Do you believe in Love, friendship, companionship, or pure lust? Which one will prevail?

Question

I've lived them all, haven't loved since my first love, friends I've got, companionship can't stand as I've had it for four years and gave it all, money wouldn't buy me, lust fades away quickly unless you try new things so what else is there in a relationship? Please help me become wiser in human behavior as I'd like to know!

Answer 1

You ARE where I've "been" - so here's where I've ended up: With a relationship that incorporates ALL the qualities you mentioned. Call it what you will... -Maybe what I've found is a "soul mate". -Yeah, I never believed in the concept either.- But it's the ONLY thing that comes CLOSE- to explaining what it's like to find someone you can Love, Stand, Enjoy being with, Desire, Need, and Thank God for. Will you ever find such a person?- Judging from the depth of your question; Yes. Because your searching shows that you are an "Accident Waiting To Happen".-And God LOVES to plan "accidents" ! :)

Answer 2

I believe in all of them. I have a great love and I've loved in the past also. So your is still to come! Companionship is gonna come with that. Also your right about the Lust.... but only if you let it fade. I've been with my husband almost 9 yrs and married for six. Lust isn't gonna be as heart pounding, sweaty and exhausting as it once was... but it's still there. We've always said that nomatter what goes on we have to provide time for each other. If you don't, that's when things go down hill. When my husband is leaving for work I'll give him a kiss good-bye and when he turns to go out the door I'll whistle and slap him on the a$$.....lol.....That's just one example. A relationship is only what you make it. Like when I'm still asleep when he leaves for work I'll wake up to a letter on the table saying how much he wishes he could be here with me, he loves me and misses me.

I know that this is meant for everyone experience.....

Don't get me wrong, life is not always a walk in the park. You've got kids, bills and work. Everyday life can grab hold of you and if you get caught up in it, you can easily forget about what's important and neglect the one you love. But that's when you speak up and say "hey, we need a night for us"... and then just plan something. I doesn't have to be expensive, a movie maybe a shower and things take off from there. I think I've said enough now......lol

Good Luck hun. You deserve LOVE

Oh and I forgot, TRUST- is the most important Key. Without it, no relationship will last.

Answer 3

Claudia, What a great question.
The answer is love.
Forget about the "trappings" of money, companionship, and most of all, lust.
Those things are temporary...
Honestly, love is forever.
I hope you can understand just how complex an emotion love is.

Claudia, love is the most powerful emotion in the world.
It spans every range and definition of human emotion, and experience.
Love is so powerful, it will cause you, very easily to behave in ways you never thought possible. (!)
Both positive, and negative.
As a young man, I thought I "knew" everything about love.
I was wrong.
When my daughter was born, even though I didn't yet know It, is
where my journey concerning love, took yet, another turn.
Seeing her grow into an amazing woman, now 20, she has no
idea about how much she has taught me about love.
All of those other concerns.. just faded away.

Friendship not born of love, is not friendship.
Companionship, without love is nothing more than a mere word.

Love, Claudia, truley starts from within your heart, and soul.
This may be difficult to understand, but please belive me that you must truley love yourself....
Before you can truley love others.
You sound young to me, and that is of no consequence.
Ask your parent's, share your heart with your family.
Trust your heart.. but here is the hardest part...
trusting yourself.
I hope this helps...
Lot's of love for you.
Be happy!!!! :)

Answer 4

None of them will prevail. All are transitory. The best you can hope for is an extended period of emotional security, and to deal with its ending as wisely as possible.

The trick is to concentrate on the closeness during that period, not on its end - because you never know when that will happen. It's a bit like the "one day at a time" lived by older folks who never know if the current day is their last. They make peace with this inevitability and live as well as they possibly can for that day.

Although this sounds like a gloomy forecast, it's not if you live that "one day" philosphy as honestly as possible. What's even gloomier is the result of obsessing on longer and/or better relationships the way you do. Remember the Buddhist maxim, "the pursuit of stimulation leads to depression." Seek moderation in all things, and live for moment. You are the priority over realtionships with other people. Make peace with yourself first.

Good luck!

Answer 5

true love and friendship as a combination will last forever. Lust fades very quickly. If you have a true friend that will always stay. My future husband and I are friends as well as being in love and I think that will make the relationship endure for the long haul.

Answer 6

You've simply not met the right person to share that quad of relationships with- I'm fortunate enough to be able to say that I've been blessed in one relationship that gives me all those things-I had lived them all to an extent before, but now I have the cake and eat it too!! Someday your heart will flip for real!!

Answer 7

None will prevail, Everything in life is based upon current circumstances and therefore are subject to change daily sometimes hourly.

Answer 8

It depends on context. Human behavior can get complex. Maybe you should just read a book on sociology.

Answer 9

If a relationship doesn't have them all, it won't last. Even if it does, there's no guarantee. But it will have been worth the time.

Answer 10

everything is posible, depends on the person. but yeah i would sugest that you read the post above