hes a great guy but even wen i was seeing him it was just a casual affair for me and before i know it he wasnt ready to let go.
I did not have the heart to leave him stranded ,afterall he had been good to me .So under all that pressure from him and my family(they liked him)i had to succumb to the marrige.
i cried through most o fhim and cursed him.Once we got married i just coudnt get myself to accept!i was all of 23 years married,n then married to this man who i never even really enjoyed being with.i never wanted any of that,life became hell and i accused him of having forced this marrige on me.He wasnt ready to take any blames,he gave me back the **** i gave him.I got violant and hyterical at times.He got violant on me too.The first few months were truely miserable but things got better with time .We still fight a lot sometimes even violantly .I feel maybe its all my fault but there are times i feel its his fault too.My best friend thinks twas a huge misatke and says v shud part
2006-08-24 16:31:31 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Why don't both of u have a break,
U can go on a vacation to think probably that if u still got any love for him then u go n chat with him.
2006-08-24 16:46:35 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I think the first step would be counseling. Is there anything good out of the marriage worth saving? I find it hard to believe there were no good moments in three years. How can someone force you to get married? That is your decision, no one else's to make.
If there is no hope, maybe the counseling would help him realize that as well. If there are any children involved, you need to stay in good terms with the father.
P.S. Things should never get violent, know matter how upset you get. There is always other ways to deal with your feelings.
Good luck!
2006-08-24 23:39:52 · answer #2 · answered by angelwings 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if you got married out of guilt you also married because you were being selfish. You are not suppose to marry someone because of guilt it is suppose to be for the love you have for that person. Your living a lie and your cheating your spouse out of love he could be having with another person. You should tell him how you feel but let him down gently. You should move on and let him find someone that is going to love him.
2006-08-24 23:37:22 · answer #3 · answered by luvlisteningtomusic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sadly, you shouldn't have married him in the first place. Marriage is your decision and yours only... you shouldn't have let him and your familys opinions force you into marraige because now look at yourself; you're miserable.
I suggest a divorce... you should not allow yourself to be with someone who is abusive, makes you miserable, and is violent. I wish you the best of luck and please speak with a counselor.
2006-08-24 23:52:38 · answer #4 · answered by ♪Msz. Nena♫ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get out and DO NOT HAVE CHILDREN with him!!
This is your fault. You said yes to the question, "will you marry me?". No one can force anyone to get married. It usually happens to the guy when the girl "claims" to be pregnant.
2006-08-24 23:36:22 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What? Where were your brains??? You married a man you didn't love!!! Did you bother telling your parents that you didn't love him??? You want to blame him for your mistake too??? This man loved you... O.K. Now, tell him you want a divorce.I don't see how you think any of this mess is his fault. His mistake was marring you.
2006-08-24 23:49:32 · answer #6 · answered by whataboutme 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marriage is simply something that once you make a vow, you should never break it, unless the other person breaks his vow by being unfaithful. I don't know what else to tell you, but this is what I believe.
2006-08-24 23:37:30 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like a fairly normal marriage to me...someone's always accusing someone else of something bad! Stomach in, chest out, shoulders back...make it work.
2006-08-24 23:36:17 · answer #8 · answered by Answers1 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You need to part, simple, done..... over.... get on with your life, screw those that you mention that you felt you HAD to succumb to and marry this person, to heck with that crap, you are YOU.... now get it in gear and live life as YOU want too
2006-08-24 23:36:21 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just leave and if he threatens you get a restraining order against him. Don't you think you deserve to be happy?
2006-08-24 23:35:57 · answer #10 · answered by Claire 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋