What do i do to get back at my husband for having a affair?

Answer 1

Sit down and talk to him. Ask him if he still loves you. At the same time, ask yourself if you can forgive him.

Answer 2

What do you feel you need to do? Trust yourself, deep down insided you know what you want to do. Getting even, solves what? Sometimes getting closer, but have scars and sometimes totally destroying what may have been salvagable. Do you both have kids? Does he regret his affair? Talk, cry, forgive, love but never forget. Depending on your other situations in life is what should direct you to the path you need to go. Who are we to tell you to leave when he may really be a great guy who just made a stupid mistake because of an evil woman! Or he may just be an insensitive jerk who needs to get out of your life. Need more info. What ever you do, Be careful, be safe.

Answer 3

Ask yourself first if you can forgive him, then you need to sit him down and talk to him(not argue or accuse, or ask about the other woman--it is between the two of you--she doesn't matter). If you can forgive him, then you must let him know that if you guys are going to stay together, he is going to have to do a lot of work to get your trust back. Now that the affair is exposed, he is going through his own personal hell, so your "getting back" at him may do more harm than good and you are above all of that. When my wife cheated on me, I did forgive her, him and told them so, but I told her that she would have to rebuild the trust I had lost in her and I told him that he HAD to tell his wife before my family did(He was cheating with my wife AND my sister). I could have gotten revenge but it wouldn't have made me feel good, and the joy you would get seeing him squirm would only be temporary.

Answer 4

I know that hurts - A LOT.

But a man that has a go around another block once usually will go around again. Granted there are few (VERY FEW) that don't, you'll never truely trust him again, so is it worth your stress to stay? I'd say if you chose to leave him (or kick him out if it's your place) then that's the best you can do for your self and it will show him that you aren't one to just accept and not do nothing. Making a fuss isn't going to make it better. If you have kids, think about them and how good of a dad he is and try if possible for their sake to accomodate, but for you, don't risk having it happen to you again. He found someone, you will too - after.

Answer 5

Well it is your choice to stay with him why would you want to get back at him it will only make matters worse. Two wrongs do not make a right. If it bothers you so much why would you want him back. If you went back you need to forgive not forget. Remember you had a choice you could of left when you had the chance and you still can.

Answer 6

Divorce him and take half of his money and property and then make sure you look really good at all the court hearings.

I dont get upset anymore, I have found that if I am nice and always happy around him, and especially if I look good -- that is the best revenge. He will be so sorry he cheated on you.

Answer 7

if he doesn't know that you already know, set up something to prove in court and get him for adultery. don't do anything stupid by cheating on him too, he might turn the table around and get you in trouble in court.
or, does he have a lot of money? put your name on every property you both have before you take him to court so you're entitle for at least some of them legally. it's more trouble to just take his stuff that's not in your name. that is if you want to divorce him.
but you know some people go through this and get over it and still together. i have no idea how they do it. they say when you love somebody, you're willing to forgive. i hope i don't have to find out myself. but i tell my husband if ever he does it to me, i'm going to make his life miserable by staying married with him, spend his money and won't let him divorce me so he can't get the other girl in our house. i worked hard making our house a home.
i hope you don't have children, but what he's doing is still terrible.
hang on there, girl. i hope you find your best answer.

Answer 8

Hi sportsplay, there is always the Lorena Bobbit solution, but we don't need to be that extreme. The best thing to do is to simply divorce his ***, and say good riddance you jerk. Because i don't know about you, but i could never trust someone that cheated on me, even if it was just one time. By no means will you get over the situation just like that, but you will have taken your first step on the road to recovery!

Answer 9

well you couldn't forgive him so it's best to leave him. once you forgive him he'll repeat his mistake because he knows you will eventually forget about it, so don't get emotional over it because he obviously didn't think about the hurt it would cause you by having an affair - get your stuff, pull your life together and move on with it, you dont need someone like him.

Answer 10

Max out all of your credit cards and get a home equity loan and a title loan on the car. Then leave him and divorce him. The marriage is over if someone cheats.

Answer 11

what will that achieve? u both need counselling to find out if your marriage is able to b saved. Whats the point in fighting to be right? u will b even more miserable later. Try to work it out and if u cant get past it, move on.