Can u really be happy marrying a hot good-looking man who's bugged by women all the time?

Question

he is definitely a great guy! he got everything women looking for. he is very popular to women. his colleagues are crazy about him. he's approached by women many times on the street and in a club.. all the phone calls and text-messaging from women,
when I’m with him, I feel so insecure but he really likes me and has been waiting for me.
I don’t care how he looks and I’m happy being with him, but the insecurity I feel inside really bothers me. I don’t wanna be with someone who’s bugged my women all the time. Even though, he never cares about them, but I really don’t wanna get pissed off all the time. I am not a generous type of girl. I’m not pathetic, can u imagine going clubbing with him and there are bunch of women ask for a dance with him? and it's not the 1st time.

I don’t know what to do. help pls. !

he is a nice guy and he loves me...

it's not that i don't trust him. i feel that we don't have moment of our own. it's kinda like dating a superstar. i am not so sure if he's really the one.

Answer 1

girl.. I've read all ur questions and I've been talking about this guy. u clearly like him very much too. he seems like a cool nice guy to me. it's not his fault to be born good-looking and u mentioned in ur prev question that he looks like josh hartnett! oh come on! it's natural that he's bugged by women! and u said he is nice too. u got to accept this and let go of ur jealousy. u should be proud of urself that u got him and he loves you. don't bother about other women. if a guy really loves you and willing to commit with you then he deserves a chance!
a bad-looking man can be a jerk too. it's not about how he looks that determine whether he can give u the security u need, it's his feeling towards you.
he's good looking and he must had been chased by many women and has seen enough beautiful girls. he may doesn't care at all! I'm sure he already got used to it and found it nothing. right? now it's time for you to try to accept this fact and get used to it. sooner u will find it less bothering. give him a chance. be fair to him!
i wish both of you happy.

Answer 2

You gotta realize, he is with you, not all those other girls. If he treats you right, and makes it clear to the other girls he is with you, I do not see a problem. Sounds to me like you may have a great catch.

I think I would be bothered by other women calling all the time and texting him. You need to talk to him about your fears and concerns. Tell him you do not feel comfortable with all these other girls being after him, waiting to pounce when you are away. If he is worth keeping, he will make it clear to those women that while it is okay to be friends with a man in a relationship, they need to back off, if it is truly all the time. If he is willing to be a one-girl man for you, I would say keep him. If he wants the girls calling all the time, however, I would be wary of what is really going on.

Follow your heart. Most of the time, it knows the truth before our brain figures it out....

Answer 3

He loves you, and you love him...that says it all. My guess is your low self-esteem is what is really bothering you. You must have something that all those other girls don't, otherwise why would he have chosen you. Start taking care of you. Do some soul searching and find out your weakest traits, and then work on them. Do whatever it takes to raise your self-esteem. The insecurity you're feeling is either coming from doubt that he has given you, or self-doubt, you don't feel good enough for him. Remember, if you don't work on your self-esteem, he will inevitably loose interest in you. Nothing is a bigger turn-off than low self-esteem. Sounds like he's a guy who has it all together, he's gonna want a girl who has it together too.

Answer 4

Well I don’t think there’s anything wrong with marrying a drop dead gorgeous man as long as he has his head in place and he is humble. If he's dating you seriously and you are thinking about getting married he shouldn't give out his number to all those girls who are texting him and egg on girls. That’s not a good sign he should respect you. He could be a potential cheater. I don’t know him but I do believe there are really hot people that don’t have big heads but there are NOT many.

Answer 5

If you're with him, then why is he going out to clubs? That tells me a lot about him...and the fact that women are always texting him and contacting him all the time verifies this belief. Honestly, I don't think this is truly a good person. Men who think that they look good and know it, take advantage of this and get all that they can. If you don't feel secure around him, it is because you can see obvious things that escalate your insecurities. Trust your instinct. My friends like going clubbing, I don't. All they meet is straight up jerks. I'm telling you, men that like to hang out at the club are all loosers. They are dogs looking for naive girls to bone. Fine someone better who makes you feel secure and respects you enough not to do things that will make you feel this way.

Answer 6

First of all, I would truly reconsider the fact of marrying him if there´s this kind of details that make me feel so insecure. Your self steem and security is, as a matter of fact truly important so that the relationship doesn´t fall to one side of the balance. It is also important that your couple worries about making you feel safe against any other person in your lifes. Talk with him and make a clear point about how you´re feeling and how would you liked to be helped with this feeling.

Answer 7

Depends on the person you are.
If you're a jealous person that doesn't like seeing women flock over your man then no, you shouldn't be with him because it will lead to constant bickering and arguments.
If you're not a jealous person, then you'll stay with this man and realize that, yes, women are attracted to him but YOU are the one that has him and while you are looking, touching, kissing, and more with him, all they can do is look.

Answer 8

If you are secure in your relationship and trust has been established I would stay, but if the thought of women coming up to him all the time gets you really mad, you will only resent it and end the relationship down the road

Answer 9

girl, if your worried now, its only going to get worse....you need to make that decision....and be able to sleep at night. its only a matter of time before some hotty convinces him. i know you say he loves you but the other girls trying to get in his pants dont give a damb. i personally don't think its worth the time and the energy to be worried all the time. enjoy the memories and move on, unless your already married, then you need to do what ever it takes to keep him.

Answer 10

you're pathetic, do you know how many women will kill just to be in your shoes? just think about it!! he doesn't care about all those gorgeous women out there he's totally devoted to you and yet you whines all the time, feeling self pity and all that, if i were him, i would have dumped you long ago, have more confident and faith in yourself and be the envy of all the women out there.