Guys ...answer this! and interpret why is it like that?

Question

i want a male's opinion on this subject, but by all means anyone is welcome.
don't think that i'm trying to sound snobby or conceided, but please tell me why this keeps happening.
all my life, since childhood i've been told that i'm very good-looking. then i grew up into an attractive young lady. i always get lots of attention from men, no matter who they are: friends, classmates, men, guys, neibors, almost any straight male.

BUT, for some reason i attract only (please forgive me) but, very ugly people. i rarely, get noticed by guys that are my type.

please enlighten me, why does it keep happening?

Answer 1

Que sera, sera.

;-)

Answer 2

Wounded Duck might be right, try not to think of yourself as an "attractive young lady", leave that to everybody else. And are you sure these guys are really ugly? Or do you think that considering how attractive you supposedly are then guys of a supposedly higher caliber to your standards should be coming to you? Or is your view the way other people look at it? Maybe you need to review exactly what "your type" actually is. And like someone else said, don't rush, he'll come eventually.

Answer 3

Have you ever seen the TV show, Everybody Loves Raymond? Ray plays an ordinary guy who thinks his wife if gorgeous & he doesn't deserve her. I wish I was good looking to tell you the other side, but I am not. On the other hand, I hav been told by several (including my wife) that I am handsome. I think what matters most is your self esteem & being the most beautiful person on the inside. If you are looking for being a perfect half of a georgeous couple in a picture, look at Hollywood. But, beware of all the problems the stars face.

Answer 4

Can I suggest that being attractive is an external thing and attracting the right person takes more than good looks, people need to work on their personality if they want someone to see them as a potential partner. Having said that as a generality I wonder how you feel about yourself ie. How is your self esteem? / are you attracting certain types because deep down inside you do not believe you deserve any better?

Answer 5

Fact from fiction, truth from diction. My take on this situation.

You over rate how attractive you are and these hunks that don't notice you feel YOU are not in THEIR league.

Because you self-proclaim to be so hot. Those who think they are better(these hunks)see you as full of yourself and go elsewhere.

These "ugly" guys are not really ugly but they are to you because anyone not one of these GQ, Calvin Klein model pretty boys just don't cut it in looks.

Maybe these "ugly" guys don't feel like they are better than you so it is a plus to be with you even if they get shot down, or they are just smitten and do not see the real you, or don't care if they do.

That is my take why this happens. But the key to change.....look in the mirror.

Answer 6

Many guys who are "good looking" may be too shy to approach you...

Who makes eye contact first in these scenarios you explained? Do you smile a lot?

Perhaps the "guys that you attract" are misinformed or get the wrong idea from your actions to/toward them? It can be innocent enough, but perhaps they are overwhelmed by your seeming to be "approach".

Level with them, and tell them how you feel. you can learn to be tactful without hurting feelings by taking a communications class...or hanging with educated people and councilors who can steer you in the right direction.

Don't get me wrong! That is not to say that you have problems or are damaged goods, or anything like that. I am simply saying that it will take a little bit of time and patience to learn to deal with people directly without being rude, even when it may seem that there is no other solution; like to be "nasty" to them to get them to leave you alone...

Answer 7

i quote you:
"BUT, for some reason i attract only (please forgive me) but, very ugly people. i rarely, get noticed by guys that are my type. "

what i think is that you are considering "i attract only..." just for the situations where the attracted person let you know that attraction, by any means.

i think you are not paying attention enough to your environment.
it happens to a lots of good-looking women.
you are so self confident, and that as well as encouraged by "advice" :), tv, and every idiot "coaching" life, in fact, is considered selfish, egocentric, and extremely soberbe, specially when you DO have the motive to be self confident, because it's so evident.
as one said here, is your attitude, it is not something "happening" to you.

Answer 8

Maybe it's because of the socio-economic area where you spend most of your time. People with more money can spend money on their appearance and when people do that they may be more attractive. If you spend lots of time where people are lower middle class they may not be spending their attention and money on their apprearance. Try spending some time in a wealthy area and you may be surprised that handsome men will pay attention to you. Good luck.

Answer 9

Are you a very nice person? Perhaps you are being too nice and sending signals to the "ugly people".

Do you have a well established self-esteem? Are you talking to the attractive men? Are you coming on too strong? Are you acting desperate? just some thoughts... no offense.

Answer 10

Well, it is my opinion that beauty is only skin deep, and this goes for men as well as women, you may find that the best man for you is not the most attractive person. but that is just me, and i understand that to some people, looks are equally as important as personality, which is just fine. i would try this, just as an experiment-try posting a personal ad on the internet, without your picture, just with your personality traits. then see who you attract! you may find a hottie!! ( i hear e-harmony.com is really reliable)
Good luck!

Answer 11

I like your question, don't have an answer but understand the frustration. I am tall and when young all the short guys used to ask me to attended the dress up dances, social affairs, etc, months in advance. I never understood it and dont' think you will either.