My boyfriend and i was talking ( mainly yelling) and he said that there was some married people that did not sleep together ,That there was some married people that was married but did not have sex with their spouse ,They had other partners. Is any of this true and if so why?
2006-08-24 16:58:04 · 19 answers · asked by dasiy s 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
yes your boyfriend is telling the truth..many married couples do not sleep together in the same rooms or have sex together..I would think that not having sex together is an agreement between both partners and that having other sexual partners is or could be be cause of sickness, disabilities and sexual disfunction it does not mean that the married couple does not love each other but that they have came to an agreement that they can live with. As far as not sleeping in the same rooms could be for the same reasons.
It's each to their own and what you are willing to live with for love and companionship.
2006-08-24 17:10:51 · answer #1 · answered by leta 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
There are certainly people who are married to each other who don't sleep in the same room - some don't even live in the same house or city (commuter marriages).
And yes, there are married people who aren't having sex with each other for a variety of reasons, including vows of celibacy or health issues. That does NOT necessarily mean that they're having sex with other people, though.
Finally, there are married people who have agreed to have other sexual partners. They might be swingers, who usually go out together and "date" other couples together just for the sex.
Then there are polyamorous people, who have loving relationships with more than one person at a time with everybody involved knowing what's going on and agreeing that it's okay.
Cheaters, of course, do whatever they want despite the agreements of their marriages, but they're scum so it's useless to talk about them much.
2006-08-25 00:12:46 · answer #2 · answered by TechnoMom 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Doesnt sound right to me, l know there are people that are married and do not sleep together, but the ones l know dont have other partners
2006-08-25 00:11:51 · answer #3 · answered by Cobra 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Both sets of my grandparents didn't sleep together but it was when they got older but it was mainly for snoring reasons. My mom and stepdad dont sleep together either, they have separate rooms. It's not because they don't love each other it's just something to do with the way they sleep and need to be comfortable and the way he works. I dont know anyone younger that does this but it's possible.
2006-08-25 00:06:03 · answer #4 · answered by Lonesome Dove 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sad but true there are married couple living in sin they got married but don't sleep in the same bed and they have lovers because there is a reason why they got married like they maybe gay but don't want thier family to know about it so they cover it up with a lie or they trying to get thier green card or they are swingers so why is he tell you this unless he thinking about doing it him self and if he is cut him lose because you can do better then that...
2006-08-25 00:14:31 · answer #5 · answered by Ms. Rockstar 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lots of married ppl don't sleep together (in the same room) because of snoring, teeth grinding, restlessness, etc... doesn't mean they don't love each other. Now the sex with others is too me disgusting and they shouldn't be married at all, too hell with different rooms, they should get different houses, lol!
2006-08-25 00:40:35 · answer #6 · answered by dixie_n_pixie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i feel that before any two people are married they should be the best friends first. make sure that you guys will be able to talk to one another about anything w/o getting or being hurt by the subject. from the way you dress to the way he looks. marriage is more then your names on a piece of paper or good sex in bed. marriage is in good times, bad times, when one of you guys don't look your best and when you do; also ups and downs. there's no separation in anyway in a marriage.
2006-08-25 00:43:04 · answer #7 · answered by angelia w 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How did the conversation start.In my opinon he may be trying to say something ELSE maybe he is trying to end things but doesn't know how to tell you HE may be wanting to see other people. But don't Quote me on That there had to be more to the conversation than what you are saying if we had more to go on then Wwe might be able to help a little more
2006-08-25 00:17:27 · answer #8 · answered by angeleyes092602 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sad part is that your boyfriend is not lying to you. Some couples do have separate beds and/or bedrooms. And some people do choose to be with others while married. Why I cannot answer you but it is the lifestyle that they chose to live. I myself would never consider it but if it makes others happy then so be it.
2006-08-25 00:02:40 · answer #9 · answered by crazylegs 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I'm sure there are probably people like that. Nothing surprises me anymore but, it's not the norm. Also, some gay people who are not "out" have arrangements like that. "Marriages of Convenience" is what I think they're called. As for why - I wouldn't know. I'm pretty straight.
2006-08-25 00:06:17 · answer #10 · answered by crazywoman88 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋