Getting over him isnt easy!!! How?

Question

How do you get over someone that you love so much? We are separated and I'm hopeful to work things out with my husband. However, he's being so difficult and i'm thinking that i'll have to accpet that things might not work out. I think it would be so hard, but how would i ever get over him?? I never felt this way about anyone ever!!!!

Thanks guys. I feel so empty and alone and i dont feel myself anymore. I dont have that joy and zest for life anymore. I know he cares and still loves me but he's trying to keep us apart and I cant possibly understand why!

Thank you rightio and Polaris for your answers. The thing is that i dont think that he is missing me. I just feel that. Sometimes i do call him, when i think that i shouldnt...but hearing his voice makes me feel better although i know things arent better. I know that he might love me but he doesnt say much to me about his feelings and that bothers me. We have been apart for 5 months now. How long will I have to wait?

Answer 1

I think love is the deepest most wonderful emotion we all feel. When that love is taken away for whatever reason, it feels like a big hole has been taken out of your body.....Getting over love lost is one of the hardest emotional things we have to deal with in our lives.......we cant eat, we cant sleep, we feel sick....it affects, not only our emotional well-being but our physical well-being as well. Its a horrible feeling...I remember it well. You think at the time that you will never love again, that he is the only man you will ever be with...its a very lonely feeling.....and I dont even have a solution. Time is the only healer....you do move on, but in your current state, I know you wont believe it.

When my marriage broke up, I was totally devestated, I didnt think my life was worth living. I had my 3 kids, but they couldnt fill the hole that was there. What I did, and it doesnt work for everyone....I had to make a conscious effort not to contact him for any reason. I think when you love someone you look for reasons to contact them when you dont really have to. If you can not see him or talk to him for a while, it will give you time to get your head together....it will also start getting you used to being on your own. Sometimes when you take time out, it also allows your husband that time out too. He will be able to think more clearly and may decide on his own that he wants to stay married to you, without any pressure from you. I know its a hard thing to do, but sometimes backing off can have a very positive effect. If you dont contact him then he may start to wonder what youre doing.....are you seeing another man, or just plain miss you. Give him the space and time to miss you. You have to trust in his love enough for him to come to his own conlusions without dealing with your grief as well.

Answer 2

I understand, love. I be cursed by Never havin a chance to be with the one I Iovethe most. There be none like him. It kills me inside. Many never get over it, but that doesn't mean it's hopeless. Lots of us do make up in the end or find ways to move on. (Can't say I have.) Is it a matter of him not wantin to be with ye? Or does he have traits ye don't agree with? It's hard to help if I don't know all the details... but I should not be askin as it's not me concern. My apologies, miss. I hope Ye find ways to patch up and be happy together. Heartbreak is the worst thing anyone can go through and so many don't even realize it. I don't want that for ye, miss. I'll pray for ye and yer love, ok? Best wishes and good luck. :)

Answer 3

well first if he is being difficult i think u need to back up and let him have his space he will come to u when he is ready and welling to go at it 100% but u need to leave him alone totally dont call him all the time just give him all the space in the world and dont step in that space he will pick up on that vibe and if he really loves u he will come to u and if after awhile it feels like he's drifting in another direction then its time for u to move on, in that case dont live with him cause that is the worst and hardest thing u can do if ur trying to move on with ur life and let that part go its dam near impossiable (ive tried)and it didnt work, once in ur new place u should cut off commuintion with him completely u need to give ur heart some breathing room to heal its hard at first belive me girl i know the feeling but its true time heals u just have to patitent and let it go dont dwell over it anywase i wish u good luck and hope things go for the best

Answer 4

WELL I WOULD START WITH PIC YOU DONT HALF TO THRO THEM AWAY JUST PUT THEM UP AND ALSO PHONE CALLS MAKE IT IS THAT YOU ARE TO BUSY TO TALK TO HIM LET HIM KNOW YOU ARE OK LET HIM KNOW THAT YOU DONT NEED HIM THEN IF HE COMES BACK YOU KNOW THERE IS SOMETHING THERE BUT IF HE DOES THE SAME WELL MOVE ON AND DO IT LIKE WITH A FRIEND FIRST IT WILL HELP JUST A DATE HERE OR THERE ALSO TELL YOU SELF THAT YOU ARE WAY BETTER THEN HIM AND YOU DESIEVE BETTER THAT WILL HELP TOO

Answer 5

My mother always told me to never love someone who doesn't love me.If he is being difficult,its because he doesn't want to be with you anymore,and you won't go away.he might have someone else.Just move on.You deserve someone who will love you back.Maybe he just needs some breathing room.Let him have his space for a while."If you love someone set them free,they'll return if its meant to be".Just give him thr time he needs to get himself together,and you do the same.In time your feelings for him will fade,You might love him forever,but not as much as you do now.Besides,you shouldn't want to be with someone who doesn't want to be with you.You are soooo much better than that.....I hope.

Answer 6

Pray and give it time.