If the your sinificant other says they want the divorce but all you can do is sit back and remember the statements that were made in a positive manner and you honestly know how they feel truely about you what do you do?
2006-08-24 16:21:38 · 16 answers · asked by Brandi R 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I went through that exact thing 1 year ago. We are now back together without finishing the divorce. We just had to sit down and figure out what caused the problems to get us to the point of divorce. We still loved each other but but at first was to stubborn to admit who's fault and then we had to figure out that it took the both of us to get to the point we were in. It took about 4 months of talking and getting alot of things out in the open to get back together. Once you do, remember that talking out the problems is the key to keeping together.
2006-08-24 16:43:02 · answer #1 · answered by 51ain'tbad 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should first know the reason he wants the divorce. Remember this, you can't go back to the beginning of the relationship at the start. You have to start from the problem and work back to where you were. If you love each other, and if you feel it is just his pride, suggest marriage counseling. If it is over, then you have to accept it and go on. It will hurt you like hell, but time is a healer. Talk to him about a separation instead of a divorce, and see what he says to that.. And in the end, if it is the divorce that is inevitable then you will at least know that you gave it all you had. Good luck and I will keep you in my prayers.
2006-08-25 00:17:47 · answer #2 · answered by texas.okie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your significant other says they want a divorce ask why. Sometimes love is not enough to keep a marriage together. If you have filed for divorce and want to reverse it you can arrange to have a court hearing with your sinificant other and let the judge know you have decided against the proceedings at this time.
2006-08-24 23:28:13 · answer #3 · answered by lexxy l 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you ment to stay together you will, if the other wants out and you don't all you can do is let it be known how you feel and don't hold back on anything...divorce hurts but not saying how you feel deep down before it's to late hurts more and if your going to save it you need to be honest and up front don't let people tell you how you should feel....good luck
2006-08-24 23:31:09 · answer #4 · answered by deadshscott 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I went through this about 2 years ago and when we went to court the judge said for me my husband and our attorneys to go outside and talk my husband and I went home together the judge gave us 6 months to work out things It was a legal separation but we ended up working things ......But neways you need to set down with your spouse and explain things to him tell him how you feel if yall truley love each other than you can work them out my husband and I split up all the time and we always work things out We are split up right now but we are working things out just remember the love that you have for each other and maybe things will work out for you GOOD LUCK I will remember you in my prayers and GOD BLESS
2006-08-24 23:59:28 · answer #5 · answered by angeleyes092602 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well.. speak to your lawyer to let him/her know that you would like to revoke the divorce. Then, try to give your partner a second chance to revive the marriage. Give it a trial period. If it still doesn't work out, then probably, sad to say, divorce is still the ultimate.
2006-08-24 23:41:42 · answer #6 · answered by Mint_Always 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Once someone files for divorce there is usually a waiting period anyway - I would contact the county court where the papers were filed
2006-08-24 23:27:54 · answer #7 · answered by Claire 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If that person doesn't want you,why would you want to try to change their mind? You can't change anyone but yourself.The mind will diminish things after awhile,there was a reason why the relationship got to this point ,remember that reason, and accept it.
2006-08-24 23:27:31 · answer #8 · answered by girlqueen 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
seek some marital counseling.. preferably with a pastor or something that can give you some godly advice.. ask the spouse to work on it with you if you truly feel that they love you.. don't just give up..
2006-08-25 00:18:21 · answer #9 · answered by daisylady 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't do anything - only if you like cold feet to lick and you are stupid enough to go back do it.
The life reward is fart on you to the rest of your life from your saved wife @ss.
2006-08-24 23:32:21 · answer #10 · answered by Toto 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋