my son was born 5 weeks early and was a preemie his bday comes up nex month and he is not walking yet?

Question

and the doctors to this day dont know why he came early is it bad that i feel that its my fault that he hasnt made this mildstone and everything else he done early .....

Answer 1

babies in general do things at their on pace.
My daughter who is now 11 was a preemie she started walking at 10 months but my nephew started at 12 months and he was not a preemie.
Its just a mother's thing to feel at fought for everything they feel is wrong. Be strong, he'll do it sooner or later. Just keep working with him. Have patience and don't beat yourself up.
Just remember Jesus made all of us to be different for a reason. He will walk when he is ready.
Some people always get the misconception that babies should do this and that by a set time, but that is not the case. He is his own self, just as you and I as adults have learned things and started doing things at our own time.

Best regards

Answer 2

I've seen some similar answers but I wanted to add my own so you see that you shouldn't worry. My 2 children were born full term. The first started walking at 14 months. (He's 3 now and is all over the place.) The 2nd is currently 14 months already, but is not walking yet. I'm guessing it will be another month.

Every child is different. Don't go to an Early Intervention Center, it is much too early. And please correct me if I'm wrong, but I think I recall reading that preemies follow developmental milestones based on their due date, and not the actual birth date.

Stop feeling guilty. Feeling guilty doesn't help him one bit. Instead, encourage him during playtime. With you close by, let him pullup on furnitire and cruise. Don't use a walker, it might delay him further because a walker makes him use different muscles than what is used by really walking, and he might not be as motivated to walk if he can already get around using the walker. Pull him up to standing and practice walking him while holding his hands. At first hold both his hands. Eventually, hold only one hand. And then later, you will try letting go... and have your videocam ready!

Maybe his walking isn't the real issue. Maybe the real one is that you're feeling guilty that he was born early. You might just blame yourself for everything bad that happens to him forever. Just count your blessings, and make every day count.

If you know all this, but you still can't help it, then maybe you could consider taking with your doctor about it. Who knows, you just might have postpartum depression. Usually this depression occurs within days of the baby's delivery, but "can occur even a year later"".

And if you do have postpartum depression, it will be so much better for you and your whole family if you get the proper treatment for it.

Answer 3

If you are concerned about your son not walking, you should contact your local Early Intervention office and have him evaluated. They do the evaluation and provide services at no cost. You do not need a perscription for this.

As with any baby born premature, you need to remember to correct your son's age when looking at milestones. If he's turning one, he's definitely still within normal age range for not walking yet. But if your gut is telling you something isn't quite right, you should definitely pursue it.

You may also want to consider taking your son to a Developmental Pediatrician too. They can also do an overall assessment as to where your son's development stands at this point.

My daughter came early due to incompetent cervix. She was born 15 weeks early; at 25 weeks gestation. I know exactly how you're feeling as far as the guilt goes. Even though my daughter is now 4 1/2, I still have moments of guilt. But logically I know I did nothing wrong. It was still MY body that failed her though. It does get a bit easier with time. I used to feel really guilty about my daughter not meeting her milestones, until we learned (when she was 27 months old) that she had Cerebral Palsy. Although I did the exercises and stretches the Physical Therapist taught me, my daughter still wasn't walking at 2. I began to feel like I just wasn't doing enough. But upon learning she has a permanent disability, I realized eventually that all the therapy in the world wasn't going to make her do anything sooner. It comes when it does. She walked at 30 months once she had braces for her legs. She's doing awesome now! I won't tell you not to feel guilty, as that is totally impossible, but just remember that logically, you did NOTHING wrong.

I wish the best for your son. GOOD LUCK following up with the doctors and Early Intervention.

Answer 4

Im sure he is fine and going to walk in no time.You can't rush him.Every baby does different things at different ages.My son was not a premie and just started walking at 13 mths.Babies walk in between ages 9mths&16mths.It is not your fault just keep encourging him.My sisters(twins) were 6 weeks early they are 10 now and perfectly fine.My cousin was born 4 mths early he is now 17 and no one thought he would ever make it.He stayed in the hospital for the first 5 mths.He really will do it when the time is right.Good Luck!!

Answer 5

Not all babies walk by age one....but a preemie most often times is going to be behind in some developments atleast for the first year or two. Don't be scared. My neice is four and she just caught up with kids her age a year ago. If you're very worried talk openly with your pediatrician but don't be surprised if he waits to walk for a bit longer...just remember...even perfectly healthy term babies don't walk at a year...some weight until 14 even 16 months or more....I'm sure its nothing to be alarmed over! But the best thing to always ALWAY ALWAYS do is check with a doctor!

Answer 6

Just because he was born 5 weeks early does not mean you did anything wrong. My son came 5 weeks early as well.

When it comes to him not walking yet in most cases it is perfectly normal..All babies are diffrent and some start to walk at 8 months while others do not walk till they are 1...My son did not walk till he was 15 months old.

Seeing as your child was born early he has a higher chance of developing slower and learning to do things such as talking, walking and stuff like that at a later time then babies born on thier due date or near it.

Answer 7

It isn't your fault. Don't worry too much, yet. My cousin, who was born three months early, just started walking. She was 1 year and 4 months old. If your son doesn't start walking by about that age, take him to the doctor and have his ears checked. In preemies, there are sometimes balance issues that can be corrected by 'buttons' or 'tubes' in their ears. When my cousin had 'tubes' put in her ears, she was able to stand up by herself when she was discharged from the hospital, able to walk while holding onto things a few days later, and is now walking according to her age group. Good luck. :)

Answer 8

First of all grab a cup of relaxing chamomile tea and take a deep breath and relax. You have done nothing wrong. I have 4 and all but one made me wait until after their 1st birthday to even attempt to walk. The last one after she was born wanted to be able to do everything that her brothers and sisters did so moved at a much quicker pace. She was walking talking and potty trained completely by 12months. So all children are different. The best advice the ped. gave me was that children will do what they want in their own time. So don't stress until he turns two. Then I recommend a trip to the Dr's. But in the mean buy a good pair of walking shoes for yourself as you will need them once he does take off.

Answer 9

1 isn't a milestone for walking...
You can't believe everything you see in those books because every baby is different.
I work with children and they all start walking and different ages..I had one child that didn't start CRAWLING until the day before her first birthday..she is now 3 and is fine..

I wouldn't worry about it...I also have a baby that turned 1 like 3 months ago and just started walking a week ago..

Your child will walk when they are ready and confident enough to..

Answer 10

The normal range for walking is 9-18 months, so dont worry. Also with babies born early, we use the adjusted age until they turn two, so if your son is 11 months old, we would consider him to be 10 months, and expect him to be at that developmental age.