so here the deal, me and this guy were friends for 4 1/2 years before we decided to get together. I know eveything about him and I love him dearly, hes my everything. Hes in the United States Coast Guard stationed in Florida and I'm in Chicago, long distance realtionship. I'll soon be in Florida for this Disney College program, but anyway recently we thought that we were pregnant and at first we both were scared and didnt know what to do but a couple of days past and we began to understand and accept the concept of being parents. It was great it got to the point were he would have me put the phone to stomach...then we found out that i wasn't and he act like it didn't bother him. We discussed maybe tryin for another one (seeing as though we both kinda wanted it) and hes not sure. Were both 19 like I said before hes in the United States Coast guard and I'm in College studying photography/ Journalism and work with CTA. I just want to know if with our current situation if we should try?
2006-08-24 17:30:57 · 13 answers · asked by Coast Guard CCM lover 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
ummm no finish school, i was 17 when i got preggo, thankfully i was a senior 1 wk from graduation when i found out, but i wish i would have waited till i went to college and been able to give my son a better life, bit i love him just the same, not im 20 living with my parents and his dad left 7 months ago and i am struggling to survive and take care of my son. just make sure you are stable and have a good job and all b4 you have a baby. k good luck i know you will make the right choice!
2006-08-24 20:21:33 · answer #1 · answered by Jeremysmom05 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well from personal experience I would have to say wait. I got married while young and in the military. Bad mistake. At your age there is still so much growing to do. Not necessarily growing up but maturing and figuring out who each of you are. Believe me I understand you have known each other for 4 1/2 years but everyone changes and grows a lot between 18 and 22. Give it a couple years and get closer to finishing school. If you stay together through it all you will be able to stay through the hard times of being a parent. Life is long and as great as you make it. There is PLENTY of time to have a kid. Hang in there and enjoy. Or get married and then go for it. The CG will take good care of ya'll but can you handle him being out on deployment while you are at home on the base away from your family with a screaming kid? There a few important life questions to consider before having a kid. If you both want to get married and can handle it then hey go for it and enjoy the life you create. It is AWESOME but a Hugh responsibility to look at. We can not answer this question for you but hopefully some of the comments on here will make you think about tit ALL first. It is not just a baby, it is a life you are responsible for, for the next eighteen years at least and then college. Good luck in your decision.
2006-08-25 03:31:32 · answer #2 · answered by usmcowboyd 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I was pregnant when I was 20 and my husband is in the CG. I had wanted kids since I was 15, so I was very happy! Now my daughter is 8, and looking back, I would have waited at least a couple more years. The CG will take good care of you(if you're married), but I would take time to have some fun before having to always worry about a sitter!
2006-08-25 01:25:57 · answer #3 · answered by nguam4now 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wait a few years. I love my son dearly, but I had him when i was 19 and it was hard. It was also hard on my relationship with his father, especially when we got stationed overseas. I was the active duty one. It is nice now because I am still young for being his mother and we are pretty close, but when i was younger, it was very hard. Being OK with having one is OK, but I wouldn't suggest trying for one right now. You may not realize it yet, but there are alot of things in life that you may want to accomplish before you try for another one. I am going to school right now, and I have another and another one on the way. I have a great husband, but it is not in any way easy going to school when you have kids. You sound like you will be great when you have one though. good luck.
2006-08-25 00:54:05 · answer #4 · answered by hazel eyes 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO! do not try. You will have the rest of you lives to try and have babies. You cannot go back to 19. It is a great time of you life that you will miss if you give it up. And believe me I was a teen mom and you cannot do what you friends are doing. You can't go to frat parties if you want. You cant celebrate your 21 bd without worrying about a babysitter. Take your time, go to college and enjoy being young and unattached. Once you have responsibilities you cant give them up.
2006-08-25 00:36:15 · answer #5 · answered by sexyheater 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't. You listed a ton of reasons not to. Unmarried, long-distance relationship, still in school, you are just 19.... You are a smart girl, you know what the intelligent answer is, don't let your emotions take over. Emotions won't support a baby.
2006-08-25 00:37:35 · answer #6 · answered by Mustang Gal 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you are too young, live a little before tying yourself to a child. A child is a full time job for 18 years and a part-time job for the rest of your life. good luck
2006-08-25 02:54:00 · answer #7 · answered by maigen_obx 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
marriage is always the way you should go first before considering children. because raising a child in an unstable relationship is not only stressing for you but not good for the child's development as well. Know that your going to be reliable and able to fully care for a child before considering conceiving.
2006-08-25 00:38:48 · answer #8 · answered by know_moore 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WHY would you think that you guys could raise a kid in a long-distance relationship? Do you guys even really know eachother??? You need to live together first to really find out if you are compatible----DON'T bring a kid into it without knowing that much. You are both still kids yourselves!!!!
2006-08-25 00:35:48 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No way. You need some time to grow up and sort things out. There's no hurry here. Take your time, get married, then worry about kids.
2006-08-25 00:33:34 · answer #10 · answered by AngiesHusband 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋