2006-08-24 16:46:47 · 33 answers · asked by sara 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
Well tell her only if you didn't "Do it with him". If you engaged in any sexual contact including but not limited to kissing then you will not only jeopardize your sisters marriage but your relationship with your sister. If he is looking beyond his marital boundaries then he will find someone else sooner or later. It is a tough call because you are all family. There are many things to consider before you tell tale (such as children's lives being ruined) but be sure you are ready to accept the outcome of your decision and the ramifications of it. Why don't you talk to him about your thoughts and concerns. Don't jump on this issue. You may have an advantage here to make him see that his infidelity can have disastrous results. Don't listen to all the vindictive people here that tell you to destroy him. Be a wise woman and give it a great deal of thought!
I hope you do the right thing.
2006-08-24 17:02:15 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely. If you are an adult you should already know how to handle this.
Assuming you are a minor, if she doesn't believe you tell someone else and keep telling until someone does believe you. You are not responsible for the behavior of someone who tried to force himself on you. I don't care if you walked through the room stark naked and wearing his favorite sandwich as a hat on your head! Unless you gave your SPOKEN PERMISSION, he had no right to touch you. If you are under 17, he still had no right even if you did! It is called statutory rape. TELL! If your sister's marriage breaks up it is HIS fault. Whatever the fall out from your telling might be is HIS FAULT. He was the adult. HE is married to your sister. Never feel guilty about this situation. TELL, TELL, TELL!
BTW, never be alone with this person ever again for any reason. If there are 3 of you in a room and one leaves to go to the bathroom, you go too and stand outside the door.
2006-08-24 17:02:13 · answer #2 · answered by Chris 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes!
Your sister is blood and although you don't want to hurt her, not telling her might hurt her in the long wrong.
Sit down with her and have a one on one conversation. Let her know that her husband is a dog, but in th kindest way possible.
Make sure you tell her before he tries or has sex with someone else behind your sisters back and she ends up hurt.
2006-08-24 16:48:56 · answer #3 · answered by ♪Msz. Nena♫ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, you should tell her. Thats pretty bad that her hubby is trying to cheat on her with her sister of all people. Just tell her what happened and be prepared for her to maybe not believe you. She may say you are trying to ruin her marriage and her hubby is probably going to say you are lying. So you can either tell her and hope she trusts you enough to know you are telling the truth, or wait for her hubby to make a move on you again and then tape record him or something so she can have proof.
2006-08-24 16:49:17 · answer #4 · answered by Rawrrrr 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. That's your sister. Don't let him get away with that. You owe it to your sister to let her know as well. If she doesn't believe you, then leave it alone. Just know you've done the right thing. Tell him he's a pig too if you ever get the chance.
2006-08-24 16:49:20 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes,you must tell your sister about this.Don't you think it is right
if you have sex with your sisters husband.If you do that and your sister know what have you done,I'm sure that she will break her
relationship with you as your sister.
So,think about it carefully and then make a good decision for
your future.
Take this advise and follow your heart.
2006-08-24 17:01:12 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whoa, not so fast. If you tell your sister, it will probably end her marriage, and then she'll blame you. I'm supposing this only happened once and you said not just no but hell no? Right?
Make sure he understands that he is never to try that again and if he does you WILL tell her. If it stops there, problem solved. If he tries it again, then you will have to tell her.
2006-08-24 16:52:18 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Obviously
2006-08-24 16:49:04 · answer #8 · answered by scarletts_mommy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh, regarding that "honesty is the best policy" tripe, the concept of honesty only applies when your sister ASKS. Volunteering information which will criple both your relationship with your sister and your sister's marriage has nothing to do with honesty.
2006-08-24 16:49:57 · answer #9 · answered by elbowfreek 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Here is the question:
If it were your husband trying to have sex with your sister, would you want to know?
2006-08-24 16:51:44 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋