How much education does it take for parents not to spank their children?

Question

When the children grow up , they become criminals and murderers.

This is in response to a previous question. I asked if people believed in corpal punishment.

Answer 1

I'm going to get flack for this which ever way I go...so here goes. No, children do not grow up to be murderers just because they were spanked. If they're *beaten* they might but it's become a rather convenient excuse recently. No parent should beat or abuse a child. A spanking may seem like one to the child but it's just as hard on a parent as it is on the child, in fact some days it's harder. It's a parent's job to make certain the children in their loving care grow up to be good people and some days a slap side the head, when everything else has failed, just gets that child's attention. I would never beat a child. Let me make that perfectly clear (OMG I sound like Nixon...auugh!!!) I'll give one a spanking if they need it however. It doesn't take long for a child to learn once a parent will completely follow through with discipline. Too many people don't follow through. Kids are like puppies : if they're not trained they'll piddle on the rug (figuratively of course...) Okay, let the stoning start.....ow ow ow.....

Answer 2

Wow! Do you have children? If not, why don't you volunteer at a local day care for a few hours and see how far you get with "time out!" "Don't climb on the tables," "Don't pull on the cord" ect. Now, imagine they were your own children and you'd said that same thing, oh, 100 times a day. You might decide that a stricter punishment is warranted to get your point across. For me that was a spanking. Funny thing was, I never had to do it often at all, because it worked and corrected the behavior. Baby boomers grew up before "time out" and many received spankings and grew up to be your parents or grandparents. Are they criminals and murderers? If time outs work for your children you are very lucky, but don't criticize people for wanting to properly discipline their children.
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By the way, since you asked about education; college and graduate degreed family home currently, relatives were mostly educators, all upper middle class.

Answer 3

Sometimes a child needs a spanking out of love, not anger. Education has nothing to do with it. If you are so educated, what studies or knowledge do you have to back up that criminals and murderers were merely "spanked" as children??! Disciplining early and effectively (which most of the time does not warrant a spanking) is the best way to raise a child to become a respectable and responsible citizen.

Answer 4

ok everyone knows the difference between spanking and beating a child right-? Some parents just ignore it and let other frustrations build and take it to far-- then the child learns nothing- except that it is ok to hit when mad- or frustrated- what have you taught them?? I think you have to pick your battles with the child in question- is the child running to the street- or playing with electrical outlets?? something serious as those things(safety issues) I can see a little pop on the hind parts with your hand if warning hasn't worked- But spanking for bad grades? spanking for curfew violations? getting into things you probably should not have out for little exploring fingers?? choose your battles- what is important for your children to learn??

Answer 5

I was "spanked " growing up at home a couple times in school, yes I was a badmouth and a fighter. Deserved most of it.
Married and have two sons ,I know I spanked a couple of times, only a swat on the rear, I told them I hated it and we have to do something else, After that just a word like "Don't" and a look .
And we would tell them the behavior we expected, Seemed to work .

Answer 6

All children who were raised with corporal punishment don't necessarily become criminals and murderers, but a good percentage grow up to raise children in the same manner that they were raised and some of these children do end up abused in the name of sparing rods and spoiling children.

Parents will stop spanking children when they stop relying on a heavily-edited ancient book as step-by-step instructions for life without once questioning it or thinking critically about the text or its implications for human life.

Answer 7

You've got to be joking!! Are you serious?? I was spanked and am not a criminal. Most people who are in their mid-20s to mid-30s were probably spanked and I think it is a good thing. Kids now are brats and pain in the butts...well at least those who aren't spanked. I think it gives children a firm understanding that if they do something wrong, there will be consequences!

Answer 8

That's not true. Parents spank their kids because they love them, and they need to be disciplined. You've got it all wrong! The kids who aren't disciplined by their parents are the ones who think it's ok to do drugs, have sex, etc. I've been spanked alot as a kid, and you know what? It only teaches me not to do what got me into trouble. If your kid totally trashed your room or something like that, would you just say, "Oh, that's okay, honey. Go ahead and do it again, I don't care!" No! You have to discipline your child, or they're going to think it's ok to do bad things. By the way, "spanking" and beating are two completely different things. When you spank your child, you're disciplining them for what they did that was bad. Beating is when you abuse your child for no reason.

Answer 9

Hahah, glad to know that I'm going to become a criminal and a murderer.

What kids need is some discipline, such as spanking, to straighten them out. I'm not saying beat your kids, just spank or otherwise punish them. I sound a lot older than I am, but kids today need some discipline as they damn sure aren't getting enough as it is.

I think dog trainer's was even funnier, like spanking kids is a bad thing. "Low self esteem", haha. I'm just glad that I'm learning this about myself before I grow up and have kids.

Answer 10

I totally disagree with you. I do not believe in corporal punishment but I do believe in spanking your children when they need correcting. There is a huge difference in a little swat on the rear and a beating with a belt. Children have to learn right from wrong.