Okay I have been married for 5 years. When we got married we just went to court house and got married. No big deal. Now when everyone else is getting married they actually have a wedding and now I regret not having my own wedding. Since we have only been married for 5 years it would be stupid to renew the vows because of course we didnt have any vows to begin with. We now have 2 girls ages 3 and 10 months. What should I do to get over this when I see other happy couples getting married and having an actual wedding???
2006-08-24 15:17:28 · 30 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Weddings are so overrated. You don't realize it until AFTER you've gone through it. Every time I drive by a bridal salon I wonder why the heck I put myself through all the stress and pressure and expense when I should of just eloped! Don't waste another minute on what you missed, you really didn't miss anything at all. Enjoy your life and when your 10 year anniversary rolls around, throw a big celebration!
2006-08-24 15:21:01 · answer #1 · answered by mJc 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, getting married at a courthouse is an actual wedding. Second, who says you can't renew your vows after only 5 years. Who is making these rules you live by? If you still feel that 5 years is too soon, then why not plan for a traditional wedding ceremony when you hit the 10 year mark. This way you can stop getting all jealous of the other women because you will get your "special day" too.
2006-08-24 22:22:02 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just realize when girls put so much into a wedding, they're probably not thinking about the marriage that follows. If you are truly happy in your marriage you should look back at your wedding fondly as the beginning of a great thing, no matter how it went down. If you want to renew vows, it should be because you want your husband to know how happy you are to be married to him and you would do it all over again....even if it had to be in a courthouse...
2006-08-25 00:01:02 · answer #3 · answered by gurugirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I have never been into ceremonys. Its mostly a show in my opinion and a waste of money. However I understand that a wedding may make you happier. But the main thing is... are you happy with your spouse? If you are.. that is the best thing in the world. But if you choose and feel that you would be happier with the hooplah of a ceremony by all means do it. Its not stupid to want those things. I guess most women dreams about a wedding with vows etc. So.. go for it. You only live once. Good luck.
2006-08-24 22:33:42 · answer #4 · answered by Peanut Butter 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeh I know..Me too! Sometimes..I've always thought that if we ever had enough money to blow I'd want to have some type of ceremony..but ya know what..now that we have kids...i'd rather use the money for something more important..or even take off with the hubby for a romantic getaway..or a family trip. You know..I wouldn't be thinking about having some huge wedding if i were away with the husband on some tropical Island..that would be the last thought in the mind. I've been to weddings where they were renewing their vows..and it just isn't the same. You know what I mean/!
2006-08-24 22:25:10 · answer #5 · answered by justwonderingwhatever 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait a few more years and see how many of these $15,000 weddings end up in divorce. It's not the wedding, but how happily you're married. Take a few years to save the amount of money a 15 minute ceremony costs and create a memory or make a major purchase that will be just as fulfilling and perhaps longer lasting. Talk to those who've had these power weddings and they'll tell you the stress involved.
2006-08-24 22:22:10 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Talk with your spouse about it. Do you both feel the same way? Work together on a mutual renewal & set a date weh to have a ceremony. It seems your qusetion hints at you are not happy. You need to explore why you are not. Is it really because you were just married in a court house or are ther other things at the root of unhappiness? Maybe you should also talk with clergy or whoever performs the weddings to help you through some questions.
2006-08-24 22:24:10 · answer #7 · answered by Counselor 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no time limit for a renewing of vows ceremony. You can do that anytime.... You could do it as a family celebration. Let the 2 children be in the "wedding" Of course you may not want to wear solid white, but a champagne color or Ivory would be beautiful expecially at dusk with candlelite. I would call it a Marriage Celebration or ReCommittment Celebration, not a wedding. Tell people not to give you gifts. if they want to give something, set up an account and let them give $$ to the girls' college funds....something like that or give it to a charity in you and hubbys name. It could be a lot of fun and your girls will think it cool when older and see their pics at your celebration.
2006-08-24 22:40:44 · answer #8 · answered by polly b 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go ahead and have the ceremony of your dreams. If you want a pretty dress, a big wedding then have it! Who cares if you've only been married for 5 years. The hardest thing to do is to stop caring what other people think. Do what makes your heart happy and most importantly don't invite those people to your wedding whose going to have negative things to say. Live life to the fullest and throw a wedding bash!
2006-08-24 22:29:49 · answer #9 · answered by piercedambition 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i guess just be happy for being lucky enough to be married with the man you love and have his kids. as long as you don't regret being married with him, i'm sure you can wait another 20 years or 45 to renew it if you think it's silly to have it this early. who knows if those other married people who had great weddings are really having a great marriage like yours. wedding days only lasts few hours, sure the memory lasts longer, but good marriage lasts longer than forever. at least when the time ( when you renew it) comes, it'll be right and perfect then.
2006-08-24 22:29:24 · answer #10 · answered by Mrs. JSV 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋