if a man has sex with a man but is not romantically attracted to men does this make him gay?

Question

I mean if a man is sexually turned on by being with men does that make him gay even if he does not like kissing or being emotionally intimate with men only with women

Answer 1

why else would a man have sex with a man????????

Answer 2

No it does not make him gay. Classifying ones self as gay, straight, or bi is up to the individual. How does this person catagorize himself? There are lots of guys who have sex with men, sex with men and women and say they are totally Straight and "just getting my rocks off with the boys". ACTIONS do not make one gay/str8/bi. It is much more complex than that. Having emotional feelings for men would make this person more likely to be homosexual but not necessarily. To some people, sex is sex and one mouth/hole is as good as another. I expect that most "Str8 men 15-40, if they were 100% guaranteed no one would EVER find out about it, would accept a bj from another guy and some would even go so far as to "top" the guy but they would still described themselves as straight. Look at the Kinsey scale of sexual expression. Sexuality is not all black and white, cut and dried. It is multiple shades of GREY across the continuum.

Answer 3

Bisexual. If you desire both men and women and can have sexually satisfying experiences with both, then you are necessarily by definition bisexual. It doesn't matter to which degree- even if it's 99% attraction to men and 1% attraction to women, you're technically bisexual. Very few people actually have a 50-50 split, and most prefer one sex over the other. And remember that it's called 'sexual orientation' for a reason- romance, aesthetics, and emotions don't come into it. Granted, they're important parts of who you love and how you feel about people, but when it comes down to if you're bisexual or gay or straight, it's all about who you want to sleep with. Hope that helps!

Answer 4

nucleardiver32,
You know, I could see someone wondering what all the fuss was about, and not really getting emotionally involved. I would also say that the man made a mistake, if he didn't want to hear about it even when he got married, or was finished with his younger days.

In theis case, I think that it unfair to label. Because he doesn't believe that label, yet he did it. I hope I never use a name on someone who doesn't deserve it like that.

For a young kid I think that this can be really damaging. Because as a kid sometimes you don't know which way is up. You feel one way one day, and another on another day. A kid that gets found out about sexual things he or she might be casually exploring ought not to be teased, especially by an adult. The adult, especially a parent might warn to kid that things could get bad, socially at school, or health wise, or be opening him or herself to adults that might think the kid was easy prey. That could be very bad!

I could be making a simple thing complex, but all those things just came to mind.

Answer 5

I am attracted to women in public and private. I don't get turned on looking at guys in public. It just doesn't trip my trigger. But when I'm at home on the Internet, and I see male genitalia. It gets me very horny. I don't want/need to see the face behind the organ. I have never acted out on these desires with another male(s) I really don't want a long term, or emotional connection, just hot sex. I guess that is being bisexual, just not completely symmetrical. Hope that helps.

Answer 6

I have taken many classes and something that is taught about rape and sexual harrassment is that you don't have to be attarcted to someone to be turned on by them. There have been many cases where a guy has been raped by a woman or a man by force, not just saying they were poked but they were doing the poking also without their concent. The attracion of the same sex, opposite sex, or both sexes is where I think you define what your sexuality is. Not by what gives you an erection.

Answer 7

That sounds like a bisexual man. Now, not saying that a bi man never has romantic feelings towards a male partner, but in general, it's far more likely that he doesn't, when compared to a homosexual fellow. And lots of times kissing and the like is not necessarily part of the bisexual male's sexual game plan; he wants sex pure and simple.

Answer 8

You obviously hin that being a good guy is bad, when it's not. Go ahead and be gay if you want, or stay a turd! Society has apparently made you conflicted and warped your view about what a good guy is. You are afraid what others might think. You are a cowardly turd, but I don't blame.you. So when are you going to remove the stink off of you? You reek.

Answer 9

He can be bi. There are different types of bisexuality. One is where you can have a romantic relationship with either gender. Another is when you have only sexual attraction to one gender but romantic and sexual attraction to the other.

Answer 10

My first inclination is to say he experiences homosexuality more as a kink, a fetish, rather than as an orientation or identity.
He may also be bisexual, however, bisexuality still involves love, emotions, spirituality and respect.
He may horribly repressed, expressing his confusion sexually while denying the true source of his attraction.

Answer 11

Usually the sex with another man does make him gay, regardless of not kissing or emotional attraction.