember when one door closes another opens. Take time to heal and then find the one who is better for you than she could ever be.
2006-08-25 01:13:34 · answer #5 · answered by Chris 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you both are truly in love then you should brief your senior family members, if her love was casual then you should forget her and let live her way. You love will not dry up and the world is big enough to accommodate your love.
2006-08-28 12:30:16 · answer #6 · answered by nadkarni_chaitanya 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first off all where are u staying while looking to ur question i feel u r from small town or village pls it is my advice let her get marry and u make your carrier coz this is the age is to study.
2006-08-28 04:17:19 · answer #7 · answered by Krishna K 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell hger to watch the movie The Hraduate. It might make her not only change her mind, but leave her parents' womb. Sher sounds immature.
2006-08-25 01:09:04 · answer #8 · answered by Legandivori 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well leave her all beacuse she no more wants to stay with u... even if u get married to her u cant leave happy life.. in short leave her ... i know it is quit difficult to leave her.. and forget her.. but that is the the way life moves ... ifeel u can start to enjoy more...after u leave her.. be positive... swith to someone else.. she might be not the one for u.. god might have made some else for u..
2006-08-25 01:19:02 · answer #9 · answered by dev 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All you can do is tell her and her parents and hope that she comes back to you. Tell her how you feel, I mean.
2006-08-25 01:11:08 · answer #10 · answered by T-Jay 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋