Answer this and please be honest?

Question

If you are a man, have you ever hit a woman? Why did you do it and did you regret it? My husband was in a rage the other night and he was really hurting me, so in the process of blocking his blows, I gave him a black eye.(By pure accident, I assure you.) But of course, that only made things worse for me. We are separated now, but it still doesn't erase all of those bad memories. Please tell me why these things happen? Don't men understand what this can do to a woman's soul? (and face for that matter.)

Answer 1

The bad memories will fade with time, but they'll never completely go away. It's a control issue, not because they really want to hurt you physically. They just have to prove that they are the ones over you. I have not divorced my husband...it has gotten better with time...I try not to encourage a "rage" and just don't fight with him unless I'm on the phone with him and know I won't see him for a while, otherwise... I've learned how to be a good wife in all areas and to not give him any reason to lash out at me. Now, if he's just hitting you for no reason such as coming home drunk and beating you up, than you should file for divorce and get some personal counseling. Actually I reccomend counseling regardless and remember to pray...

Answer 2

I have never hit a woman, one time we had an argument and I was hit by a woman, between her hitting and harsh criticisms, I almost hit her. I was fortunate to stop and to leave the situation. This happened about 10 years ago. To this day I think about it and it disgusts me that I almost hit a woman. Even though I did not, i regret the fact that I came so close to hitting her. I strongly believe that no man should lay a hand on a woman whether it be physical or emotional.
Do not feel bad about giving him a black eye, even though it was an accident. If I were you, I would not even consider going back to him. I am sure that he has begged to come back and said,
Oh baby, I am so sorry. I did not mean it, I won't do it again.
Never fall for this garbage.

Answer 3

Not a guy. I was hit once from my ex husband. The pain from the blow I got over.. it was the emotional pain and fear that I could not get over. We seperated, divorced and he married 2 more times after me and he hurt those women too. Why these things happen???, I cannot answer that. In my mind.. these guys that hit have some control issues or something that triggers out to make them strike. It may have been how they were raised by being beat or seeing their mother beat or could be they have some mental issues. The bad memories will be with you for a long time.. its been over 20 years for me since it happened and I still remember it like it was last week. Something that one cannot get out of their mind too easily. Good luck and sorry that this happened to you.

Answer 4

I have been through it all before and I have to say I think honestly, that dudes that hit women aren't men,. first of all. Second of all, they are nothing more than ball-less cowards who couldn't face a real man if their life depended on it. Next time some idiot hits you, you better knock his sorry *** to the ground and then call the cops to clean up the remains. The sorry fool hit you first, right? Too bad for him the only thing you could find to defend yourself with was a baseball bat or a cast iron skillet, huh? *sigh* LOL. Good luck honey!

Answer 5

I wish I would have fought back more when my ex was hitting me, but I was too scared and the one time that I did fight back, the police came and took us both to jail. The only solution is to get out and fast before you have permanent damage or lose your own eye or something. Men that beat women are mentally ill and they cannot quit. Even if they care all about you inside, and even truly love you--they can't control their anger on their own and they need mental help and some drugs for anger management.

Answer 6

While I hope its all over for you unless you have intense inner strength it may not be. Most men have been taught since birth never to hit a woman. If they raise a fist to you his socialization is so screwed up you cant fix it. You can hope counseling would but how much time, energy and resources do you want to devote to a guy who should know better? Best of luck...i think you know the answer to your question...its abnormal and you should never be subjected to it again for any reason. Good luck hon...be strong.

Answer 7

If that pus*y put his hands on you again whip up a cup of bleach and water always keep it handy under the sink and throw it in his face when he hit you again i did it and watch his face bubble and gasp for breath. He not going to die but it work. I been hit on stab in my neck, beat his daughter out of me at 5in a half mos pregnat i got shot at and all and no woman deserves that and here is a number you can call 1-800-799-safe and they really help.

Answer 8

Hopefully you are separated on the way to being divorced.

People who hit don't think about it, they work on anger and control. Both of those things leave no room for considering what the effect will be.

Answer 9

I think it was best you hit him on that night coz if you didn't he would always hit you eveytime he is on rage. Don't be guilty of what you have done. Consider it as self defense. He is not the right man for you. on't dwell on the past. Move on. Live your life to the fullest!

Answer 10

anger control issues... my dad used to abuse my mom and me and it was a horrible situation.. as soon as i could i moved out (my mom wouldn't leave him) and i had so many problems... i didn't like talking to my mom b/c i was so mad at her for not leaving and i really didn't want to talk to my dad... took me a long time to trust guys and realize they weren't all like that.. i am now happily married to the most amazing guy in the world.. who would NEVER hit me.. he doesn't even yell! don't go back to him... i can tell you that my dad and i are talking now, but he has never apologized and says that if i wasn't such a crappy daughter that he wouldn't have done that.. and he 'disciplined' me out of 'love' for me.. yeah. well i can guarantee that i will never 'love' my daughter that way!