My parents keep on urging me to get marry! How do i tell them I am not interested and I am not a lebso?

Question

They thought I have not get over my past relationship but the truth is I value my independence.

Answer 1

You need to tell them just that, you like to be independent. Tell them that you are an adult and capable of making your own decisions. Explain to them that when the right guy comes along you'll consider marriage but not anytime soon.

Answer 2

You didn't say how old you are; that would count for a lot.
If you are the only child or daughter or getting close to thirty it would seem natural that thoughts of marriage would be coming up.
My question to you why do you view marriage as giving up your independence? While I have obligations to my husband and children, we have always worked to keep up friendships and interests outside of each other. You can have a deep and trusting relationship and still have a life. Not all women become needy, scared, dependent, subservient, doting ninny's when they get married. If you thrive on your independence you will find someone who respects that, admires that, and trusts you. You will also find friends who are similar.
Lastly, tell you parents to keep their pressure to themselves and get another hobby.

Answer 3

I do know what you mean. Some people try to paint this picture that marriage is the only place to be happy. I happen to know that there are married people who long to be single again..Don't get me wrong, marriage is beautiful, but spend your single time being single. You have nothing to be ashamed of. Being single is a blessing. You have real time for yourself; time that you won't have to look back on and wish you had if you decide to get married later. You can let your parents know that you appreciate their concern for you, but they can let the bird they taught how to fly spread her own wings and do that. Marriage is not something to jump into irrationally. The best way to exert your independence is to do just that, be independent. There are a lot of people getting married that may not have given it real thought, and here you are getting it thrown in your face and you're turning it down. It sounds like your parents are pressuring you to be one of those people I just described. You don't have to feel that you are obligated to make life-changing decisions like that just because someone wants it for you. Besides, YOU will have to live with the decision to get married, not them.

Answer 4

Well, simply tell them, that when the right one comes along, you'll know....I got married when I was 28, simply because most of the girls I knew were either lesbians, married, or were still stuck on a former boyfriend, etc.
Be glad, you get to choose who you'll fall in love with, rather than marrying for the wrong reasons....if your parents can't understand that, then tell them to find you a nice rich senator....with a heart condition....that should buy you some time to leave the country.
Parents can be annoying, I know the feeling...but as well, tell them you're not a lesbian....you're a finicky shopper.
Good luck!

Answer 5

Marriage is not an end.
Tell your parents that to find just anyone to marry without love is like eating bread and water - there is no taste, no enjoyment, no benefit other than just living.
Your parents need to leave you alone. If you find the right person - things will happen...and you will become more you around them.. the 2 people truly become more than 2....

Answer 6

You should tell them that it takes time to get to know someone well enough to even want to marry them. They should already know that being married themselves. Independence is a wonderful thing but sometimes you need someones shoulder to cry on. I'd tell them that when you find someone who will be your EQUAL other half you'll let them be the first to know.

Answer 7

All you can do is be honest and tell them they need to ease off your own choices you are making. You are not ready for marriage and wantt to live your life a little bit. You value your independance at the moment. Say you wish for them to respect your choice.

Answer 8

Buy a photo frame, slip a picture of bride and groom from a magazine into it. Give it to your parents, and tell them until you want to make a decision like marriage, this will just have to tied them over.

They don't want your happiness, just a wedding with all the fixings. Parents don't push their children into things that are not good for them, or ready for.

Answer 9

Well how old are you first off ?? and second let noone not even your parents tell you what ta do when it comes to matters of the heart...If they love they will respect you and leave you to make your own choices ...They should love you even if your a lesbain or not.. tho you're not .. just tell them you haven't found the nice romantic guy yet..even if the romantic guy is not ur type.. if you tell them that .. they should back off and if they don't tell them ur moving away and never speaking of them again...

Answer 10

Tell them that you value your independence, and that when you find a man who values your independence as much as you do, you will marry him!

Answer 11

Just keep on reminding your parents how much they're saving by not having to pay for a wedding at the moment. Tell them you'll let them keep the money for their nest egg.