Relationship with them or visit? Or would you cut all ties to them because they cheated and they only spend time with the child when they feel like it even if it very rare! I was listening to the radio toady on my way home from work and the question was like this on Michael Baysdon (don't know if I spelled it right but anyhow they played so many darn songs I didn't get to hear the comments) Also what would you tell the child when they are old enough to understand why you all aren't together! (Be honest imagine if you were in this situation right now)
2006-08-24 16:02:32 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Yes I would allow the child to have a relationship with them. Not doing so would just be out of spite. Just because the man or woman did not make a good partner for someone it does not make them a bad parent. People really need to stop using children as a way to hurt each other.
2006-08-24 16:07:55 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, I wouldn't keep the child away but I would let the significant other be aware that if he cares about his child that he would visit on a certain basis; not just as a rarity when they feel like it.
If the ex spouse continues to come around when he feels it is good for him, let him know he can't come over anymore.
I would tell my child the truth. I would say, "Your father cheated on me and as much as I would have loved to make it work, cheating isn't something I take lightly, so that is why we are seperated. It has nothing to do with you and you aren't at fault or to blame." Because many children feel their parents seperation is due to them.
2006-08-24 23:08:07 · answer #2 · answered by ♪Msz. Nena♫ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let the other party see the child. Having both parents in the child's life even if it is rarely is better for the child than no connections at all. Yes your significant other hurt you bout don't spread the pain to that child. The older the child gets the more he or she will figure out which one cares and which one doesn't'
Then the child will be able to make the decision of seeing the other parent or not.
2006-08-24 23:15:17 · answer #3 · answered by kpaj35 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You should not keep the child away because you are playing an emotional game that is only going to hurt you child . You should be happy he do try to see the child ,What if he never came and seen the child then how would you feel .Imagine that!!!
2006-08-28 19:40:15 · answer #4 · answered by marrissa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have to say this your child's relationship with his or her father has nothing to do with your relationship with this man it is their own unique relationship. My ex used to abuse me in more ways that I can say but he has a relationship with his kids and their are laws out there he can use to make you let him have a relationship with them. You need as a parent do what is right for your child unless your child is in danger than let them see their dad you do not have to be present. Also somebody once told me you are better off letting a child know a not so good parent because it take away the fantasy parent the one they will make up that is way better than you that does not exist.
2006-08-24 23:11:13 · answer #5 · answered by lol_des 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont let YOUR anger get in the way of the kids. A judge doing child custody would allow visitation. Use a mediator if necessary until you get to divorce. or work it out. Yes, I was in this situation and hated the spouse, but would not take it out on kids unless they were in danger of some type of sexual abuse or physical abuse.
2006-08-24 23:17:25 · answer #6 · answered by git along gal 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am in that very situation sorta. My ex did cheat on me something fierce and we do have a child together. I have decided that no matter what happened to our relationship I cant just terminate his relationship with his child. Its not the child's fault that the father is such a jerk to me.
2006-08-24 23:07:34 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may want to cut off all ties but it's not the childs fault and he or she has a right to know the other parent.
2006-08-24 23:07:17 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should let visitation take place,dont punish the child because of what his-her dad did to you. Rare visits are better than none. and you could also let the child call dad. kids understand alot more than given credit for. tell the child that you both outgrew each other,and things are better whan you are apart.than whan the child is older the truth if you think they can handel it.
2006-08-24 23:22:22 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
yes it isnt the childs fault they shouldnt suffer for the cheaters mistakes
2006-08-24 23:05:20 · answer #10 · answered by devil_queen_biatch14 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋