I have an 18 month old and we are actively trying for the second, and having no luck. It is hard and emotionally draining and I am sick of people asking such a personal question without thinking that it may offend. What can I say that sounds at least polite but also lets them know not to ask me about it again?
2006-08-24 16:11:14 · 20 answers · asked by Kylie 6 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Trying to Conceive
Just to clarify - we haven't told anyone we are trying, people are 'assuming'.
2006-08-24 18:49:08 · update #1
I suffer with this " are you trying / pregnant yet question all the time too. I have found the best response to be to say with a smile "You are asking me if I am having sex with my husband! You really don't expect me to answer that do you?." People don't usually have too much to say to that one.
2006-08-25 20:01:46 · answer #1 · answered by BritGirl 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, I have 2 children and just started back at my old job.....I gained like 20 lbs since I was there last...as soon as I walked in someone asked me if I was pregnant and I told her that I gained weight and everyone there heard the whole thing and no one has said anything since then. But I was kind of upset because Iknow I weigh more and I feel fat but when someone asks you if your pregnant and your not then that just makes you feel even fatter. I know how you feel. have a friend that is trying for their first and has been for like 2 years. I hope you have some luck!So no one even knows. Well if it were me I would just tell them that your not and to please not ask again. That is if you don't want anyone to know. But if you don't care if they know then I would just simply say I'm not but we are trying so please don't bring it up anymore. I know how you feel....I'm seing my coworker going through this. And I see people talk to her about it and she gets upset. But she doesn't tell them to stop talking about it. She lets them walk all over her. So I hope you aren't doing the same. If they are good people and you ask them nicely not to talk about it then they should listen.
2006-08-24 17:34:16 · answer #2 · answered by Love not hate 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know what your talking about. I'm pregnant and my friends knew I was trying. I'm trying to keep it a secret for now but it's hard when everywhere I turn people are asking me (doesn't help that I can't keep my food down now.)
You are like me probably and shared with many friends that you were trying again. People are just excited for you and want to hear the news as soon as possible. The nicest thing I can think to say is that you'll let them know when your pregnant, but for now, when they probe you so it makes you depressed. Even if it's not true tell them you are having difficulties and the reminders are making it harder on you. If you don't want to say this, just act really depressed everytime they ask you and they'll stop bothering you.
2006-08-24 17:20:26 · answer #3 · answered by Serena 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You could try why you got any new ways to become pregnant? Or you wanna help w/watching the 18 month old so we can relax? And stop telling your business and they won't have anything to talk about just keep mum about it so they won't have anything to ask about with this situation.
2006-08-24 16:17:31 · answer #4 · answered by blueseawale 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, somewhere along the line you would have had to let them know that you were trying again. if you didn't want them to know or ask, why did you tell them? just politely tell them that when you have some good news, they will be one of the first to know, but it won't be any time some. that should buy you some time.
2006-08-24 16:16:28 · answer #5 · answered by redpeach_mi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We had this very same problem. I started out answering politely with something like, "Well, it is taking a bit longer than we expected." or "It will happen when it happens." But, after 5 miscarriages and infertility treatments, things got a bit uglier. I started answering, "We just lost a baby, so we really don't want to discuss it now." You wouldn't believe how that shut people up!
2006-08-24 16:15:03 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
You can say " Wow... thats an awfully personal question. When I feel the need to discuss my attempts at reproduction I will let you know"
2006-08-24 17:44:03 · answer #7 · answered by Jessica 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
just tell them you have no rush or tell them what ever god wants i have so many friends that always asking me about the secend baby.i have 21 months old girl and i just found out that i'm pregnant with the secend one but i did not plane for it .and every time i told them i 'm not ready for the secend one .but i know that you get pregnant very soon i hope you enjoy your secend pregnancy dear.:)
2006-08-24 16:18:17 · answer #8 · answered by sue 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Go buy a tee-shirt with the inscription - WORKING ON THE PREGNANCY, and wear it 24/7. I bet they'll stop asking :). Cheers.
2006-08-24 16:32:18 · answer #9 · answered by Bantree 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just say something like "When it happens, you'll be one of the first to know. But until then you'll just have to be patient and let us do the work."
2006-08-24 16:19:31 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋