ok me and my bf has been togther awhile now an he wants to get married i love him with all my heart theres not a doubt in my mind tht hes totally the one for me should i merry him regardless of wht everyone else thinks>? im thinking about jumping the gun and showing everyone else how much i love this guy so much wht should i do ?? wht do yall think ?
2006-08-24 17:16:53 · 43 answers · asked by koolezville07 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I would wait a few more months...
2006-08-24 17:20:28 · answer #1 · answered by Guzzy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love is patient. What's the rush? If you both love each other and know your going to be together forever what's the point in rushing to the alter? You can show him how much you love him in other ways. Does he want to marry you because he is afraid of losing you or your afraid of losing him? Love is also blind, what does everyone else see in your relationship that you don't? Does he treat you good? Respect you? Let you be your own person? Just some things to think about. My advice don't jump the Gun.
2006-08-24 17:26:29 · answer #2 · answered by Peace 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, I think you should finish your education. You barely have verbal or writing skills to get and keep a job. If what you are writing here is the extent of your skills, you would barely qualify to work at McDonald's.
Secondly, don't have any children unless you can take care of them financially yourself. As my mom told me, always have some profession you can go back to, be it a nurse, a teacher, or run a business, accounting, or whatever.
Thirdly, you can get married anytime. Since you are very young, it is easier to dissolve a relationship than a marriage. And marriages between kids really don't last much longer than 4 years ---- what you find attractive at 17, isn't what you will find attractive at 23.
2006-08-24 17:24:59 · answer #3 · answered by April 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its not about everyone else its about u 2. Theres a book u can buy it was on oprah 100 things to know b4 u get married (something like that) u need to make sure u both know and understand what each other wants out of life and hey if u love each other and there are no doubts then go for it!
2006-08-24 18:51:55 · answer #4 · answered by nicole 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if u are asking this question then u arent ready yet... wait till u are ready, and ask ur bf to wait as well. if u jump the gun it will only look good on the outside to show off to friends but is that what u really want? have u completely thought about it? the phrase "jumping the gun" was not coined for anything good remember that
2006-08-24 17:20:45 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
dont marry the guy just to defy your friends or family...you should get married because you love him and want to spend your life with him. there are other ways to show everyone how much you love this guy other than getting married to him. you might not feel the same way a year down the road as you do now, so why not wait? if he really loves you, he'll wait until you're ready to get married too.
2006-08-24 17:20:38 · answer #6 · answered by mighty_power7 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen to your heart!Don't just marry him because you love him or to prove a point!Make sure you know that he is the one!The ONE you want to spend the rest of your life with!Make sure you're in LOVE too and that he feels the same!Alot of times people change after they get married!It would have helped a little more if you said how long you have been together!Marriage is hard,and it takes two to make it work!Good Luck!and God Bless!
2006-08-24 17:31:45 · answer #7 · answered by Sweetheart 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
U r the one getting married, not others. Y bother what others think. Before he change his mind, u better say I do. Once he change his mind, that's it. He will never come back again. It is reli not easy to get someone u like and someone like u. Since it happen, strike it hot. Don't think so much, think about the consequences later, u won't loose anything. Go ahead & all the best.
2006-08-24 17:24:16 · answer #8 · answered by lady lady 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just think about it a bit, and just think if you personally are ready, if your ready to be with him for life. Yeah you probably do want to, but dont rush away, if you are certain he is "the one" then yall both have all the time in the world to decide when to get married or just throw the marriage a little later.
-Edward
2006-08-24 17:21:42 · answer #9 · answered by cursedconcept 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You definitely DO NOT get married to 'show everyone else how much I love this guy'. You get married b/c you love him and want to spend the REST of your life with him and no one else. You get married b/c you can't imagine life without him, don't want to imagine life without him. You get married b/c you want to take care of him (and have him take care of you) through bad times that may come. All these are reasons to get married, NOT to prove something to anyone else.
The simple revealing fact is that you have hesitation to saying yes and 'jumping the gun'. There's a reason you're hesitating and you need to be honest with yourself about it.
2006-08-24 17:24:20 · answer #10 · answered by littleangelfire81 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have to ask, then maybe it's not the right thing for either of you. Either you love him and you want to spend the rest of your life with him or you don't. Life is never a sure thing, neither is love, but if you don't take that chance, you will never know. No one whould have to tell you what is right or what is wrong. The choice has to be up to both of you, no one else.
2006-08-24 17:27:53 · answer #11 · answered by winteroneca 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋