my son died. I have no peace,i wish i was dead!?

Answer 1

Feelings such as these can be entirely normal when you are grieving a loss as big as this one. I would suggest that, if you haven't done so already, you get some books on the grief process and what to expect. You may also want to see if there is a chapter of Compassionate Friends in your area--this is a support group for people who have lost children. I am so sorry.

Answer 2

My hearth goes out to you. I won't pretend to understand what you are going through because it hasn't happened to me, but you must be experiencing the worst pain that a human being can feel.

Was the death of your son expected (was he sick)? Was it an accident? Did he die of his own hand? How old was he? I ask these questions not to burden you further, but to try to look for a light at the end of the dark tunnel you are in.

But, what am I saying....of course there's no light for you to see! Although, there are prescription drugs that will lessen the pain to a tolerable level to allow you to keep your head above water during this awful time. There's counseling or very good friends to lend you an ear so you can relive your memories, express your feelings of loss, of anger because he left you behind, maybe some feelings of guilt for having been unable to prevent his death (you're only human after all).

You don't mention if you have other family, but if you do they must still need you. Now more than ever before. You will never be the same as before, but time will heal the wrenching pain that's overshadowing your whole outlook on life. Maybe not fast enough, and leaving a huge scar, but life will be kind again...someday. Maybe a long time down the road.

Please seek help. No human being should be expected to survive and overcome the loss of a child without professional support.

Answer 3

Don't wish you were dead!! Your son would want you to get on with your life and have peace and be happy again! If ur married then take your wife/ husbon out to dinner and have a great night...if ur not married then go to a club and meet someone really nice...just remember your son LOVES you and WANTS YOU TO BE HAPPY!! good luck!!

Answer 4

1. Allow yourself to grieve. 2. Allow friends/family to help you, support you. 3. If your son has been gone more than a year, consider counseling. Even if shorter time and you're in that much pain, counseling can be a saving thing. 4. In tough times in my life, if I didn't have faith in God, I don't think I could have gone on. Try going to church, even if you don't think it will help. 5. Know that you'll never forget him, never stop hurting totally, but that you will feel better eventually.
God bless you and give you peace and comfort.

Answer 5

I wish I knew the words to say, that would help you, God will get you through this, If he brings you to it, he will take you through it, pray, and cry, tears are for a reason, they help us to heal. I can`t say I know what your going through, But I pray that you start to heal soon, and that you can have happy memories of your son, so you can laugh, and heal, and remember the time you did have him. you can not bring him back by dieing yourself, and you would only hurt others that love you, Talk about your feelings to someone close to you,let them share in your pain. God bless you.

Answer 6

I am very sorry to hear of your lost, that your son wants from you is that you are happy and you pray for him.......

Prayers will give you peace and meaning in life

Answer 7

That would dishonor his life. You will always feel grief and loss, but you will come to a time where you balance your loss with memories of better days. Think of the day when you will rejoin him.

Answer 8

Why did your son die?
How old was he?
How was your relationship?
Was he your buddy?

I will be waiting for your repsonse.

Answer 9

Think of it positively!Find someone to talk to and express your feeling!