they have no children together, he has no children at all, they have been seperated for two or three years, they do not live or have much contact with each other
2006-08-24 17:48:03 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
(shaking my head no) No...don't date him until he shows some respect for your new relationship by officially divorcing his wife.
2006-08-24 17:52:23 · answer #1 · answered by azngurl 2 · 1⤊ 3⤋
Date him, sure! But only a few times, he hasn't got divorced for a reason. If they are not together and never going to be than you should encourage him to divorce, especially if you are interested, which sounds like you are.
Don't let years go by waiting because I knew a couple that were together 8 yrs and broke up because he wouldn't get a divorce. His reason why: he didn't have the money.
I think he had cold feet and used it as a safeguard and excuse not to marry again but just be in a relationship without financial benefits and so on.
Him not getting divorced is an unresolved relationship and perhaps he is still coping with it but encorage him to resolve before you go on.
2006-08-24 18:02:01 · answer #2 · answered by Beano4aReason 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I would say yes but with caution if there are no children involved i would ask my self as to why after 3yrs separated why are they not divorced and what is there relationship with each other like do they have regular contact is one or the other holding back with the hope of a reconciliation I would want answers before entering a relationship because if a divorce did ensue you could be named as the other party in proceedings
2006-08-24 18:25:33 · answer #3 · answered by little mermaid 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My first instinct is to say it's not okay.
No matter how long a couple is separated, if they are married, they are married.
In this situation I would ask myself, why after 2-3 years have they not gone through a divorce?
It seems obvious that there has to be some feelings still going on there.
I truly would stay out of the situation until the divorce is final. You never know what will happen in those kinds of situations, and many times it can turn out very negative.
2006-08-24 17:55:03 · answer #4 · answered by anabele6 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
date him
2006-08-24 20:28:00 · answer #5 · answered by Sarah 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Is it a financial thing? He cant afford to finalize divorce nor can she?....or.... is it in the hopes that things don't go they way they like in their single lives to be able to just bounce back to each other?! Save yourself from a lot of grief, stay away until he signs away on paper cuz they both may just play u for a fool.
2006-08-24 17:59:09 · answer #6 · answered by Nikie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeh go for it , life is short mate take everyday as it comes after 3 years if they where gonna be back together they would be by now dont ya think!!
BUT if he starts messing about you know not being able to see you that night or hes got to help her out again kick him into touch dont waste your heart on him.
2006-08-24 18:30:58 · answer #7 · answered by Angel with a dirty face 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is a long time why no divorce yet ask yourself that question. I do not agree with dating him but thats a choice only you can make.
2006-08-24 17:54:58 · answer #8 · answered by Amy M 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i guess in this case i would think it would be okay,but be very careful, because he may just be telling you this and seeing her anyway. my first true love was separated from his wife and made me think they were done and over with and they also had no kids, then all of a sudden they were spending time together to talk and next thing i know, our relationship was over and they were trying to make their relationship work out . that was alto of heart ache on my part because i fell head over heals in love and to him i was just a rebound, something to pacify him until he didn't want it any more.
2006-08-24 18:44:26 · answer #9 · answered by ritamork 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No!Wait until the divorce is finial,or you might just end up getting hurt!Dating a "married man no matter the circumstances is wrong!!!"That should tell you what kind of a man he is!Do you really want to be with someone whom cheats on his wife?
2006-08-24 17:57:15 · answer #10 · answered by Sweetheart 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I'ld try to sound him out as to whether he wants to divorce his wife, or not bother, as it could potentially cause problems in the long run for you. And if he doesn't want to I would want to know why not
2006-08-24 18:11:36 · answer #11 · answered by emily_jane2379 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋