I am a 30 something male. I,m not gay but i would love to be able to dress as a woman all the time. I do it mostly in secret but i,ve found way to wear my fem cloths.I would be able to do this all the time except i,m a single father and not sure how it might affect the kids.I like womens cloths much better than mens so should i do what makes me happy or keep it hid until all the kids are grown?
2006-08-24 16:20:27 · 12 answers · asked by jerry g 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
I think a lot of it depends on the age of your kids. I wouldn't say hid it or keep it away from yourself but you might want to keep it away from your kids until they are old enough to understand what you explain to them. Which when they are that would be the best way to deal with it. Sit them down and tell them how you feel and how it doesn't effect their relationship with you. but you've got to be you no matter who you are.
2006-08-24 17:17:31 · answer #1 · answered by T28 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm not an expert, so I'll suggest going to see one. IMO, you sloud express yourself even around your children. You're not teaching them anything wrong, just like a mother who wears pants and tshirts isn't a bad mom. You'll need to tell them what's up though, and trying to explain that to kids can be a tough issue that takes some planning and reasearch. I've got cousins that are 6, 7, and 8 that I'm going to have to tell, and so far I've had no luck finding help online or from other transgender inndividuals.
2006-08-25 12:07:57 · answer #2 · answered by carora13 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't mention how old your children are. That would have to come into consideration. that much said I think you need to see a GID ( gender identity disorder) therapist. Believe me you will need one if you don't have one all ready. I can't say much more unless you send me more info. You can IM me on my 360 page. I am transsexual women who is post op. and out 24/7 for six years.
2006-08-25 00:51:51 · answer #3 · answered by tammidee10 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do what would make your life feel fulfilled. It would probably be best if you kept it hidden until at least your kids are mature enough to understand, but do what you want. Don't let friggen bible thumpers and tran-phobics stop you from doing anything in your own home and life.
2006-08-24 23:49:18 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Check out your growing up years what outer influences would have caused this kind of thinking. It might be a better way try being 100% THE WAY YOU WERE BORN
2006-08-24 23:32:28 · answer #5 · answered by rapturefuture 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmm...I'm a bit different on this one. I think that if the kids see it as normal on you then it won't be such a bad thing and it may also teach them tolerance. But I don't know your kids or their environment.
2006-08-25 03:58:43 · answer #6 · answered by practical thinking 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That is a tough call.
Kids know things that that we are not aware of.
Have you gotten any questions about what is in your closet?
2006-08-24 23:32:42 · answer #7 · answered by knightofsappho 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do whatever makes u happy unless it will effect ur kids
2006-08-24 23:25:36 · answer #8 · answered by take a cleavland steamer on his 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
jerry g,
I think that it would be bad for the kids. Just my opinion.
2006-08-24 23:29:55 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2006-08-24 23:43:52 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋