if u have been together for years and married. after everything is said and done and u agree to stay together. are u wrong for wondering. i know we can forgive the act but do u ever really get over it or forget it?
2006-08-24 15:15:54 · 15 answers · asked by chris b 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
If that would happen to me or in my relationship, it would screw up everything. It would be like being betrayed by the person you love and trust. If we were to stay together(which would be rare)...it would still bother me, and i wouldnt be all romantic to be honest. I would just feel as if im wasting my time being nice and stuff, and then have them shattered by her cheating on me.
-Edward
2006-08-24 15:21:42 · answer #1 · answered by cursedconcept 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i guess i can answer this question.
You can never get over iit or forget it.
If something has happened, you can never pretend nothing has happened at all.
If something has happen, it will definitely leave an impact of you.
I broke up a few months back and up till now i still have these memories going through my head.
Yup.
Its hard to forget. And get over it.
But you still have to move on with life, i guess.
Life's like that.
2006-08-24 15:23:01 · answer #2 · answered by missjolintan 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Chris, my heart goes out to you. I was married for 25 years and my husband was a philanderer. I have been happily away from him for two years and yes, I am so over it. I am looking at myself in a new light. He always, always made me feel "less than". If you aren't over it (or if you are the philandering spouse) and you have decided to stay together, please see a marriage counselor. If you decide to split at sometime in the future, please see a marriage counselor. Seriously. I started out hateful and vindictive. Now I just wish him and the now fiance' the best. Good luck to both of you.
2006-08-24 15:27:12 · answer #3 · answered by swarr2001 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you decide to stay together when a spouse has been unfaithful I think it would be a good idea to get a few sessions with a marriage counselor.
They will help you to get past this break in your marriage.
2006-08-24 15:20:17 · answer #4 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you forgave him and stayed with him,you should get over it! If you still wonder about it,then you should probably not be with him because I'm sure you are going to have problems with trust and your going to bring it up if a fight ever occurs
2006-08-24 15:26:32 · answer #5 · answered by Destiny 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my case, after I came to the realization that it would've happened despite anything I could've done. It wasn't my fault and it was his flaw. He would've done it whether it was me he was doing it to or someone else. So while I I'll never forget it I'm over it to the umpteenth degree.
2006-08-24 15:27:52 · answer #6 · answered by crazygreeniis 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You never forget it because you're questioning every move that he/she makes. Like the old saying goes "you can forgive but you never forget."
2006-08-24 15:24:07 · answer #7 · answered by sexxme722 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I could get over the act itself, but I would never be able to trust again...so it would have to end unless hes with me 24-7...lol and even I dont want that!
2006-08-24 15:21:20 · answer #8 · answered by J<3R 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some do, I did not.
I am divorcing after 23 years. Life's too short to have to spend any time second-guessing it.
2006-08-24 15:36:10 · answer #9 · answered by szydkids 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you probably won't forget. But like all memories, it will grow weaker with time, unless there's something around to constantly remind you of it.
2006-08-24 15:20:32 · answer #10 · answered by Catspaw 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋