Hey ppl, it's long story, but I sacrifice and left my country and family for a girl that we suppose to marry, but her dad ask for a dowry (Mahr) of 2 millions $. Now I am alone in forgien country and she sacrifice me for the sake of her father, she left to please her dad, although she love me so much, and she promised me from befor that she will elope with me if she have to befor I left my country, so right now I am alone in forgien country and all I asked to be with someone will care about me.
And like 2 month ago she cut every contact with me and I can't see her or even talk to her.
I am so mad and angry becuz right now I miss her so much and I am feeling alone with big stress around me, speacilly after I got sick for 3 days with no one to take care of me or know anything about me, I could die and no one will know.... so I know a way to destroy her relationship with her family and make her alone around the ppl around her, so should I do that or no !!! she may back to me !!!
2006-08-24 17:21:54 · 17 answers · asked by rani 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
NO! What she did to you isn't right, it's mean. But that should say something to you about what her true feelings were before you even left. Get angry, get sorry you wasted your time, but don't get back at her, that won't get you anything. And if you care about her as much as you say you do, you wouldn't even consider such a thing. Hurting another person on purpose is never excusable no matter the circumstances. I'm sorry you feel alone, especially considering where you're at, but take refuge in God, he's better than any old woman :) and He can help heal your heart. You never know what may happen when you return, either.
2006-08-24 17:28:43 · answer #1 · answered by littleangelfire81 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love or the lack of it can cause people to say and do things that they wouldn't otherwise say or do. It takes a lot to cause some one to leave their family and country. But as bad as it feels now, time is a great healer. You just need to wait it out, no, it won't be easy. But while you are waiting, look around you. Try to find something or some one to help you pass the time in a positive way. Is there any reason you can't go back to your family and country? If there is, then just make the best with where you are. And no, destroying the relationship she has with her family will not help you, you'd just belittle yourself. Who knows, you may find some body you'll love more than her. At least give it a try. Good luck!!
2006-08-24 17:59:56 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK QUESTION did you pay the dowry? How does this work in your country? If she didn't marry you than you are entitled to that back are you not can your family help you?
Other than that if she isn't going to marry you and you are not happy here than go where you are happy and get a new wife... Good luck.
BTW if you have 2 million most girls in this country will marry you.
2006-08-24 17:35:19 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
think about yourself with higher standards. you do something wrong and you will hurt your family. you need to be with your family try to contact the newspaper and see if there is some embassy thing or some other route to get home i don't want you to be stranded and end up on one of the missing lists. if your family doesn't know where you are you might already be on one like the Charlie Project . i pray you will be safe and if you need clothes or food or such the United way can help if you are a teen call 18009999999 runaway hotline for food medical and shelter just stay both good and safe please.
2006-08-24 17:31:17 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should not intentionally do anything that could potentially hurt her. That would be vindictive and just plain wrong. She hurt you, but even still, you should never retaliate: that only brings more problems to you and her. She might still love you, and she may be suffering too, but she obviously finds it very important for her future happiness for her family to support her marriage (who wouldn't?). Besides, destroying her relationship with her family will certainly not bring her back to you. She may just end up furious at you. And I have to say, if you really loved her, you wouldn't want to hurt her or her loved ones. You have sacrificed much, but even still, continue to be a good person, and life will reward you.
2006-08-24 18:05:07 · answer #5 · answered by zosoo7 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you destroyed her bond with her family she would never come back to you. If you are a decent person you would no longer consider this. You are in a tough position with no easy way to solve or stop the pain you are in. Move on you will be better off in the long run.
2006-08-24 17:27:59 · answer #6 · answered by jeff b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In fact the dowry system only exist in India/Sri Lanka. So I am wondering in which foreign country u are in. If she is truly in love with u then there is no reason why she walk out on u. Could it be you are in pursue of her love which she has no interest at all. The biggest failure in human being is when assumption and imaginations gets the better of us.
2006-08-24 17:27:13 · answer #7 · answered by lanks20032003 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave her alone and go back to your family if you can. Or perhaps a family member can come here and visit you for a while. This girl is trouble and wrong for you and did not love you like she said.
2006-08-24 18:28:27 · answer #8 · answered by AveGirl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she really loves you and you are not crazy just thinking she loves you, than you should fight for her love. Try to get in contact with her. Try to visit her. It is ok if she wants to leave her hfamily for you if she really loves you, because when you love some one you want to spend the rest of your life with them and family cannot and should not come between love. You have traveled very far for her. Also whats up with the 2 million dollars where are you from or what? That is crazy 3rd world country stuff buying wives? bunch of crazies/
2006-08-24 17:25:39 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
It's not right. But you know what? What they did wasn't right either. Think about it, they tried to extort 2 mil. out of you. You were either taken advantage of for being foreign, or they were trying to scam you.
I'd probably just leave myself, but if you've got a way to mess them over, then I understand why you would do it.
2006-08-24 17:27:49 · answer #10 · answered by akristel2003 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋